Here is what I find Hysterical!!

[SummerLady]

My husband cheated on me most of my marriage. When I found out and dumped him he did not want to go. I actually heard him on the phone with another woman, I think this was his last girlfriend, crying about me. How funny right. We are now divorced and he has no girlfriend. Seems to funny. Some people just like the thrill of cheating not the person they are cheating with. Since I got rid of the trash I couldn't be any more content with where I am in my life. Free at last Free at last God almighty I am Free at Last!!!!!!!!!

[quankanne]

and you had an instant weight-loss, too, didn't you?

 

I'm glad that you've found strength to deal with him so decisively, summer – because while there is love, there also needs to be respect, and he wasn't giving you the best of that, therefore didn't deserve the best of YOU.

[sadintexas]

Congratulations on feeling great and having a good life. My xH also cheated on me and thought he was quite the catch. I had to fight tooth and nail to end that marriage because he didn't want it to end. He now lives quite the miserable existance. He hasn't managed to have a serious person in his life in the four years we've been apart. Now he has no home, no friends, no social life, and "just a job".

 

My life isn't all roses, but I have a home, a career, a happy family, children who make me laugh and feel loved every day, friends, food on the table and a little money in the bank (no thanks to him, he can't pay his CS because then he couldn't afford the only thing he really has and that matters to him, his Mercedes lol). Life is good.

[SummerLady]

and you had an instant weight-loss, too, didn't you?

 

I'm glad that you've found strength to deal with him so decisively, summer – because while there is love, there also needs to be respect, and he wasn't giving you the best of that, therefore didn't deserve the best of YOU.

 

OK you are scary good!!! I was thin to begin with, I was 119 and now I am a rockin 109 still with boobs. How did you know??? Looking great I must say........

[SummerLady]

Congratulations on feeling great and having a good life. My xH also cheated on me and thought he was quite the catch. I had to fight tooth and nail to end that marriage because he didn't want it to end. He now lives quite the miserable existance. He hasn't managed to have a serious person in his life in the four years we've been apart. Now he has no home, no friends, no social life, and "just a job".

 

My life isn't all roses, but I have a home, a career, a happy family, children who make me laugh and feel loved every day, friends, food on the table and a little money in the bank (no thanks to him, he can't pay his CS because then he couldn't afford the only thing he really has and that matters to him, his Mercedes lol). Life is good.

 

I really want him to eventually get remarried or be with someone. I am not this horrible person or anything. I hope he learns from this and moves on with some maturity. The sad thing is it was at my expense really. But sometimes people have to eat a lot of humble pie to learn and learn the hard way. I am humble enough, I know better.

[Chrome Barracuda]

My husband cheated on me most of my marriage. When I found out and dumped him he did not want to go. I actually heard him on the phone with another woman, I think this was his last girlfriend, crying about me. How funny right. We are now divorced and he has no girlfriend. Seems to funny. Some people just like the thrill of cheating not the person they are cheating with. Since I got rid of the trash I couldn't be any more content with where I am in my life. Free at last Free at last God almighty I am Free at Last!!!!!!!!!

 

QFT.

 

Yeah it happened to me too, girl i was dating cheated with her ex, constantly lied about it, cried about it when i broke up with her, because guess what I wasnt the fallback plan and the guy she cheated on me with dumped her too!

[tami-chan]

I really want him to eventually get remarried or be with someone.

 

really?

[quankanne]

OK you are scary good!!! I was thin to begin with, I was 119 and now I am a rockin 109 still with boobs. How did you know??? Looking great I must say........

 

:laugh: I meant the 100-plus pounds you lost when you ditched his *ss!!!!

[TOWinNYC]

My husband cheated on me most of my marriage. When I found out and dumped him he did not want to go. I actually heard him on the phone with another woman, I think this was his last girlfriend, crying about me. How funny right. We are now divorced and he has no girlfriend. Seems to funny. Some people just like the thrill of cheating not the person they are cheating with. Since I got rid of the trash I couldn't be any more content with where I am in my life. Free at last Free at last God almighty I am Free at Last!!!!!!!!!

