Darth Vader Posted June 15, 2009 Share Posted June 15, 2009 Originally Posted by Nightmare Well heres what happened to me last week. End of school awards for my daughter. Showed up a little and she didnt see me there until my daughter waved, she turned around and mouthed a smart a** "love you". Where I descreetly pointed my middle finger at her. I noticed a new ring on her finger, obviously from the BF. So after the ceremony I walked up to her and whispered in her ear.... "you f ing whore, how dare you show up with that ring on here, when we're not even divorced". Then I calmly left. How was that. Wow!!! Kinda harsh. lol. But hey you cannot argue with stupidity. Dont even deal with it, just laugh at her and keep it moving. Harsh? How about the harsh screwed up things his STB-Hex, I mean Ex, has been doing? I love this: "you f ing whore, how dare you show up with that ring on here, when we're not even divorced". :cool:Absolutely Marvelous!:cool::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::cool: So....... Nightmare, what has been her response? Do tell! Oh, I hope you have dropped her sorry ass! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 Exactly what I'm thinking. She doesn't even deserve the courtesy of a reply. Drive on KTM Exactly my thoughts. However, if it were me, if she came to you with all the why's and wherefore's about you not contacting her about your mom, then tell her flat out what you've told us here, don't let her make you feel bad for the consequences that your Hex should be experiencing firsthand. That's on her, not you! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 Must have missed this one! When you've got them by the 'balls' their heart and mind will follow! I can see you need help to pick up the slack, huh? All well and good Guns! That's why we're all here, to watch each other's backs! But seriously, you think he may have a case? I would say yes personally, but the way the crooks-, I mean Judges are these days, who can tell? Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 It's OK to feel a loss of control now and again and I agree that you are not ready to have interaction with her in any way unless it has something to do with the kids but I do think you should not go to the nursery parents evening with her. You just aren't ready. Don't force things to move on too quickly and have the brave face on at all times, you are still hurting. Cut yourself some slack. I have been following what you have been up to and I think it's terrific how well you are coping. Try not going on facebook though until you feel you have healed a bit more, but even then, keep in mind, you see her tanned and happy pic it will only open the floodgates. I was thinking the same thing. So no more Facebook. Have you tried Twitter? I hear it's all the Rave! I haven't tried it yet, but hey, you only live once! Link to post Share on other sites
Nightmare Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 Originally Posted by Nightmare Well heres what happened to me last week. End of school awards for my daughter. Showed up a little and she didnt see me there until my daughter waved, she turned around and mouthed a smart a** "love you". Where I descreetly pointed my middle finger at her. I noticed a new ring on her finger, obviously from the BF. So after the ceremony I walked up to her and whispered in her ear.... "you f ing whore, how dare you show up with that ring on here, when we're not even divorced". Then I calmly left. How was that. Harsh? How about the harsh screwed up things his STB-Hex, I mean Ex, has been doing? I love this: "you f ing whore, how dare you show up with that ring on here, when we're not even divorced". :cool:Absolutely Marvelous!:cool::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::cool: So....... Nightmare, what has been her response? Do tell! Oh, I hope you have dropped her sorry ass! Her response is " its none of my business what she does, we are not together". Which basically makes her feel less guilty, even though we are not divorced as of yet. Now my situation is she and her b/f both are renting apartments in same complex. They have to do this because her boyfriends wife is divorcing him as well and he has kids too, me and his wife made a big stink about keeping the kids away from the others lover since they are not divorced. Otherwise I believe they would be living together. And yes I do speak to his wife occasionally, helps to find the truth. My wife is out of her mind. She doesnt have any clue of what should and shouldnt be around our kids. On her way back from the beach with my kids she spent 30 mins talking to him on the phone in front of kids. Im letting her dig her own grave with our kids. They are disappointed in her actions and usually dont want to go to her place. I am divorcing her, I will be getting primary custody, the car, and the house. She is so focused on this guy right now she really doent care. Much more to my story but ill end it here. Link to post Share on other sites
Nightmare Posted June 16, 2009 Share Posted June 16, 2009 Well I had a good weekend, bought a car, went sea kayaking, and had a night out with some friends. My Mum has recovered ok and I will be seeing the kids tomorrow. I didn't send the text, and have maintained contact only about the children. Despite the fact that she has made some inquiries about my Mum, I haven't bothered to respond. She has asked if I want to go to the nursery parents evening with her, and I haven't decided yet. I thought I was doing OK, but I went on to facebook, and although I have removed her as a friend a comment she made was visible and there was a new picture of her smiling and looking happy and tanned. Now I thought I was doing OK but the effect it had on me was surprising, the rush of emotion took me right back, and has really thrown me off balance. If that's what a tiny FB photo can do I don't think I'm ready to see her in the flesh!!! Because we have kids NC is not an option, but this has made me see that I need to keep contact to a minimum. I feel that I am not in control, I don't want to feel like this, but just seeing that picture had me spinning and there was nothing I could do about it. Your still not over her yet, perfectly normal still,im not a 100% yet myself but just about. WE will be, your still trying to rationalize how the marriage could work if she came back, I dont think it ever could. It took me months to convince myself of that.You will get to a point where you will be so disgusted with her cheating on you and still continuing it that you wont waste your time checking her myspace. Stay away from her, dont go to the orientation with her, you are not with her anymore, you will want to go, you will hope being with her in an environment of husbands and wives will make her see whats right and wrong and come to her senses. She WONT!!! she is in a fog. If she did she would have ended it right away or never cheated to begin with. People will say its for your kids you need to go together.. I DISAGREE, it is much to soon. You should go before or after her not at same time. I dont want to act like a know it all and I know im not,,,,,but reading your posts sounds like we are in almost the same situation, except Im about 4 months ahead of you. I am starting to feel much better now. I just dont want to waste the rest of my life on her. Link to post Share on other sites
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