Tiocfaidh Armari Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 Hi, Basically there's a girl I used to have strong feelings for but a relationship didn't happen because she was already in a relationship with another whom she preferred over me. Now she has become single again as her partner and herself have gone their different ways. I was thinking of getting back in contact with her since the opportunity for a friendship has presented itself and was wondering if anyone could advise on the best way to do it or if you think its a bad idea say so. Personally, I'd be happy with a platonic relationship with her as my life has gone in a different direction since and I'm quite happy with it. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 26, 2009 Share Posted April 26, 2009 Were you friends before your infatuation? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tiocfaidh Armari Posted April 26, 2009 Author Share Posted April 26, 2009 Were you friends before your infatuation? Yes we were. So I'm slightly worried that she might think its a cynical rouse to get involved with her again. Link to post Share on other sites
Greg2716 Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 My gut reaction to your post is that rekindling this friendship may not work. I know that I was presented with a similar situation, and when hanging out I started to feel a little something develop again. I had to cut it off instantly and the only thing I got out of it was a few restless nights of sleep. I think it's very difficult to do. I know everyone's experience is different and I'm sure there are some who have done it successfully, but my experience suggests a bad idea! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 27, 2009 Share Posted April 27, 2009 Yes we were. So I'm slightly worried that she might think its a cynical rouse to get involved with her again. Are you in another romantic relationship currently? How's that going? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tiocfaidh Armari Posted April 28, 2009 Author Share Posted April 28, 2009 Are you in another romantic relationship currently? How's that going? Its early days yet, but I think that its stable enough to withstand it. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted April 28, 2009 Share Posted April 28, 2009 OK, IMO go at it with full disclosure and relationship support. Everyone knows everyone. No secrets. Link to post Share on other sites
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