Evanescence Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Sexyjonnie.... oh how i agree with you. I don't know if doing this will make him come back running, cuz i actually think he has someone else, but it might make him think. I told him that i'm not waiting, but at the same time i told him i was going to wait (confusing for him and me i think). Anyway, who knows. All i know is that i can't leave him a msg and i can't call him. I'm going to write a letter (do u think this is the best way?). As for your final comment about the best revenge.. i agree very very much. My grades in school have dropped about 30-40% which really sucks.. so i have to pick that up, especially since i only have one month left! But as far as success in other areas... I pampered myself last week. Got a new haircut, got my nails done (with a giftcertificate that he got me for xmas) and i got a new makeup collection. I've been trying to shed a few extra pounds and i promised him this summer he'd see me in a bikini (this is before the break up). Well, from the stress, i've lost 20 lbs.. even though i didn't lose it in a healthy way, i still lost it and i look awesome! I'm planning on losing another 5 or 10, but the healthy way this time, and i'm going to go into the restuarant he works at and strut my stuff in a nice mini skirt next to some hot guy and have dinner! And i'm going to be very happy... and everything will be ok. And he'll see how great my life is and remember how great i was, and realize that he f**ked up royally. I know he already knows this.. but for some reason he hasn't acted on it.. maybe this little push will make him, i dunno.. I've almost gotten to the point where i don't care anymore. If you read one of my previous posts you will see why. If he does come crawling back.. he's going to get rejection though. If he wants me to accept him back into my life, he's going to have a LOT of work to do! Situationsmend --- she gave you the "why haven't you gotten over it yet?" attitude? WOW! Harsh.. i didn't get that when he called. I got the sympathetic, i'm hear for you type thing. He knows i'm going through hell and he SEEMED to want to help me in some way, but he knew he couldn't. Boys are so damn confusing!... lol.. but so are girls obviously. But good for you for moving out of the city. If that is something you want to do, then do it. Forget her, don't let her tie you down. My friend told me last night that we have no control over each other anymore (me and my ex) so i shouldn't try to hold him down, and even though he's been trying, i shouldn't let him hold me down (for example, i want to go to a school in British Columbia, which is the other side of the country from me, and he said "well if u do that, chances of us getting back together are slim to none".. hello buddy.. that's a year and a half from now.. u think i'll really care by then? but it's just an example of how he's trying to still control me even though we are broken up.. with threats) .. We can't let them hold us down. WE have our own lives to live. Link to post Share on other sites
justaregularguy Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Wow, can't believe how many of us are in this same boat - frustrating as hell. Same deal - "needs space to figure things out" - where I basically read "you're a great guy, but not for me anymore". Made extra frustrating after hearing all these wonderful things for 4.5 months, and then out of nowhere - "I need some space" the day after Valentines day. In the last two weeks, she's told me if I wanted to move on, she'd understand and she'd be ok with it - but she just doesn't want to hear about it.... Is it just me, or doesn't that basically mean she's implying that's exactly what SHE wants to do? I just wish she'd have the courtesy to say the "REAL REASON" right up front as opposed to trying to sugar coat it and spare my feelings, which is so unnecessary considering I feel like crap now anyway. She figured I was behaving "too serious" given the length of time we were together (after 4.5 months of being together) when in fact it was really the OTHER WAY AROUND.... All I was doing was reciprocating what she was saying and doing to/for me. I think she's using that to negate any guilt she may feel now that she's decided to move on and perhaps date other people. Anyway, wish I could ramble on about this, but obviously we all know how badly it sucks. Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Evanescence, Whatever you do, PLEASE keep your grades up. F**k losing weight and all that. Who cares what that assmunch thinks. I basically flunked out of college after the first time I got my heart ripped out, among other reasons. I'm just now getting around to finishing my degree, 9 years later. Link to post Share on other sites
