Lets be honest...

[PinkRibbon]

Ok honesty time. We all would like a second chance and we all wish, hope, pray, drink and go NC in the hopes we will get a second chance with our "true love".

 

Honesty is we won't get a second chance. The people that dumped us couldn't care less about us or our feelings. We can go NC and all that does is make it easier on them and us to throw us away.

 

Has anyone really really had a second chance here??

 

I know I won't get one but then again a second chance for what??? I didn't do anything wrong. I am not the one that left the relationship. I didn't run. I am still here. So why do I need the second chance maybe he does?

 

Which will never happen. He could care less. If he cared he would have not broken up and stayed gone so long.

[Treasa]

Yes, I had a second chance with my current boyfriend. He broke up with me. However, he ended up regretting it and we'll be celebrating our five year anniversary next month.

 

It took a lot of work on both our parts, but we've greatly improved a lot of aspects of our relationship.

 

Other men I'm GLAD I never got a second chance with, because I eventually realized they were a-holes.

[paperchase]

Ok honesty time. We all would like a second chance and we all wish, hope, pray, drink and go NC in the hopes we will get a second chance with our "true love".

 

Honesty is we won't get a second chance. The people that dumped us couldn't care less about us or our feelings. We can go NC and all that does is make it easier on them and us to throw us away.

 

Has anyone really really had a second chance here??

 

I know I won't get one but then again a second chance for what??? I didn't do anything wrong. I am not the one that left the relationship. I didn't run. I am still here. So why do I need the second chance maybe he does?

 

Which will never happen. He could care less. If he cared he would have not broken up and stayed gone so long.

 

Appreciate the candor. You are right, most people hope NC creates a second chance no matter how much people say use it to heal and move on. Regardless of how it's used, it helps you heal. If you go NC and hear nothing, you know it's time to move on and you've jump started the process by creating some space. It's really a win win unless you spend the entire time you are NC waiting for that phone call.

 

And you are right, most of our ex's probably appreciate the NC. They want to move on and not be saddled with guilt or reminders of what they did wrong. But if they want to move on what are you going to do other than NC? Think about it.

 

You ask whether people have received a second chance. Of course they have. It happens. Not very much and often not with any long term success but it happens. I'm currently on a 3rd chance. The 2nd chance only lasted a month then I got dumped. My math is fuzzy based on a whole bunch of factors but about 3 months after getting dumped my ex is back in love with me again, or so she says. We'll see.

 

Now when I think about a second chance I think about the terms under which I want one. I definitely don't want it to come from begging or pleading. That won't last. I definitely don't want it to come from a position of weakness. Ideally, your ex should recongnize that they made a mistake and do whatever it takes to fix things. Pure and simple. So you are right that they are the ones that need to seek a second chance. It's the only way it has even a remote chance of working.

 

And again, the chance of it working is probably more remote than the chance of them coming back in the first place because there is always a reason why two people break up and that reason tends to be a recurring one unless it can truly be addressed.

[sotired]

My boyfriend dumped me for no real reason. I think it was a combination of financial issues, housing issues and hanging out with his idiot 18 year old male friends.

 

I did the whole clingy thing for about a month and then just got over it. Of course as soon as he found out I was going out of town to hang out with some male friends he called and begged for a second chance.

 

We've been back together almost 2 years now. Part of me regrets taking him back. He did a lot of hurtful things when we broke up including dating a girl a week after dumping me and posting on his myspace how much he loved her...when it took him over a year to say it to me. I still think about her all the time and wonder why he picked her over me at the time. I do hold a lot against him even though he's done a complete 180 and is the most perfect boyfriend you can imagine now.....I just can't fully forgive him for what he's done.

 

I love him...but if I could change the past...I'd never have taken him back. Too much baggage and negative feelings. I prayed and begged for a second chance.....I got it...so just be careful what you wish for. Because it sucks to have someone completely 100% devoted to you and not be able to forgive how he treated you in the past.

[EmperorR]

That's the beautiful part of nc, you do nothing you can't screw up anything.

 

And exes do want you as a friend for emotional and selfish reasons. Look I did nc with my ex fiancé, at first of was to get her back then after taking off the goggles and seeing why would I want a second chance with someone who cheated on me dumped me and hopped right back into a relationship with someone else, nc then converted into healing when she tried to contact me I got angry at her for bothering me been 8 months never have looked back.

