violeta09 Posted April 23, 2009 Share Posted April 23, 2009 I had afriend I knew through work. He was a delivery person. I knew him for 12 yrs. He wasn't happy in his marriage and I wasn't either. We had so much chemistry it was scary. A yr ago we took it to the next level. At first it was physical then it became more. He ignited my interior like it hadn't been for so long. I fell real hard. He told me he loved me and if it weren't for his kids, he would be with me. Suddenly the place I worked for closed down. Something happened to him after that and it all changed. We used to have Wed. at the store. That was my alone day He would spend his lunch hour with me. We didn't have contact again for a few months. When we started it he was different. He had changed sexually as well. No eye contact, hardly any kissing and he stopped doing other things. Finally I tried to talk about it but he wouldn't. Everything has always been his way. I do all the giving and I don't get much. 14 days ago I told him if we can't even dicuss something that hurts me so deeply then we should part company. No response as of yet. I think he had enough of me and i know I had enough. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Are you still married? Honestly, it is for the best that he has not responded to you. either heal your marriage or end your marriage and then find someone who isn't married. Link to post Share on other sites
Author violeta09 Posted April 25, 2009 Author Share Posted April 25, 2009 I am working very hard on healing the relationship with my husband. We are both striving to get back some of what was lost over the years. Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 25, 2009 Share Posted April 25, 2009 Does your husband know the truth? If you haven't told him about your affair, there is no way your marriage will turn out the best it can. How can it, based on lies? Link to post Share on other sites
Author violeta09 Posted April 25, 2009 Author Share Posted April 25, 2009 my husband and I were living in the same house more like friends. I told him about this guy. We both think working on the marriage is the thing to do. Link to post Share on other sites
DNU1 Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 my husband and I were living in the same house more like friends. I told him about this guy. We both think working on the marriage is the thing to do. Sounds familiar... Get Harley's book "surviving an affair" and "his needs, her needs" and seriously consider coming clean with your hubby (ie. TELL HIM!) When he finds out, and he will find out, it will be devestating to him. Was to me...TWO times! Ick. Our counselor made a great point to my wife the other day...as great as the affair felt, as high as it made you the WS feel...that's just how low your BS felt upon finding out! My wife almost cried when counselor said that. And DDay for us was five months ago! If you really love him and want the marriage to work, tell him what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
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