sexyjonnie Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Well, she texted me a message on my cell phone tonight....she said, "I know you don't want to talk to me, but are ya'll gonna pay me or what?". I owe her 150 bucks for our 1 year anniversary trip we never went on (we split the cost) and my best friend owes her 275 for our spring break trip. We were all supposed to go to vegas and he didn't have the cash on him so she covered him until he got his income tax return. I had already given her the money but she said she lost the check a couple of days ago. So, I'm trying to figure out what's the best thing to do right now. I was expecting an "I'm sorry" message, not this. Should I just wait until tomorrow or should I reply tonight? I don't even know what I would say...maybe "is that all you care about?" I dunno...someone help me out. Link to post Share on other sites
sexyjonnie Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 OKay...just heard through the grapevine she's been spotted around town with this guy she said she was friends with and they were all over each other. So a break means breakup....I'm done with her. Good luck to everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
eagle_nate Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Hi there all, Sexyjonnie: sorry to hear about that man...brutal to hear that kind of news when u don't want to, nothing I say is going to make u feel any better but i hope you know in the long run this will serve to help you heal. Again, sorry to read that crap. you deserve better than that bit**! Regularguy: It's funny how they seem to be trying to spare our feelings but in the process ripping our fu**ing hearts out, it's all about them buddy. I told my ex "rip it off like a band-aid" in hopes of hearing what i needed to move on...I suppose that would have been too easy and certainly have closed the door should things not work out in her future endeavours..again, it's all about them. Situation: I hope you're not leaving only as a result of this relationship. I am in no way minimizing your pain, a part of me wants to leave too, but why? So that i can heal faster? So that I can "start fresh?" Well, I'm afraid if those are the reasons, that pain will follow you wherever you go man. Leave for the right reasons buddy!...maybe take a holiday, I am looking booking a trip to Europe to refresh my mind and spirit, but I refuse to lose the other things I've built over some woman who I'll be laughing about in the months (years) to come. I can see the pain in your words. Ev...nuff said, you know how i feel about your situation...i hope whatever happens, happens sonner than later! Hope I didn't miss anyone. My update? Nothing to tell you...apparently she"feels bad" for the breakup....isn't that nice. I'd prefer if she felt bad for ripping my heart out and then not bothering to call every so often to see if things are OK. If it makes anyone feel any better, I woke up today, went to the gym, came outside and felt great for a millisecond or so. Then it came flooding back...but I am happy to say those moments of peace are beginning to come back and I am certain (for all of us) that it will soon be the norm again. That may be all we have right now. Link to post Share on other sites
JamVan Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Well tonight I am meeting my ex to supposedly get my stuff back. My how the tables turn when you pull away from them. She has been calling me continuously for the past couple days and hinting about how sorry, how badly she f***ked things up and how she has made the biggest mistake of her life. Basically, I sit there giving her one word answers and it i really puzzling her, because I have always been there for her in every instance and in mymind was one of the most supportive people towards her and now she is having a hard time understanding how I became the person I am today. I did tell her, you know what you have pushed me aside too many times in the past and never thinking about how I felt and only worried about what you wanted to do at that moment. As I have said in my past posts she has an ex-husband with a child, and I can honestly say he's a real decent guy. But, she started staying over at his house proclaiming nothing was going on. She would talk to me on the phone right in front of me to try and prove the point, but really none of that mattered. I stated my disconcern on the situation and how it affected me and at that time she said she understood, but wasn't going to stop. That was my cue to fly!!! Now she is proclaiming that she is truly sorry and never looked at the situations through my heart and mind. IS it too late to go back? Most of me says yes!!! Anyway, she called me thismorning telling me how excited and how much she was looking forward to seeing me and I just said "Are you?" That brought upon a moment of silence she said "Arn't you?" I simply said if you think I'm going to come running back to you r arms just because you've said your sorry, then sorry not this time. If you truly feel the way you are stating, then it's going to take some time and you need to prove it to me, there's just too many unhealed wounds open at the moment. I told her I would listen to what she had to say and we will go on from there. I really son't know what to expect tonight, wait a minute I don't expect anything. All I know is I am finally thinking for myself and things will fall as they may. It's truly hmourous how they feel they can push you aside, stomp on your heart and expect you to be waiting there for them once they've made up their mind, or apparently have. You can only push an individual so far till they hit their breaking point and I'm sad to say, I think I've hit mine. Keep you guys posted. And the best of luck in all your situations. Link to post Share on other sites