 

 

Again this time I'm doing nc from the beginning to heal myself, will I get a second chance doubtful as this girl wants someone who likes to drink and smoke and party go out etc., of course I think about a second chance and want her back but I know the odds of it happening is like winning the lottery, I'm mature she's immature, and plus I'd always have in my mind no fit ever treated her with respect and loved her like I did an she tossed me aside because she thinks she can do better and that will always be engraved in my mind. I'm not a plan b when your so called "perfect drunk bastard" isn't what you think it is.

[Dexter Morgan]

Ok honesty time. We all would like a second chance and we all wish, hope, pray, drink and go NC in the hopes we will get a second chance with our "true love".

 

Honesty is we won't get a second chance. The people that dumped us couldn't care less about us or our feelings.

 

Well assuming you'd need a "2nd chance" insinuates that you did something to cause them to "dump" you.

 

So making it sound as if the dumper in these situations are heartless beings is unfounded.

 

 

 

I know I won't get one but then again a second chance for what??? I didn't do anything wrong. I am not the one that left the relationship. I didn't run. I am still here. So why do I need the second chance maybe he does?

 

Then saying it would be a "2nd chance" doesn't apply here. This would assume they simply lost interest and didn't want the R any longer.

 

In this scenario I can see saying that the dumper could care less about your feelings.

 

 

Which will never happen. He could care less. If he cared he would have not broken up and stayed gone so long.

 

If I may ask, what is his reason, if any, for leaving?

[CaliGuy]

There are some tidbits I have learned about second chances. These are off the top of my head and may not be complete...

 

1. The more you want a second chance, the less likely are you are to get it.

2. The less you want a second chance, the more likely it will happen. (but that's no guarantee).

3. The less you want a second chance, the less likely when it does happen that you'll want your ex.

4. The sooner you move on from your ex, the sooner you'll meet someone else making a second chance with your ex moot (because you'll have someone better).

 

This leads me to the "whys??"

 

1. Why would you want a second chance with someone who has already taken you for granted?

2. Why would you want to be with someone whom you make a "priority" but only sees you as an "option"??

3. Why would you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you nor sees any value in you?

4. Why would waste your emotional energy scheming, chasing or otherwise trying to plot a way to win someone back, especially if they are in the arms of another?

 

See my point here? I mean I hate to be the one trying to drown the hopes of those with love lost, but it's simply a matter of "Do you love and respect yourself?" You're wasting so much emotional energy on a second chance but your ex isn't sitting around pining and wasting emotional energy on you. They are out living their lives and having fun (likely with someone new) while you (we) mope around and let life pass us by.

 

It's extremely difficult to get over someone you love. But until you do, the one that you were meant to be with can NEVER come into your life.

 

Cheers!

[loser101]

 

We've been back together almost 2 years now. Part of me regrets taking him back. He did a lot of hurtful things when we broke up including dating a girl a week after dumping me and posting on his myspace how much he loved her...when it took him over a year to say it to me. I still think about her all the time and wonder why he picked her over me at the time. I do hold a lot against him even though he's done a complete 180 and is the most perfect boyfriend you can imagine now.....I just can't fully forgive him for what he's done.

 

rebound? jumping into something new fast is the classic sign

[loser101]

There are some tidbits I have learned about second chances. These are off the top of my head and may not be complete...

 

1. The more you want a second chance, the less likely are you are to get it.

2. The less you want a second chance, the more likely it will happen. (but that's no guarantee).

3. The less you want a second chance, the less likely when it does happen that you'll want your ex.

4. The sooner you move on from your ex, the sooner you'll meet someone else making a second chance with your ex moot (because you'll have someone better).

 

This leads me to the "whys??"

 

1. Why would you want a second chance with someone who has already taken you for granted?

2. Why would you want to be with someone whom you make a "priority" but only sees you as an "option"??

3. Why would you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you nor sees any value in you?

4. Why would waste your emotional energy scheming, chasing or otherwise trying to plot a way to win someone back, especially if they are in the arms of another?

 

See my point here? I mean I hate to be the one trying to drown the hopes of those with love lost, but it's simply a matter of "Do you love and respect yourself?" You're wasting so much emotional energy on a second chance but your ex isn't sitting around pining and wasting emotional energy on you. They are out living their lives and having fun (likely with someone new) while you (we) mope around and let life pass us by.

