projectdnsc Posted May 1, 2009 Share Posted May 1, 2009 I have been with my wife now for five years. Married 2 of them. I Love her and Need her. But she has been so disconnected that I pushed and pushed away as part of my "Defense" from her. Yesterday she said we are done. She wants to be friends but wow. She is so cold and empty. She wants nothing to do with me, asking to get her divorce paperwork as soon as possible. I realize that this comes so fast and that me apart as I came begging her to take me back. My love for her needs to die in a way. Its tearing me apart that this is happening. We have 3 kids of which 2 aren't hers but she raised one from 7 weeks old. She just gave up. I don't know what to do and I need people to talk to for support. I'm all alone here. She made sure of that. Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted May 1, 2009 Share Posted May 1, 2009 You've gone Beta Male on her ~ you no longer a challenge to her. She's tested you and you've failed in being the man that she needs and wants. There are two kinds of men a woman wants and needs. The one that she dates and has sex with and the one that she marries. Guess which one you've become? Guess which one you need to become? To get her back? Guess which one you need to become? Just that plain and simple! Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted May 1, 2009 Share Posted May 1, 2009 I have been with my wife now for five years. Married 2 of them. I Love her and Need her. But she has been so disconnected that I pushed and pushed away as part of my "Defense" from her. Yesterday she said we are done. She wants to be friends but wow. She is so cold and empty. She wants nothing to do with me, asking to get her divorce paperwork as soon as possible. I realize that this comes so fast and that me apart as I came begging her to take me back. My love for her needs to die in a way. Its tearing me apart that this is happening. We have 3 kids of which 2 aren't hers but she raised one from 7 weeks old. She just gave up. I don't know what to do and I need people to talk to for support. I'm all alone here. She made sure of that. Is she seeing someone else on the side? Even if you say "no", are you 100% absolutely sure? You may want to do some investigating, cell phone calls, texts, check her email, etc. It's not "snooping" or "invading", it's verifying. Link to post Share on other sites
delajoonal Posted May 2, 2009 Share Posted May 2, 2009 ya, what seiber said, you have to do some heavy spying...so you can know what step to take next? if there IS someone else, are you going to fight for her back? if there is NOT someone else, will you ask her for MC or time to understand what you are doing wrong...what WENT wrong, etc.? good luck:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author projectdnsc Posted May 3, 2009 Author Share Posted May 3, 2009 No, she doesn't have anyone. Seems like in the past two years she and I have just forgotten who we are. Forgotten how we were friends. Forgotten almost everything, except that we are parents. Just seems to not work. She wants to end this as quickly as possible. She has had some time to think about it. Me Its like two years of her anger at me in days. Talk about hard huh? Im ok now, just gotta find myself again. Live my life the way I want. Ya know? Link to post Share on other sites
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