situationsmend Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 That's the news we don't want to hear, that our Gf/Bf are with someone else, even though they said it wasn't about dating anyone else. I'm telling ya, That's why we all need to move on and let them do their thing. THEY LEFT US. Plain and simple. To try and force them or beg them to come back, would do NO GOOD. Why should we have to Beg them? Where's our self-respect? Why are we waiting around for them to Come Around?? Only to find out they;ve moved on with someone else? THEY LEFT. That says a great deal right there. They don't want to be with us and are risking our future together. So why stand by them? Get on with your life and start healing yourself. That's what i'm doing and I have to say, it gets better, it really does. I never thought i'd say it, but it will get better. I'm starting to cut all ties with my ex and all of her Mixed signals and I find myself just thinking about the good times, rather than the hurt she's putting me thru right now. Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 All I can say is...I am going through the "space" thing right now since Feb 3rd. It is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I have been in this relationship for 8 years. He didnt tell me we were breaking up, just that he needed time to think things over and cool down after a huge blowout we had. I am in a depression over this and seeing a therapist. I have all negative thoughts. I know I am supposed to stay positive, but some of the stuff I read on here about space and all, I get depressed. *ugh* I know I miss him more than anything and to think of him never being with me again is unbearable. I have been nothing but good to him and he will never find anyone else like me. Everyone says so. Im not worried about him finding someone else...I am worried about him making the wrong choice and ending up leaving me and being alone. As weird as that sounds. Everything I do or see reminds me of him. No matter where I turn, I have something he gave me. Same for him though... I have given him soo much...does he look at that and think of me? I have recurring thoughts of not being able to live if he leaves me for good. He is my future. Or is supposed to be. It is torture.... I guess Im not the only one in the world going through this at the moment,,, but it really feels like it. Link to post Share on other sites
eagle_nate Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Hi Sinker... Well, it would seem you came to the right place. If nothing else it's a good place to vent and hear points of view from people who may be experiencing the same things as you, or have been through them recently. All the things you are saying are completely valid. I'm replying to offer you free advice...leave him alone. You guys clearly have a great of history and care about eachother very much. At this time, this is how your s/o is dealing with his feelings. You can sit at home and ponder why, how, and what he's up to but that won't do any good. Get out of the house, keep busy, and do whatever makes you feel good, if only momentarily. Most importantly, understand that one way or another, the end of this pain is forthcoming. However, at some point you need to look after yourself, so, if this break continues you may have to consider the option of putting a stop to it yourself. It's been a month from what you said and you must be feeling very drained emotionally. I hope you understand that regardless of whether he comes back or not, you will be OK. Even if it doesn't feel that way right now. Link to post Share on other sites
justaregularguy Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Just a quick note to say thanx for the "support" (if that's what we can call all this lol!) Well, she actually text messaged me last night as a "test" and then called to say hey. Was actually kinda nice to hear from her. Not sure what to really think at this point. It's only been a coupla weeks so I'm not gonna try and interpret things too much anymore - just kinda relax and see what happens.... I guess? Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Thanks Nate. Yeah... everyone is saying let him miss me. Oh..he will. We have done everything together. Im not mad at him like I said..hes gotta do what hes got to do. I just keep thinking he is forgetting about me. He would have 5 brothers who would probably kick him in the a$$ if he left me this way. He knows better. So I have to keep remembering that. When hes ready to talk he will be ready. I have never prayed so hard before in my life. I have faith in us and I KNOW we can work on this. 8 years is too long to just let go. You are right though. I am emotionally drained. All I do is think think think and it feels like I am going crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
