my boyfriend doesn't like my boobs

[Enema]

You know what guys like? Variety.

 

If you've got small boobs, your guy probably looks at porn of big boobs.

If you've got big boobs, your guy probably looks at porn of small boobs.

 

It doesn't mean he's disappointed, unhappy or turned off by you. Men just like variety.

[imonyourside]

you know, I'm going to have to create a new username because I didn't want to drudge up any past posts.... whats done is done.. I'm obviously never going to be happy about the fact that he cheated but I accept it and choose to look past it. We are growing in this relationship together, making mistakes but learning.

Anyway, I guess it shouldn't bother me. But I have (in the past) tried to get him to grab my chest during sex or foreplay.. I like it. He will do it to probably humor me but doesn't ever do it willingly. I personally don't think I have small boobs so I don't even think this is a self-esteem issue... trust me I have way worse issues with my body, this should NOT be one of them.

I just can't help but wonder why he doesn't like my boobs? I mean... whether you like them big or small, you still play with the ones you're given RIGHT?! And .. his dick isn't really small or big, nothing I would complain about.

And no, he never said my boobs were too small.. though I do remember years back I would wear low cut shirts to see if I could catch him looking at me like that.. he never would. So one day I asked him why he never looked at me like that.. like check me out.. he said " I don't look at tits unless they are.." and left me hanging. he Would not finish that sentence. I guess this all sounds so juvenile.

 

I know he wouldn't want me to get a boob job or anything like that.. I just don't know how to get him to like my boobs. good god.

[Enema]

I would wear low cut shirts to see if I could catch him looking at me like that.. he never would. So one day I asked him why he never looked at me like that.. like check me out.. he said " I don't look at tits unless they are.." and left me hanging.

 

I wasn't sure if he actually came out and said to you that he didn't like your tits or if you were just projecting insecurity.

 

But, that line there... wow, what a jerk.

[bean1]

you know, I'm going to have to create a new username because I didn't want to drudge up any past posts.... whats done is done.. I'm obviously never going to be happy about the fact that he cheated but I accept it and choose to look past it. We are growing in this relationship together, making mistakes but learning.

 

Choosing to ignore the past and pretend that it didn't happen isn't going to make the future any easier. I'm sure plenty of people on the infidelity forum could advise you that they don't do that when trying to work past an affair. Have you considered that you are insecure about this particular issue because you know he has gone for sexual satisfaction (boobs?) from other women?

 

I'm a small cup myself too (smaller than you!) and of course we always feel insecure about that, BUT, a good partner praises and loves what his girl has. Your relationship is built on a shaky cracked foundation though, so I don't see how that could apply. A partner is a PARTNER not a PROJECT.

[AAlike]

Nope, a horrible way. You can NEVER explain a whole population's sexuality with a paragraph.

 

If I take off my shirt, my girlfriend gets wet and is ready to go.

 

obviously I wasn't trying to "explain a whole population's sexuality" - the underlying point was that men GENERALLY get aroused in a more erratic and less personalized manner than women.

 

case in point, I'm sitting outside on my laptop and a girl just walked by me in some tight shorts....I now want to fornicate. not necessarily even with her - just in general.

[AAlike]

You know what guys like? Variety.

 

If you've got small boobs, your guy probably looks at porn of big boobs.

If you've got big boobs, your guy probably looks at porn of small boobs.

 

It doesn't mean he's disappointed, unhappy or turned off by you. Men just like variety.

 

right - but see women read that and think "if he likes variety then he wants to go screw other women" - that's not really true. I can get horny by looking at a ton of different women - I don't seek this out, it just happens. I have no desire to sleep with any of them.