 

What I find hysterical is that you found it necessary to post this in the OW/OM site instead of the Infidelity site.

 

Sandwiched between the bragging (he didn't want to leave) the gloat (but I didn't want him) and the theoretical "message" (free at last, yay) is what you REALLY wanted to tell everyone here on the OW/OM site (your MM/MW isn't really into you) - which is what all BS want to say.

 

Obviously you're not so content if you feel the need to say this on a site meant to support "those who find themselves involved with a committed partner". But you're entitled to your opinions as am I.

[OWoman]

What I find hysterical is that you found it necessary to post this in the OW/OM site instead of the Infidelity site.

 

Sandwiched between the bragging (he didn't want to leave) the gloat (but I didn't want him) and the theoretical "message" (free at last, yay) is what you REALLY wanted to tell everyone here on the OW/OM site (your MM/MW isn't really into you) - which is what all BS want to say.

 

Obviously you're not so content if you feel the need to say this on a site meant to support "those who find themselves involved with a committed partner". But you're entitled to your opinions as am I.

 

Oddly enough, TOWinNYC, that's exactly what I read from the post, too - "i need the validation because my life isn't exactly what I'd hoped it would be, so let me rub someone else's face in the muck so that I can feel a little better about myself".

 

While no doubt it's true that there are SOME MMs who are in it for the thrill, certainly there are others who are not, who love their OWs. And most OWs here are going to feel that their MMs are in the latter (loving) category and so not pay the slightest attention to some clearly still damaged BS ranting at them - no more than BSs would pay were I to post an analogous post over on the Infidelity Board ("MMs really love their OWs and can't wait to dump their awful BWs. After all, mine did, and life is just so great, we go out together all the time and she's so eaten up when she sees us she turns even uglier and uglier by the day...")

 

But hey, let her and the other BSs who need the validation pat themselves on the back in this thread; no OW is going to take it seriously enough to feel offended, moved or anything else but amused or perhaps just a tiny bit pitying that some people really can't let go even when their lives are so "great".

[skywriter]

I mostly lurk in LS, so maybe I'm not as entitled to throw my 2 cents in, as the more established, and notably knowledgeable members are.

 

I just feel that regardless of Summer's motivations behind her post. Thing is we are all here because of something that has affected our lives.

We're all looking to heal. So in that sense, it will and does require us to be a bit more understanding towards every poster.

 

While I agree with what each poster has written, it's all irrelevant, in that every individual here has their own set of baggage.

 

I've been on both ends of the relationship spectrum myself, so yea. I go over to the infedelity forums, I go to all the forums.

 

One thing I've learned for absolute certainty in my life is to never, ever, say never. I would"never" cheat because damn it all. You'll find yourself having to eat those words before your layed to rest. Murphy's Law has a

way of sneaking up on you when you least expected it.

 

Anyway, where am I going with this? Ummmm, just keep on doing what you do here guys and that is well... helping me and others.... peace....

[SummerLady]

What I find hysterical is that you found it necessary to post this in the OW/OM site instead of the Infidelity site.

 

Sandwiched between the bragging (he didn't want to leave) the gloat (but I didn't want him) and the theoretical "message" (free at last, yay) is what you REALLY wanted to tell everyone here on the OW/OM site (your MM/MW isn't really into you) - which is what all BS want to say.

 

Obviously you're not so content if you feel the need to say this on a site meant to support "those who find themselves involved with a committed partner". But you're entitled to your opinions as am I.

 

I am beyond content, I feel like I have gotten a 2nd lease on life:) Did not see the infidenlity threads or site that you are referring to. He obviously was not into me that is why he cheated, that is a no brainer my friend. BUT since he was caught and now I am free I can start over with someone that is interested in just me and not every piece of ass on the street. I was in the dark about it for years. I am now free of all the BS. How couldn't anyone be happy about that. No he did not want to leave, that is not bragging believe me, that is called getting caught and not liking the outcome, that comment is rather strange? And yes I do not want someone that cheats on me, ever!!!! Why is that hard to believe. Maybe that is cool with you but not with me, never will be. There is no grey for me on that issue.

