dudemag Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 im seriously losing my mind its been this long what the hell.. i mean she cheated on me but i still want her. should i see a therapist? im seriously sinking lower and lower into depression i just sleep all day, i skip classes, i miss asignments, i am a total wreck i dont know what to do anymmore i have no motivation for anything. i have finals in 2 weeks and i dont see how im going to pass them.. i also have a literary essay that i havent even started thats due on monday... i just want to curl up and die Link to post Share on other sites
BW007 Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 Ok I have been in the same boat. Start cramming for your exams, cut the crap. Strength may not get her back for you but it WILL get you back. You can pass your exams and that will give you some pride back. Discuss your troubles with your professors too, they may be able to help you bounce back. I I have been suicidal over someone who cheated twice yet I have enough maturity to know that is ridiculous. This cheating just beats the crap out of some guys( like myself). I have let my life go to hell like you and I have been in the same hidden mode as you. I am still messed up and have been reaching for rock bottom. Why? Why? Why? To show my jugular to her because I care so much? Slow self destructive self hating behavior to show how much we care? In my case it seems like a ineffectual survival strategy to hide from an unwanted reality that has parked a huge void in my life where there was love. Link to post Share on other sites
EmperorR Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 im seriously losing my mind its been this long what the hell.. i mean she cheated on me but i still want her. should i see a therapist? im seriously sinking lower and lower into depression i just sleep all day, i skip classes, i miss asignments, i am a total wreck i dont know what to do anymmore i have no motivation for anything. i have finals in 2 weeks and i dont see how im going to pass them.. i also have a literary essay that i havent even started thats due on monday... i just want to curl up and die Took me 7 months to get over my cheating ex fiance, time is the only thing that helps, i fell into depression lost 25 lbs, going to work was my only solace as i hated being home by myself, thought of her 24 hours a day went from wanting her back with every breath I had to not even caring about her anymore. Start studying now, stay strong man, I know exactly how you felt, and it sucks but it gets better, in a few months you'll look back and want to slap yourself I did. she's a cheater scum, we're better than epople like that. Link to post Share on other sites
playlislay Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 Could you be suffering from depression? Ive had this for the past 4 months although Im slowly coming out of it. I put it al down to heart ache at first. But then when I looked at symptoms such as 'crying for no real reason'-thats when I knew I was depressed. Everything wuld get ontop of me, I couldnt handle uni work, I didnt even want to be at uni, or meet up with friends. Hell, I didnt even want anyone to acknowledge my birthday-one call from my aunty saying *Happy Birthday!* set me off into tears. Lol! I can laugh now but at the time it was very serious and I done myself no favors. Luckily, I have pushed myself out of it for the sake of my degree and my future. I refuse to let his unloving behaviour get me into a state of depression thus ruining my career and costing me another £3,000 of uni fees-NO WAY DUDE!!!! My way of deeling with it is to feel like Im getting one over on him. Im doing better than him and my results will be much higher than his! Plus, he already had to retake a module, so HA! Point proven! Yes, Im being childish, but Im allowed to for the sake of mysanity and my healing. Go see a doctor Mr x Link to post Share on other sites
Author dudemag Posted April 29, 2009 Author Share Posted April 29, 2009 i find myselffeeling depressed more and more. i think i could very well have a problem.. i have always had low self esteem as im sure that is a contributing factor to my sadness right now. she left me and it kills me to see her do that to me. but at the same time im not sad over her loss because i know she is nothing but a cheating lying whore, im just sad that i cant hold onto someone longer than i want to and that just makes me feel so lonely and empty Link to post Share on other sites
Sam Spade Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 4 months is still too short, unfortunately. Also, your emptions will fluctuate wildly. I'd say it would take at least a year until you're consistently okay. I am on month 9 and I'm okay for the most part, but every once in a while major melancholy sets in. All I can recommend is find something to do (like that essay), and focus on the bad stuff you went through with her (for now) Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 Ok I have been in the same boat. Start cramming for your exams, cut the crap. Strength may not get her back for you but it WILL get you back. You can pass your exams and that will give you some pride back. Discuss your troubles with your professors too, they may be able to help you bounce back. I I have been suicidal over someone who cheated twice yet I have enough maturity to know that is ridiculous. This cheating just beats the crap out of some guys( like myself). I have let my life go to hell like you and I have been in the same hidden mode as you. I am still messed up and have been reaching for rock bottom. Why? Why? Why? To show my jugular to her because I care so much? Slow self destructive self hating behavior to show how much we care? In my case it seems like a ineffectual survival strategy to hide from an unwanted reality that has parked a huge void in my life where there was love. Classic signs of depression. Go see your doc. Anti-depressants will make you feel much better. Time is the true healer though. Finding another good women who will treat you the way you deserve will also help. Link to post Share on other sites
Meaplus3 Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 im seriously losing my mind its been this long what the hell.. i mean she cheated on me but i still want her. should i see a therapist? im seriously sinking lower and lower into depression i just sleep all day, i skip classes, i miss asignments, i am a total wreck i dont know what to do anymmore i have no motivation for anything. i have finals in 2 weeks and i dont see how im going to pass them.. i also have a literary essay that i havent even started thats due on monday... i just want to curl up and die It sounds to me like this is really taking a toll on your day to day life. So, IMO therapy might be very helpful for you. Do keep in mind that 4 months is not all that long. Sometimes it takes a good 6 months to even a year to fully move past an R. Go at your own pace and relalize that you can and will heal. Best wishes. Mea:) Link to post Share on other sites
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