 

It's extremely difficult to get over someone you love. But until you do, the one that you were meant to be with can NEVER come into your life.

 

Cheers!

 

I think your posts help a lot of people who need a perspective. Aren't you worried sometimes though that your ego gets in the way? Surely a lot depends on why a break-up happened in the first place. It's necessary to have healthy boundaries but you must have the right reasons to make relationship decisions - rather than just hurt pride.

[sotired]

 

See my point here? I mean I hate to be the one trying to drown the hopes of those with love lost, but it's simply a matter of "Do you love and respect yourself?" You're wasting so much emotional energy on a second chance but your ex isn't sitting around pining and wasting emotional energy on you. They are out living their lives and having fun (likely with someone new) while you (we) mope around and let life pass us by.

 

 

Exactly. That is what my bf did. He was out partying every night and going home with his new girlfriend. I was the one sitting at home crying and contemplating suicide....He has no remorse and no regrets. We were broken up and I suddenly didn't matter to him at all. That is the part that hurts the most, to feel like you are suddenly worthless to someone. But if they take you back...you know how they'll treat you if you break up again...It really isn't worth the heartache. I'll never care for anyone the way I loved him....I love him now, but it's different. I'll never let a man affect me that much ever again.

[PinkRibbon]

Well assuming you'd need a "2nd chance" insinuates that you did something to cause them to "dump" you.

 

So making it sound as if the dumper in these situations are heartless beings is unfounded.

 

 

 

 

 

Then saying it would be a "2nd chance" doesn't apply here. This would assume they simply lost interest and didn't want the R any longer.

 

In this scenario I can see saying that the dumper could care less about your feelings.

 

 

 

 

If I may ask, what is his reason, if any, for leaving?

 

He left because we had an argument. We have been dating a year and it was getting deep. We were talking future stuff, how we will be old together and he was really becoming a part of my tenagers life more than any other person. So he had a house with his ex girlfriend which he bought but she is living there until her daughter in high school graduates. Rent free---nada---nothing. So my part of the argument was I can not make a future until you shut that door. Sell the house, get your money do whatever just be done with it. Give the money away, give her the house I don't care I just want us. So Jan. they talked and were going to sell in March, 1st March they talked and would sell and April 11th he hasn't even talked to her about it and if they sold they sold and if not oh well. Now she make 100K a year and owns another home so she is not pitiful or destitute. She has means. So we argued on the 11th because I told him I believed he was working on this and find out he hasn't done a thing. I trusted him. I asked him to just talk to me and tell me is going on. No he is through.

 

So the argument lasted about 30 mins to an hour and he dumped me. Plain and simple. Brought all my items back to my house, gave his stuff back, cried, begged and pleaded. He said no he is done, finished because of this thing of talking about the house. Literally day before he loved me and life with me was heaven then the next gone...poof.

 

I haven't heard from him but once asking about some things I had in his garage. I sent him and email telling him how great he was but I won't email or text anymore because the silence hurts and he knows where I am if he wants to talk or try and make this work.

 

BUUTTTTTT come to find out this Wednesday from some digging on my mothers part. He signed the house over to her free and clear before we met. So she owes him money for it and he can't sell because it is not in his name! She has him by the small one. He can't do anything about it. She is there in his life as long as she wants. All this and all he had to do was tell me the truth! He even made out like they still owned it together when the deed says it is all in her name. Why throw us away?

[PinkRibbon]

I don't know if I want a second chance. I miss the companionship and the cute things he did but he dropped me like a hot rock and I believed he truly cared and could see us together forever. I don't think I could ever forget or forgive.

 

Better now than later I guess.

[Dexter Morgan]

I don't know if I want a second chance. I miss the companionship and the cute things he did but he dropped me like a hot rock and I believed he truly cared and could see us together forever. I don't think I could ever forget or forgive.

 

Better now than later I guess.

 

here is the thing, he left over a 30 minute argument. and that wouldn't be the last argument you ever had. so if you did get back with him, it would seem that you better not ever have an argument. Otherwise he'd probably see it as an excuse to leave, or even be unfaithful...who knows.

 

I agree you shouldn't want a "2nd chance".

[EmperorR]

There are some tidbits I have learned about second chances. These are off the top of my head and may not be complete...