[quankanne]

not sure why y'all other women are being so snippy about this ... SL is free from a cheating butt-munchie and his lover exercised her choice as well. Isn't that what y'all want anyway, for your married lovers to be free to choose you over the women your men marry and are "stuck" with?

[TOWinNYC]

not sure why y'all other women are being so snippy about this ... SL is free from a cheating butt-munchie and his lover exercised her choice as well. Isn't that what y'all want anyway, for your married lovers to be free to choose you over the women your men marry and are "stuck" with?

 

I don't know about "snippy" but I thought the post should have been listed in the INFIDELITY portion of LoveShack. That's where it belongs.

 

If she wants to announce how oh-so-happy she is with the outcome of being cheated on, why not post it where other Betrayed Spouses go and share it with them? Why here?

 

But whatever.

[Stepone]

The Other Man / Woman The other side of the story: Support and discussion for THOSE WHO FIND THEMSELVES INVOLVED WITH A COMMITTED PARTNER

 

Am I missing something?

[NoIDidn't]

not sure why y'all other women are being so snippy about this ... SL is free from a cheating butt-munchie and his lover exercised her choice as well. Isn't that what y'all want anyway, for your married lovers to be free to choose you over the women your men marry and are "stuck" with?

 

I don't know why they are so snippy either. Seems summer did exactly what they claim to want betrayeds to do - minus the being miserable without the cheater.

 

Maybe they are just unhappy about her happiness?

[2sunny]

Oddly enough, TOWinNYC, that's exactly what I read from the post, too - "i need the validation because my life isn't exactly what I'd hoped it would be, so let me rub someone else's face in the muck so that I can feel a little better about myself".

 

 

But hey, let her and the other BSs who need the validation pat themselves on the back in this thread; no OW is going to take it seriously enough to feel offended, moved or anything else but amused or perhaps just a tiny bit pitying that some people really can't let go even when their lives are so "great".

 

 

huh? wow, such posts when a poster is only stating the facts of her experience and folks are mad that it's not worded correctly or MAY be in the wrong category? come on, i see some hypersensitivity here.

 

let's be happy that a situation was dealt with based a personal boundary and her outcome was positive for her.

 

i would want that as an ultimate goal for anyone posting here in any forum... no matter what the issue/struggle was.

[Stepone]

It's like, say some girl wants this gorgeous new car but she just can't afford it. She passes it every day in the garage on the way to work on her bicycle and is doing everything she can to save up for it but it just seems impossible that it will ever be hers. then a rich woman comes into the shop one day who can easily afford it. she then feels it isn't for her after a week and gets it crushed.. then writes the other woman (bicycle girl) a letter about how great she feels that it isn't taking up space in her garage any more. it's just a little bit sadistic, however great she feels.

[NoIDidn't]

It's like, say some girl wants this gorgeous new car but she just can't afford it. She passes it every day in the garage on the way to work on her bicycle and is doing everything she can to save up for it but it just seems impossible that it will ever be hers. then a rich woman comes into the shop one day who can easily afford it. she then feels it isn't for her after a week and gets it crushed.. then writes the other woman (bicycle girl) a letter about how great she feels that it isn't taking up space in her garage any more. it's just a little bit sadistic, however great she feels.

 

Nah, your analogy just sounds like jealousy.

 

Can't afford it, don't hate on someone that can. And don't hate on them for saying that they are glad not to have something they no longer wanted just because you couldn't afford to take it off their hands. Once the rich woman bought it, it was hers to crush if she wanted to. No where in your analogy is it said that the rich woman crushed it to spite the bicycle girl.

 

Crushing it is a bit sadistic, but she owned it so she could do with it what she wanted. This is a little different from a marriage though, as we don't own our spouses. And killing/crushing them is illegal. LOL.

 

Envy and jealousy are never pretty. Sorry.

[fooled once]

I would think if this OP was in the wrong place, a moderator would have moved it.

 

I think Summer's post was fine <shrug>

 

She is free to post her thoughts, just like everyone else is!

