Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 almost lost it today.. He was after me all day... was horny like crazy.. he texted me almost non stop.. saying how much I was driving him crazy... blablabla... He was at my office quite often.. making all sorts of 'faces' because people are walking around.. I'm afraid someone will catch him making those stupid faces.. (sticking his tongue out as if he was licking me, stuff like that.. staring at my boobs... ) He gave me a ride after work.. and then told me he was going insane with me around all the time.. He admitted that when he feels like that.. he almost wants to give up everything... family, wife, etc.. Gosh.. he moved to my building (same floor) a few months ago.. and now I'm getting worried he will start to show signs.. of us .. or should I say.. of him being too 'involved'... I told him today that he needs to back off.. I don't want people around to know what's going on.. He said 'we're allowed to talk'... but sometimes he acts like a horny 18 yr old... He swore that no one has mentioned anything to him.. (He's high management so they have to be careful what they say.. but still) We didn't have sex today... that was his 'punishment' No question.. just need to vent.. Or maybe ... yes.. any other OW working with their MM... Are you encountering any problems? Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Or maybe ... yes.. any other OW working with their MM... Are you encountering any problems? I want to ask you Lizzie, if you are starting to fall for this man? I know its not your policy to allow your heart to get involved, but... I can't help but wonder... when you say you 'almost lost it today'... what do you mean? (your heart or your temper?!) Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lizzie, people aren't stupid and I'm SURE they've noticed him checking you out at work. He's acting like a pig..Sorry, you may enjoy that - Having a man lust after you, licking his chops and oozing sexual tension towards you, but it's just wrong in that work environment. You two are going to get busted sooner or later..If not at work, then from his wife or someone else. AND, he moved closer to where you live? Dangerous..And yes, you should be worried. Dump him before this turns into something dramatic and painful for many. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 He swore that no one has mentioned anything to him.. (He's high management so they have to be careful what they say.. but still) Seriously, if someone notices, they aren't going to tell him! They're going to gossip about it and it'll become watercooler chat. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 I want to ask you Lizzie, if you are starting to fall for this man? I know its not your policy to allow your heart to get involved, but... I can't help but wonder... when you say you 'almost lost it today'... what do you mean? (your heart or your temper?!) No.. no.. I'm not in love with him.. I like him.. he's funny.. but I'm sooo not in love with him.. and he knows it.. probably why it drives him crazy. HE almost lost it today. .not me.. he said that when he 'misses' me that much.. he's just about to give up on everything.. and it makes him 'not care' even about his job. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lizzie, people aren't stupid and I'm SURE they've noticed him checking you out at work. He's acting like a pig..Sorry, you may enjoy that - Having a man lust after you, licking his chops and oozing sexual tension towards you, but it's just wrong in that work environment. You two are going to get busted sooner or later..If not at work, then from his wife or someone else. AND, he moved closer to where you live? Dangerous..And yes, you should be worried. Dump him before this turns into something dramatic and painful for many. That's what I kept telling him today.. He was a little too much around me today.. he even punch (lightly) the door of my office cause he was frustrated with me.. And no.. I'm not enjoying that one second... I told him he needs to stop his 'childish' behaviour.. And you're right, they won't tell him anything, unless it's the big boss... cause there is only one person higher than him.. he's the second highest. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lizzie, people aren't stupid and I'm SURE they've noticed him checking you out at work. He's acting like a pig..Sorry, you may enjoy that - Having a man lust after you, licking his chops and oozing sexual tension towards you, but it's just wrong in that work environment. You two are going to get busted sooner or later..If not at work, then from his wife or someone else. AND, he moved closer to where you live? Dangerous..And yes, you should be worried. Dump him before this turns into something dramatic and painful for many. No no.. he didn't move closer to where I live.. he moved to my building at work.. But soon, I'm moving to his town.. I bought a condo there.. I just hope he won't be around my place too much.. or else I'll have to put an end to this. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Men are such a nuisance Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Men are such a nuisance I hear you.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 LOL, avatar change Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Yep.. don't you find it boring to always have the same avatar.. eventhough you're quite cute on your little 'bicyclette'. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Well, my bald head doesn't quite have the draw of your "girls" And, besides, I'm a guy. "Cheers" (meaning creature of habit)..... Not to mention that pouty little boy reflects my personality perfectly Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Seriously, if he is going to act like that at work with some idea that no one will notice then I say let him crash and burn. Someone at work will likely file a complaint, or someone will call his wife. That might be the only way he will get the message. Sometimes you just have to let a man learn the hard way. Just make sure you are covered in this. If he crashes, don't let him take you down with him. It sounds mercenary, but when it comes right down to it - aren't most things when you strip away the niceties? As for his behavior - all the licking and faces, doesn't that sort of turn you off? If a man was doing that to me, I think it would be exciting for about a second, and then a turn off the rest of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lizzie, The way I see it this is a recipe for disaster!! Both at the workplace and your home environment which is even worse IMO. This is going to explode. I can feel it. I know that you don't like drama so take steps to stop this before it gets way out of hand. What worries me most is his moving in next-door to you! That would make me uneasy if not downright MAD! And I agree with the others. A man of his maturity, age-wise at least, should know how to control his urges. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lizzie, The way I see it this is a recipe for disaster!! Both at the workplace and your home environment which is even worse IMO. This is going to explode. I can feel it. I know that you don't like drama so take steps to stop this before it gets way out of hand. What worries me most is his moving in next-door to you! That would make me uneasy if not downright MAD! And I agree with the others. A man of his maturity, age-wise at least, should know how to control his urges. He's not quite 'next door' we're on the same floor but I can't see his office from mine.. This morning, he's quiet .. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Seriously, if he is going to act like that at work with some idea that no one will notice then I say let him crash and burn. Someone at work will likely file a complaint, or someone will call his wife. That might be the only way he will get the message. Sometimes you just have to let a man learn the hard way. Just make sure you are covered in this. If he crashes, don't let him take you down with him. It sounds mercenary, but when it comes right down to it - aren't most things when you strip away the niceties? As for his behavior - all the licking and faces, doesn't that sort of turn you off? If a man was doing that to me, I think it would be exciting for about a second, and then a turn off the rest of the time. I have no problem at work.. and I know that there is no danger for either of us to lose our jobs.. and I very much doubt that anyone would call his wife.. here at work, we don,t know anyone's SO.. we don't mix personal life and work life.. What concerns me most is his 'depressed', desperate 'behaviour'.. makes me mad.. and the licking,.. the staring at my breasts.. the 'drooling' does turn me off.. not even exciting.. but methink he sees other men around me and it makes him terribly jealous.. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 He's not quite 'next door' we're on the same floor but I can't see his office from mine.. This morning, he's quiet .. Oh, you meant his office! I thought you meant he moved into an apartment next to yours! Now, that would have been a huge problem! Anyway, you are a big girl and I am sure you'll handle this Cassanova wonderfully! What concerns me most is his 'depressed', desperate 'behaviour'.. makes me mad.. and the licking,.. the staring at my breasts.. the 'drooling' does turn me off.. Yup, a definite turn off! Why can't these morons see that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 He just sent me an IM at work.. saying sorry for being such a jerk yesterday.. he said that the wrong 'head' took over yesterday... I don't see him like that very often.. it happened only a few times.. he usually can control his sexual pulses much better.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Negative attention is attention. Think of how males are socialized Link to post Share on other sites
Athena Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 methink he sees other men around me and it makes him terribly jealous.. Lol, if only he knew about all your other MM!! What would he do then?! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lizzie60 Posted April 24, 2009 Author Share Posted April 24, 2009 Lol, if only he knew about all your other MM!! What would he do then?! Exactly... He has no clue about my lifestyle.. and it's best like that.. since we work together.. but he knows about my occasional flings... (especially on vacation)... he knows I have a weakness for much younger guys.. (he's 8 yeasrs younger himself).. the last time I was down south, he asked me if I had sex.. I said no.. I thought it's not always good to tell him the truth.. especially when it's not really his business. Link to post Share on other sites
Stepone Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Sweet mother of Mary! Can I pack my bags and come live in your avatar... Link to post Share on other sites
Reggie Posted April 24, 2009 Share Posted April 24, 2009 Same here. I must emit phermones. It's tough to get work done with all the women in my office constantly swooning and making lewd gestures. I had to punish a few , as well, by putting a bag over my head.:bunny: It ain't easy being this desirable. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 Sweet mother of Mary! Can I pack my bags and come live in your avatar... i'm sure Lizzie would approve... given you pay her bill when you leave. welcome to the world of Lizzie. on topic, Lizzie - if you don't show him where the boundary is and stick to it, you will both be the topic of conversation in your building, the chatter behind your back could become really ugly. Link to post Share on other sites
jj33 Posted April 30, 2009 Share Posted April 30, 2009 Hey Lizzie. Despite the fact that its been over for a long time I STILL have to talk xMM down from time to time when he gets too nostalgic. You did just the right thing - Im sure he wont want to go another day without sex... Link to post Share on other sites
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