me and ex working on things?

[gamezealot]

ok, well I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago. And well, ever since that day, my life has sucked. I broke up with her because she lied to me, and didnt see anything wrong with it. I really don't want to get into the details about what she lied about, but, she didnt cheat on me or anything, but she still lied. I got really angry at her, and we had a huge argument. She didnt think that what she did was wrong.

 

But its been over a month, we've both realized where we both made mistakes, and, I just wanna move on and work on getting back together. I really miss this girl. We tried to work on things like 10 days ago. I hlped her get a new social security card, and then after that, again, I blew up on her. Its like, I care soo much for her, but sometimes hse can just say the STUPIDEST thing, and it makes me soo pissed.

 

But, I'm completely done with the yelling thing. Its gotten me nowhere, and the times I dont yell, I actually get a point across. Well, I talked with her a couple days ago, we set things straight, and we are gonna meet again tomorrow, just to hang out. We both kind of agreed on this. That if we can hang out peacefully for a while, as friends, then we would work on the relationship again. I really want her back. And its like, I still love her, and she still loves me. She has told me this, she otld me just like a week ago that she still loved me. So the affection is still there.

 

But I'm just wondering, can things like this wokr out? Or are we doomed no matter what. I was just so pissed at the time she lied, and she didnt feel she did anyhting wrong. So I was just like, im not gonna stay in somethign like this, and I wanted out. But until I got out of it, I dditn realize how much I love her, and how much I want her. I've been thinking that this could be something to like pull us closer together. We both have learned a lot from it, and we've learned more about ourselves. I've learned that im brutally honest, I will literally say anything thats on my mind, and thats a fault at times. Cuz certain things I shouldnt say.

 

But, can anybody give me some advice on how to warm back up to each other, and little things

[Zankon]

Not all truth is good to say. You need to learn that you have to respect others views cuz they don t have to match with yours to be right.

 

Getting things back together is very easy -> work on yuor caracter!!! Relax when you get pissed at her, dont worry and let it go when she says something "stupid". Because "stupid" to you might not be stupid to somebody else.

 

you're trying to make her look and act perfect according to your norms. And that's not right and will never happen.

[gamezealot]

Yea I know. Ive been controlling myself more when I talk to her. Even when she says something I dont like, i dont get all over it. I know, I do want everybody to be perfect, but I know itll never happen. Just like 5 days ago, I had a normal conversation with hr, controlled my temper, and we had a good convo, and we both got good points across. At the end of the convo she was like " heres a secret, this really helps "us" out". So I know I just gotta control myself. But, do a lot of people go through break ups and then get back together for a long time, even marriage?