 

And it sounds like there are some very jealous OW here who feel threatened by Summer's post, which is why the snippy comments.

 

Maybe they realize, deep down, that the married men they are cheating with really DO care about their wives, which is why they aren't divorced

 

Sounds more like they are scared and worried that they don't really know their married men as well as they like, or as well as the wives know their husbands.

 

Summer, sounds like you are doing great!

[jellybean]

What I find hysterical is that you found it necessary to post this in the OW/OM site instead of the Infidelity site.

 

So you think she posted in the wrong section - big deal...sheesh

 

It doesn't make her story any less valid and interesting...it actually reflects back poorly on you.

 

Since I got rid of the trash I couldn't be any more content with where I am in my life. Free at last Free at last God almighty I am Free at Last!!!!!!!!!

 

 

And how content are you TOWinNYC with where you are in your life?

[herenow]

First Stepone, what did the car do to the rich woman that made her want to crush it? Maybe if bicycle girl understood why rich girl crushed the car, she wouldn't be so hurt by it. It's not like the car was just sitting there being a wonderful car and rich girl decided to crush it for no reason.

 

To SummerLady, I get the same treatment when I post about my personal happiness. I don't have much time to post these days, but when I do, I know that there will always be those that question my situation and claim that "no one would post here if they were really happy". Take it from the source and know that your post is relevant to someone.

 

The way I see it, every story is different. And if one person who has a similar situation reads a post of mine and finds some help or comfort, it really doesn't matter how many others doubt my motives.

 

Congratulations on your new lease on life. I wish you the very best!

[wildsoul]

What I find hysterical is that you found it necessary to post this in the OW/OM site instead of the Infidelity site.

 

Sandwiched between the bragging (he didn't want to leave) the gloat (but I didn't want him) and the theoretical "message" (free at last, yay) is what you REALLY wanted to tell everyone here on the OW/OM site (your MM/MW isn't really into you) - which is what all BS want to say.

 

Obviously you're not so content if you feel the need to say this on a site meant to support "those who find themselves involved with a committed partner". But you're entitled to your opinions as am I.

EXACTLY.

 

I haven't been 'round here lately in part because I'm out of my relationship, but also because I'm so weary of this forum being over-run with passive agressive OW-bashing posts like this one. The gloating. The implication to OW that the CS doesn't love them as much as the BS. So childish and OFF-TOPIC.

[Stepone]

Everything that rich car woman did with the car was absolutely fine. And yes, she is admittedly in the position that the jealous love-impoverished OWs like me want to be in.

 

Everything she did in my analogy however was justified - Except then writing the LETTER to the WOMAN WHO COULD NOT AFFORD THAT CAR for no decipherable reason which is what summer has done to us

 

It's just like, a lot of the people here are other woman and THIS part of the site is DESIGNED to support them through their pain, not to rub their faces in their pain, regardless of what we deserve morally we have somehow ended up addicted to these creeps with often our whole view of relationships and love, and ourselves turned upside down - how can it help to hear some smug account from some woman who has (or could have had) what we all wanted? The "wife", to the otehr woman is, like it or not, the ENEMY and we are HER enemy so why post in our forum??????

 

Okay we are all part of the sisterhood and all that lark, am personally very happy for her and in her situation would have done EXACTLY THE SAME! She is clearly an unusually strong woman and I respect her hugely for what she has done in letting this disrespectful creep go. But I think her posting in this forum FOR OTHER WOMEN AND MEN is insensitive, I would not go round posting in the wives forum on what I got up to with someone's husband, even if i eventually dumped him - just salt in the wound

[wildsoul]

...and not every piece of ass on the street.

Friends, it's not envy of SL's "happiness," that is making some of us react. It's the veiled hostility.

 

Calling ANY woman a "piece of ass on the street" is patently offensive.

 

I don't like to hear that coming from a woman trying to degrade another, but in this forum, it's especially rude.

 

On the flip side: I'm happy that she's figured out that her xH was a cheater and is taking back her power! Yet she isn't at all graceful with that yet. Clearly, she is still pissed off and wanting to piss on OW, which isn't what this section of the forum is for.