TheVerveHistory Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 I have my good days and my awful days. She broke up with me 3 months ago and never gave a reason. We dated for 7 months and it was perfect. She said it all. "I love you". "Let's move out". Then, one random day, she dumped me. No reason. "I need to figure things out on my own." 3 months later I find out why. She wanted to date someone else at her work. Someone I knew too. Boy, that was a kick to the nuts. Somedays I'm glad its over. "The lying, deception." But then I think about her. Everything she's doing... all of our good times... Anyone have any advice on the bad days? I'm told time is a healer. It's tough though. I don't feel like I'm healing at all... Link to post Share on other sites
now_what Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 Yes, they do say time is a healer, whoever "they" are. I'm sorry about your breakup, it does hurt - I've only been broken up with once, 7 months ago after 30 years and boy does it hurt. Some days you will feel good - who needs her, other days, you will feel bad - how could she have done that to me. I don't really have any advice other than to just acknowledge that you will feel this way and that it is normal. The bad feelings will pass, but don't be surprised if they pop up again when you least expect it. Take care and be good to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheVerveHistory Posted April 29, 2009 Author Share Posted April 29, 2009 Thank you my man, I'll do my best, Link to post Share on other sites
SCooke Posted April 29, 2009 Share Posted April 29, 2009 Some people will tell you to stay busy, other will tell you to curl up in a bed and cry all day, some will tell you to date, and other will tell you to find something you are truly passionate about and set a goal to accomplish it. I think all are appropriate when in you're in this painful ,but rewarding journey. the key is balance. Most importantly, just listen to yourself and pay attention to your emotions. Don't try to hide it, instead let yourself feel it, own it, and then try and release that energy. I've learned that when I tried to bottle all my emotions for the sake of "movin on", it ended up blowing up at the worst time, or the stress will eat you up...On the bad days, it means your emotions are overbearing you (I mean phsyically, for me at least i can feel it in my gut and my chest, and my breathing is out of wack), so just do whatever, cry or whatever until you feel drained and then you'll feel relief. Through time, the initial emotional burst will lessen more and more, and you'll find that you're not as overwhelmed anymore...Time really does help! Another thing that helps me is to put my situation into a larger perspective. When you're going through a hard breakup, it makes you feel so alone in this world. But the reality couldn't be anymore different. Almost everyone in this world has or will go through the pain of heartbreak (if they haven't, then they haven't lived). The most important and beautiful works of art in this world were born out of heartbreak. So it's our opportunity right now to join our felllow brothers and sisters of the heartbreak world. We have to put in the time someday, and our day just happens to be today...Also, when you make it out of this, and you will, think of how seasoned and experienced you'll be! You'll know that you have the ability to love because you know you can survive the pain that must be risked in order to really grasp love. Good luck buddy! Link to post Share on other sites
Author TheVerveHistory Posted May 1, 2009 Author Share Posted May 1, 2009 Thank you so much. That was really good to read. You're right, you feel so alone but the reality is alot more grander than that... Again, my thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
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