 

1. The more you want a second chance, the less likely are you are to get it.

2. The less you want a second chance, the more likely it will happen. (but that's no guarantee).

3. The less you want a second chance, the less likely when it does happen that you'll want your ex.

4. The sooner you move on from your ex, the sooner you'll meet someone else making a second chance with your ex moot (because you'll have someone better).

 

This leads me to the "whys??"

 

1. Why would you want a second chance with someone who has already taken you for granted?

2. Why would you want to be with someone whom you make a "priority" but only sees you as an "option"??

3. Why would you want to be with someone who clearly doesn't want to be with you nor sees any value in you?

4. Why would waste your emotional energy scheming, chasing or otherwise trying to plot a way to win someone back, especially if they are in the arms of another?

 

See my point here? I mean I hate to be the one trying to drown the hopes of those with love lost, but it's simply a matter of "Do you love and respect yourself?" You're wasting so much emotional energy on a second chance but your ex isn't sitting around pining and wasting emotional energy on you. They are out living their lives and having fun (likely with someone new) while you (we) mope around and let life pass us by.

 

It's extremely difficult to get over someone you love. But until you do, the one that you were meant to be with can NEVER come into your life.

 

Cheers!

 

I agree 100%, I fully remember when my ex fiance left me and I was depressed for months feeling like crap, while she was out with her new boy toy a week later, posting pictures on facebook enjoying life. But you know what seeing that made me get angry and got me to the point why do I want someone like this, and said screw her cut her off, and it allowed me to heal move on date again.

 

This time I got dumped, cut her off the first day, and I'm never going back, I refuse to be downgraded to a friend, Dammit I'm good enough for anyone on this earth, if they don't think so their lost.

[miss-jem-bishop]

Everything happens for a reason and at the end of it you will see that reason, right now you wont see it and it may seem hard but just wait.. one day youu will see!

 

and think bout it... at the end of the day one of ethier will happen

* you will realize he's not worth it ... or

* he will realize you are worth it

 

Just keep smiling =) x

[foxh1234]

Ok honesty time. We all would like a second chance and we all wish, hope, pray, drink and go NC in the hopes we will get a second chance with our "true love".

 

Honesty is we won't get a second chance. The people that dumped us couldn't care less about us or our feelings. We can go NC and all that does is make it easier on them and us to throw us away.

 

Has anyone really really had a second chance here??

 

I know I won't get one but then again a second chance for what??? I didn't do anything wrong. I am not the one that left the relationship. I didn't run. I am still here. So why do I need the second chance maybe he does?

 

Which will never happen. He could care less. If he cared he would have not broken up and stayed gone so long.

 

Hi, my ex cheated on me and then left me to go be with the other guy. I felt bad for a long time and was just starting to get better when she came back wanting a second chance and professing her love for me. I never took her back. Too much had happened and I have too much self respect to let her back in to my life. I guess what I'm trying to say is I think alot of us want a second chance on the surface but I think most of us know it would not work and would never be the same.

It's so true what people say about ex's, they dump us and then when we have gotten over them they want back. Most of the time it's too late by then, at least it was for me. I have not seen her for a long time and really don't want to. I have reached the place I have been looking for all this time. I have reached indifference and it is wonderful. I wish all the great people on here find the same soon. The last year or so has been brutal.

[Miguelrg]

My ex give me the whole ' i don't love you the way you love me' thing so i doubt she is coming back, its been 2 1/2 months since the break-up and 17 days no contact, i'm starting to feel more myself but i still think i'd take her back if she really really wanted me back, i can't imagine caring in 6 months though, or should i say i don't want to care.

 

I wish she did come back once i've moved on though even if its just for the confidence boost that i have the option this time, is that sad?

[CaliGuy]

I think your posts help a lot of people who need a perspective. Aren't you worried sometimes though that your ego gets in the way? Surely a lot depends on why a break-up happened in the first place. It's necessary to have healthy boundaries but you must have the right reasons to make relationship decisions - rather than just hurt pride.

 

Why do you suppose most people leave? This has nothing to do with ego, just from what I have gathered by the thousands of posts I have read here.

 

Most of the time people leave because they lost interest in you (us) and gained a lot of interest in someone else. In that case, I highly suggest moving on with your life.

 

Because in my opinion if someone can walk away that easily, they never truly loved you.

