Revelations and confusion, a step up from last time but is it better or worst? HELP!!

[Jasonb8060]

Iv only been a member here for a little while. I posted my tale of woe under the name Jason called "can i get her back". Since then a lot has happened and have found that she is actually finding it much much harder than I am. I spoke with her last night for a good while and im more confused than before yet things do seem slightly clearer. She says that she misses me so much and that she would like nothing more than to get back together with me as she said we belong with each other (here comes the twist) but jusat because were made for each other doesnt mean we should be together now.

We broke up because we were talking too much as she is at uni and it put a strain on her as well as my "jealous nature". That basically just refers to me winding her up in a joking fashion but she did'nt react positively. She doesn't think I can change sufficiently and even if i did she wont get back with me because she is worried that if the same thing happened again we'd both get hurt again and she doesn't want that to happen. I don't know what I should do she says that i should just leave her for a substantial amount of time and "give her space" but the fact is she has wanted to txt me and call but because she rarell has a signal at her uni she has taken this as some kind of sign that she shouldn't be calling me. She is so confused and very alone as she has no pre-uni friends around her and she doesn't want me to comfort her because it makes her sadder.

What should i do say, keeping in mind i want her and she wants me as were still in love. How can i convince ehr that these worries about the uncertainties in our relationship will not go and be thought away but they can be worked through if we are together, especially as every1 who knew "us" agree that we were amazing together?????????????

 

Please help. J

[belend52]

HIYA

 

This is basicly the same reason me and my ex broke up in are long distance relationship, we spoke to much and i wasdnt working so yer basicly the same.

 

Anyways i sugest that u leave it for a wile, you both need space to think things through, and in the meentime actualy change, because i kept saying to my ex that ive changed, then i would slip up and it would prove i hadnt changed...now i have though..wich is good but its also been 5 months for me and its hard to prove...my ex was the same he still liked me and wanted me bck and was upset, didnt talk to anyone, but i ruined all that by pushing him away by nagging him to much bout getting back.

 

Sugest to her that yes you both want each other back, but you think that you both need time to get your heads together, and you what to change and you wont beable to change if you get back starght away, say to her your going to prove to her that youve changed. But you both will need time, i did, shame i only just realised tehe a month ago.

 

I hope everything workes out, it looks positive,

[Jasonb8060]

Yeah i spoke to her last night and we said that we would become friends and still talk aslong as it was only about normal things and not about us. We have to do it like this because i feel bad for her as shes new at uni so hasnt really got anybody she really knows to talk to about things and she is really hurting (like me). But we text eachother every once in a while and it seems fine. We agreed that since the break we haven't had ne kind of relationship and with friendship atleast we have something to build from, which we both want. I figure timescale isnt that important in the longrun so ill give her up for a little while as just friends and hopefully get her back in a while and she said the same thing.

 

So wish me luck. I prob wont update unless something drastic happens but ill keep u posted if we get back together, i figure this site could use as much hope as possible.

Cu soon hopefully!