I Have A Crush

[CollegeGuy22]

On my best friend. Here's what I can tell you. Im a dude, she's a girl. We are both in college.

 

Positives:

 

-We get along very well.

-We tell each other secrets,

-Pay each other surprise vists

-Stop by at each others rooms "just to talk"

-Hug, almost every time we see

-Accepts that we have different lifestyles (I dont drink she does, she accepts that, for instance)

-She makes, what i perceive has a huge problem, she is able to talk me into understanding its insignificance

-I am filled with utter happiness, and at complete peace when I talk to her

 

Negatives:

 

-She drinks. A lot. I accept it, but I dont like how much she drinks. She knows this, and knows that I accept it

-She is promiscuous. Again, my feelings reflect what I think about the alcohol.

-She has very low self confidence, despite being beautiful and very bright. We've talked about this.

The reason I bring up the negatives, is because its not like I think she is "perfect" or anything like that.

 

My question is, should I tell her my feelings?

 

 

Reasons I should tell her:

 

On one hand, Im the kind of person who usually says whats on my mind. Also, I feel that with someone like her, who has low confidence, I want to tell her how awesome, for lack of a better word, I think she is. She is also studying abroad next year, and as bad as this sounds, who knows if I will ever see her again. Its a dangerous world.

 

Reasons I should not tell her:

 

On the other hand, I dont want to ruin our friendship. She is my favorite person. Ever. I may never get what we have now, back. I also think that she would lose a good friend too, and that I am doing this for selfish reasons. At the very least, before she departs for abroad, I am going to tell her I think she is just fantastic, and thank her for being a great friend.

 

 

Any and all thoughts are welcome, thank you!

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I don't have the right answer for your problem, but I think that if you do tell her how you feel, you could end up only having a relationship that only lasts a year. But it is about being happy right? If you don't tell her, you'll probably regret letting her go when she goes abroad to study.

 

If I put myself in your position, I think I will at least be honest with my feelings. Whether they will accept me in the end or not, I know that by opening myself up, at least I can be honest to myself as well.