My girl likes has a crush on a Rock Star and I feel Inadequate and Jealous

[lowandlower]

Probably sounds

Stupid But.........

 

 

My girlfriend of 4 years, We have a great relationship, she was soooo into me when we first met, fell madly in love with me

told me i was the boy of her dreams.Things are still good. She loves me a lot BUT>>>>

 

 

She has this major infatuation with the singer from Dashboard Confessional.Have You Seen This Guy? For those of you who don't know him, He's a Emotional Rock N'Roll/Folk guy who's really popular right now, has the clean cut short 50's hairstyle, t-shirt and jeans, Tattoos, Good Looking, All the girls love him because his lyircs are all about love and heart break and emotion, and well, he's a asinger with an acoustic guitar.

 

I don't have tattoos, I'm losing my hair a little, I do play guitar and sing a little, but never do in front of her because i'm shy about that stuff. I'm not bad looking, but It just makes me feel a little inadequate or not as cool, when i see this guy and he llos cool and has this talent, But i don't. Part of me wants to get some tattoos(only because i HAVE been wanting to get some ever since i was 15) and start signing for my girl more and write her some songs, but is that unhealthy for me to go changing to win her more? I just want to be good for her and I know i could stand to break out of my shell a lot more and change some things about my clothes that have been looking drab... What do you think?

[VASH THE STAMPEDE]

Don't worry or feel less of a man about it.

Women do that ,is nothing against you is just their nature,What else are they going to talk about for hours on the phone.

Find the courage to sing to her,I think she'll appreciate that.

I have one tattoo is stupid and gang related.I don't want it.but I know its going to hurt like hell if I burn it off.So if you do get one make sure is something you'll want the rest of your life.

[quankanne]

ooh, this is a toughy to answer, because I am happily married, yet still have a sizable crush on the musician Sting. However, I do point out to my husband that while I admire the heck out of his musical ability and swoon to his songs, the only one I want to be caught in bed with is my husband. He has satisfied me like no other lover, he's been a better friend and companion to me than any other man and I think he knows that if it came down to choosing Sting (or any other celebrity hottie) and him, my husband would win hands down everytime.

 

Fantasies are nice, but they don't warm you up in the middle of the night, you know? Nor do they tell you "here's $50 for you to go see your parents/your niece/your girlfriend, have a good time."

 

I think most women consider those attractions as something harmless, because they're not going to go chasing the guy down just to make a life with him. They realize that there's no basis for a real relationship with someone like said celebrity, but there is with a real boyfriend.

 

on a personal note, if you're looking to expand your wardrobe, consult your girl. If you're lucky, she'll have a good eye for the kinds of styles that make you look good. And that will just help you look even hotter in her eyes.

 

If you're seriously considering a tattoo, think long and hard about what you want to get and where you want to put it. My thought is that sharpie markers come in a lot of nice colors, and you can etch something on a place where you think you might like a tattoo, see if you actually like it before making that kind of commitment.

[bicyclejunk]

Yeah, Had the same problem with one of my ex girls.....She had this huge thing for Johnny Depp and she'd always comment on everything she liked about him. I hated it. I look nothing like him and she was obviously too in "love" with him, so i split. she'd always say this about him or that about him.

[TheDonny]

Yeah that is the worst. My girlfriend does that too and it makes me very jealous and angry. I try to make it seem like I don't care and I just make comments about a girl she dislikes. But she knows better and can see right through my retaliation. I want her to stop but I don't want to sound too jealous. I have no idea what to do, but I will definetly post if I find a remedy to this situation.

[UCFKevin]

 

You guys are serious?

 

My girlfriend's nuts over Matt Damon, Colin Farrel and Hugh Jackman, but as much as she talks about them, I talk about Halle Berry and Britney Spears and Shania Twain.

 

It's all pointless BS, who cares if they like these untouchable people? Nothing will ever happen for God's sake.

[jalexy]

people people! you need to talk to your SO!!! tell them how you feel and that it makes you feel like less of a great person. i mean, men do this to women all the time!!!! "oh britney is so hot, i want to do her, or look at her ass or her boobs" how do you think it makes us feel??

if this person cannot respect your wishes, tell them byebye

[quankanne]

maybe it's a maturity thing? I'd never dream of telling my husband that I find Sting's (fill in the body part) is more attractive than his! He just understands that I think the guy is nice looking and that I love his music, but as much as I like Sting, he's not going to supplant my husband!

 

I think it's kind of cruel to compare someone you "love" with someone you've fantasized about. The most I can come up with is either one of them penning a romantic song for me

[bicyclejunk]

well my deal is, My girl never talked so much about how cute Johnny Depp is to her until recently.

I would ask her in the beginning of our relationship, years ago, what actors she thought was

cute, but would always say, "Johnny Depp, But I Love you, I love you You're Way Cuter".

 

But now since we broke up and got back together recently in the past months and since she now has a new friend she's been

hanging out with a lot who makes it known to all that she loves Dave Navaro from Jane's Addiction, and has pictures of him all over her car and house, even thought she has a fiance, I think my girl feels more comfortable liking Johnny Depp and putting pictures up and not having to say "But I love you more"...Because she

teases me about him now, where before she never did, but now she'll say something about him or about how cute he is and not give me any reassurance that she's just teasing and loves me. I would never put up pictures of Ashley Judd around the house, becuase i wouldn't want to hurt my girl's feelings. Anyway, what can you do, Ya Know? If you complain about it, the ladies think were too insecure and not being manly enough.

[quankanne]

so, put up a really tasteful picture of Ashley Judd in your house and leave it up. Sounds that if your girl isn't bothered by her inconsideration, she won't be bothered by Judd's picture on your bedside table.

 

seriously, though, if it bugs you, talk to her about it. Maybe she just doesn't realize that her hero-worship has grown out of proportion. I don't think a good-natured talk will mean you're less manly, and if she feels that you're being juvenile, well, buddy, she's obviously not the kind of girl who needs to be in a mature relationship. Good manners goes both directions.