She's declared that she still loves me :S

[mental_traveller]

We aren't in a relationship with you, so we aren't going to lie and hide our true intentions. Instead you will get the brutal truth. Don't ask for it if you can't take it.

 

There's nothing tough on her about saying that you shouldn't give her the time of day. You are just relationship 13,783 that we've seen this pattern in, we've seen this story before and know how it will turn out. It's your choice whether to pay attention to that fact or ignore it regardless of all the evidence.

 

People can we try not to forget that my ex is using this site. I realize this is an unusual situation here on loveshack and that normally you don't have to consider both parties - but in this instance you do and for that reason I would really appreciate you not being so tough on her.

 

I'm not going to give her a tough time for falling out of love with me.

 

S**t happens ...

 

Why is everyone doubting her intentions?

 

I would really like a girls take on this situation.

[mental_traveller]

People try not to get all high and mighty, none of us are perfect human beings, and somewhere along the line we more than likely are going to hurt someone emotionally. It's just the way it is ...

 

The advice being offered appears to be heavily affected/tainted by the negative experiences people have had in there previous relationships. I understand it's only natural to draw on past experiences, however we must remember that every relationship is vastly different to the next as are the people involved ... this seems to be forgotten far too often by the loveshack community.

 

 

Pure BS. No one is getting high and mighty. We are simply saying that if you take her back, you will get dumped and shat on again.

 

This isn't tainted by personal experience. I personally have never been dumped, taken back, then dumped again, so I am neutral on the matter. Our judgement is based on having seen literally thousands of posts exactly like yours, and seeing *every single one* work out the same way.

 

However, it's probably a waste of time communicating this to you, because you show all the signs of not wanting to listen to neutral, impartial, proven advice and insight. I suspect you came here to get validation for something you already wanted to do but didn't have the guts to go ahead with. You look like you posted here *insincerely*, inviting people to waste their time when all they wanted to do was help you out by saving you from further hurt & drama.

 

If you ask for advice you will get it. If you ask for validation or an excuse to treat your current gf like crap and mess up your life by getting messed up *again* by your ex, then don't be surprised if none of us do it.

[vessv6l]

Hey i havent read the other parties post. But currently there are 2 parties posting on LS asking for advice. If you go back to her there will be a third party asking why someone would leave them to get back with their ex after 1.5years.

 

You want to dump everything you have achieved in the last 18 months and get back with someone who hurt you twice? And your new GF? I wouldnt mate, stick with the new girl. Maybe after another 18 months if things dont work out you can hit your ex up for another chance then like she has you

[WiseOne1]

One question, what happens if you and the ex don't work out? Would you then try to get back with the current gf if she accepted you back or would you just move on from her?

[BillClam]

She's already done this to you once. Love isn't her motive...it's control. She sees you with your new girl and is mad that you aren't still pinning for her. I would bet that as soon as you dump your current girl, your ex will have some excuse for not being with you.

 

Don't play her game. Why would you want a girl that is so wishy washy anyway?

 

Sorry to jump in and use such an early post, but I agree with this now, my ex broke my damn heart, but low and behold, I started dating someone else, and she was pretty beat up about it, as soon as that girl was gone, she shut the window again.

 

It's the whole, "women are crazy" aspect of dating... j/k, well, kind of.

[daithi]

I'm going to keep this brief - After two amazing years my ex GF broke my heart. She ended the relationship without really giving me any concrete reasons for doing so. After she left me I fought close to 18 months tooth and nail to win her back, it was all to no avail.

 

She walked away from the relationship without so much as looking back .....

 

Until 3 months ago.

 

She's come back into my life saying that she wants to give us another go. That she's always loved me and that she made a mistake in leaving me.

 

I wonder if any of this is true. I wonder whether she has come back into my life simply because I've now got a girlfriend and she's jealous? I wonder is it because her life isn't going as planned and she just wants to return to somewhere where she fills safe and secure and most importantly, loved?

 

I'm cautious as she did something similar to me twelve months ago. I thought I would get a second chance ... I didn't. Getting my heart broke the second time round hurt even more than it did the first

 

Whats more I now I have a loving beautiful girlfriend to consider. Do I break her heart even though she has done nothing wrong to give the love of my life a second chance?

 

Loveshack community help!

 

Ickle if youre out there I would appreciate your thoughts on this.

 

Women = Snakes with Tits! She probably was reliant on you not moving on and admiring from a distance and battling for her. All women love a little bit of attention and now that you have stopped, she wants it back. Keep with your current girl and see how that works out for you! Just ignore your old girlfriend.