[CaliGuy]

I agree 100%, I fully remember when my ex fiance left me and I was depressed for months feeling like crap, while she was out with her new boy toy a week later, posting pictures on facebook enjoying life. But you know what seeing that made me get angry and got me to the point why do I want someone like this, and said screw her cut her off, and it allowed me to heal move on date again.

 

This time I got dumped, cut her off the first day, and I'm never going back, I refuse to be downgraded to a friend, Dammit I'm good enough for anyone on this earth, if they don't think so their lost.

 

There you go dude, the right attitude. If they can drop you so easily and move on having a happy, fun life with someone else, did they ever really love you?

 

My guess is no. Not the way you loved them. But it's ok, because the sooner you accept they aren't coming back, the sooner you can find someone new

[PinkRibbon]

I know this may sound childish but I am not going to let myself get involved enough with someone again to ever give them a chance to hurt me. If that means no dating then so be it.

 

I am run through the wringer and I have nothing left to give anyone. Not even myself. I am emotionally and physically drained. Even spiritually there is nothing. I feel like one big empty shell and I really don't want to fill that void with another person. I prefer to be alone.

 

People talk about getting better so they can accept someone again in their life. Why would you want to do that? Why set yourself up to be hurt again? Looking for another man or woman is like standing on a train track. You know a train is coming sometime, you are not sure when, but it is coming and it is going to hurt like heck when it hits you, then it will speed on and not stop.

 

No way no second chance no first chance is what I am giving any person that comes in my life. Not even a first chance to hurt me.

[CaliGuy]

I know this may sound childish but I am not going to let myself get involved enough with someone again to ever give them a chance to hurt me. If that means no dating then so be it.

 

I am run through the wringer and I have nothing left to give anyone. Not even myself. I am emotionally and physically drained. Even spiritually there is nothing. I feel like one big empty shell and I really don't want to fill that void with another person. I prefer to be alone.

 

People talk about getting better so they can accept someone again in their life. Why would you want to do that? Why set yourself up to be hurt again? Looking for another man or woman is like standing on a train track. You know a train is coming sometime, you are not sure when, but it is coming and it is going to hurt like heck when it hits you, then it will speed on and not stop.

 

No way no second chance no first chance is what I am giving any person that comes in my life. Not even a first chance to hurt me.

 

You believe that now. When you meet someone else, that tune will change

[Chinook]

I agree with Caliguy. I had a second chance. It turned out to be a bad decision on my part to go with it. I had originally dumped my ex for many reasons. I wasn't the one who came back, he was. Over a period of time, he convinced me he had changed, grown up and put me first. Couple months into things, the same old passive-aggressive crap was happening on a daily basis. In the end I told him if he wanted out, to grow a backbone - and he did in the end. He dumped me two weeks ago. I was hurt. I'm not sorry though. Will he come back...? Unlikely. I think maybe it was a revenge thing.

 

It's been 5 days NC now because I just couldn't stand to listen to any more of his bull about how he feels bad, how he misses me, how he's sorry he hurt me, how he wishes things were different blablabla. Like CG said, if someone can drop you so easily, they don't deserve your time, your energy or your love. The fact that my ex walked away... that was enough to sever any emotional tie I had to him. Unfortunately, I can't get that back, so there won't be a 3rd chance. But it was also how and why he walked away which finally put the nails in the coffin of our relationship. He came first, all the time... and that's how he had been the first time around.

 

Why did I dump him originally....? I had finished cancer treatment the year before and I had lost my partner and a baby. I was still grieving several issues and I wasn't ready for a relationship. He knew this. I certainly wasn't ready to get married and he was planning to propose right away. I dumped him because I felt I was stealing his time, when he could have been with someone else rather than waiting for me to finish my healing. I felt I had a responsibility, that I owed him the chance to let him live his life. I didn't want him to be another casualty of my healing. But in addition to this he was a passive-aggressive spoilt brat, who was incredibly sulky and needy. I couldn't cope with it at the time because I needed to take care of me. I simply couldn't cope with having to run to all his needs too and that's not how a relationship should be. I had very little patience this time... even less so when I discovered that he hadn't changed or grown up at all.... he was just the same needy guy as he had always been and he came back because some bint he normally trained at triathlon with rejected him. I was an easy target for him because I hadn't ended things originally because I didn't love him and I spent the intervening 3 years being there for him, helping him out with house stuff, advising him on medical stuff (my job is medical) and basically just being a good friend to him. I didn't abandon him and walk away because I don't think that's respectful or helpful - but I let him define the terms of that friendship. So when he finished using me, he walked away. So now, I don't even feel inclined to remain friends with him either.

 

It's just as Caliguy says... I dont want him back and I dont want a 3rd chance. But I know sure as hell he'll be back. He'll pull a guilt trip and because I'm too nice to tell him to feck off, I won't I'll do the patient friends thing, when I should simply walk.

[SummerLady]

There you go dude, the right attitude. If they can drop you so easily and move on having a happy, fun life with someone else, did they ever really love you?

 

My guess is no. Not the way you loved them. But it's ok, because the sooner you accept they aren't coming back, the sooner you can find someone new

 

 

CaliGuy I totally agree with you BUT BUT what if someone did not leave you for someone else? What if as the old saying goes, "Dont't know what you got til its gone?" I had someone dump me but it was not for someone else. This I can prove and its true. After 6 months they called me and said they did not realize what an impact I had on him and he loved me. By then I had moved on. I did love this person but was very hurt and angry and said no, you can't have a 2nd chance. I made that decision as I was with my rebound person. Not sure til this day if I made the right decision. But I hear what you are saying. There can be 2 or 3% of folks that just make a bad decision and then want whatever they had back. My exboyfriend was emotionally immature and somewhat commitment phobic. I think he learned a lesson from our breakup and did grow from it. BUT i think the majority of folks do not deserve a 2nd chance.

[Aerorobyn]

Well, here I am. I actually think I'm making a lot of improvements.

 

Yesterday, I was going back through some of my "breakup text messages" that he sent me within the first two weeks after the breakup. And, honestly, I hate myself for begging and pleading when he clearly thought we were so wrong. He claimed to have "never believed in love" and he "saw no future between us at all" and "thought our relationship was so wrong"

 

And what's even worse is--I apologized for all of my wrongs in the relationship, and I was sincere. The only response he gave me for the apology was, "Ok." and he didn't even give me one in return, despite the fact that I truly believe he had just as many wrongs as I did, if not more.

 

How could I be with someone like that? I still love the guy. But I'm truly beginning to realize that...he's probably not the person I should be with. I honestly do not know if I'd even want a second chance with him. At this point, after the way he has acted, I don't think I'd want to try again.

 

I still feel bad on the weekends, because those were always our times together. And I do miss those memories, and I miss him holding me. But the fact is...I'm starting to see that everything was a lie. The fact that he told me he "never believed in love" and the fact that he said he "never thought the term, In A Relationship meant anything serious"...how could I ever look past that?

 

I forgive him, but I don't know if I could ever forgive him enough to want to be in a relationship with him again. Besides--not to sound too conceited or anything--but I think I'm on a higher level of maturity than he is. I don't foresee myself being with another twenty-one year old, seeing as most all of them are quite immature. I need a man who is more level-headed and actually knows what he wants out of life.

[EmperorR]

Well, here I am. I actually think I'm making a lot of improvements.

 

Yesterday, I was going back through some of my "breakup text messages" that he sent me within the first two weeks after the breakup. And, honestly, I hate myself for begging and pleading when he clearly thought we were so wrong. He claimed to have "never believed in love" and he "saw no future between us at all" and "thought our relationship was so wrong"

 

And what's even worse is--I apologized for all of my wrongs in the relationship, and I was sincere. The only response he gave me for the apology was, "Ok." and he didn't even give me one in return, despite the fact that I truly believe he had just as many wrongs as I did, if not more.

 

How could I be with someone like that? I still love the guy. But I'm truly beginning to realize that...he's probably not the person I should be with. I honestly do not know if I'd even want a second chance with him. At this point, after the way he has acted, I don't think I'd want to try again.

 

I still feel bad on the weekends, because those were always our times together. And I do miss those memories, and I miss him holding me. But the fact is...I'm starting to see that everything was a lie. The fact that he told me he "never believed in love" and the fact that he said he "never thought the term, In A Relationship meant anything serious"...how could I ever look past that?

 

I forgive him, but I don't know if I could ever forgive him enough to want to be in a relationship with him again. Besides--not to sound too conceited or anything--but I think I'm on a higher level of maturity than he is. I don't foresee myself being with another twenty-one year old, seeing as most all of them are quite immature. I need a man who is more level-headed and actually knows what he wants out of life.

 

Never apologize, you did nothing wrong.