FlutterGirl24 Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Well, tomorrow I am going to go and see him for something like 2 hours, and im not quite sure hows its going to go. Esp since he said we were going to go until after spring break to see eachother again. Im a little worried, as we havent talked hardly at all since last monday when we had that phone convo, and I have no clue what to expect or what he expects. I guess I cant know until I see for myself, but I am soo nervous. I know I just have to be myself, and treat it like normal, but after this, it might be a bit hard. I dont know if he'll expect me to talk about things (as for a guy, he seems to like doing this quite a bit, which has never happened to me before), or if we'll spend the time just like normal and doing things we always do, or if we'll sit there through 2-3 hours of strange silence and end up having things end there. Or if he'll try to end it, even though he told me he didnt want things to end completely. Its frustrating and nerve wrecking, and the more time that passes by, the more I wonder why I am even sticking through with this. I probably am putting more into it than I should, but its not like I have much else to be doing these days than working, and trying to keep up with the few friends I have in this town...most of my friends are where he lives now, which is where I lived the previous year, and where I will be again in May. Ill update as to how things turned out, and hopefully it will be for the best, however it ends up. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Situationsamend, your right about sitting around waiting for them to change mind & begging not being good, but some of us seem to be able to take it better than others. Getting on with your life is ok when nothing big in life has changed, i personally, sold up & quit job & finished everything in England to go to the USA with her, so my life was there with her & now is in pieces all over the ground! That person that cared so much, now just seems like the person that cares the least! Even though it's November since i saw her, we've squabbled over email & 1 phone call that needed someone inbetween to referee Sinkerswim, i know your score, i'll pm you. My initial problem was anxiety i started that pushed her away, how can i be positive about things, like walking around as though nothing has happened, being happy! The love of my life has gone (temp, i hope), my body has been split down the middle, everything i did in life i did with her, i i'm told to move on & be positive, yeh right. But Nate is right about 'time', healing, & trying to get together & do a little to take your mind away from this torture. Link to post Share on other sites
JamVan Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Well we got together last night and it went somewhat differently than I expected, not much but a bit. As we were sitting there she asked me to start by explaining where my thoughts were and how I felt about her. I felt that this was the time to be brutally honest and lay all my cards on the table, so that's what I did. I told how she has hurt me in the past and some of the things she did I felt you don't do to someone you apparently love. i also, stated I still have feelings for her but at this time can't and won't jump into anything without fully knowing her head is on straight, cause i won't play this ping pong game any longer. She said to me in the past she had no problems leaving someone and forgetting about them, but each time with me she tries to fool herself to believe that, but her heart keeps telling her that I am the one. She knows the mistakes she has made in the past and is truly sorry. To top all of this off, I asked well what do you expect or want from me or us for that matter. She answered by saying a life with me. That all the times in the past when we spoke about getting our own place, she would freak out and pretend she wasn't ready, now she claims she KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS and wants to be with me. I will be honest here, when I say I have moved on past her, but there was always a small part of me hanging on. I can sit here and so though, I have my confidence back, know I can make it on my own and am truly happy with myself. So, here's the deciision I have put before me. I have been speaking with and went on one date eith this new girl, who I get along great with and all, but have been holding back from that as well and then my ex who's claiming a life-changing head turn has made her realize s great many things. So I sit here and think, at the point I can move on do I? and persue something new that may or may not pan out. OR do I wait and see if the girl I thought to be the love of my life has in fact waken up and seen the light. This has truly been the hardest and strangest roller-caoster of love I have ever been on. Your guys input would be greatly appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Leave the new girl out of your thoughts for now. What does your heart tell you about the ex? I think you need to get the ex to elaborate more on her life-changing head turn and get more information for yourself about what she is thinking. Does she realize the amount of work that she'll have to do to rebuild the trust and love? Does she have any specific plan on how to do this? If she hasn't thought about it, I myself wouldn't be certain that she was was really serious. You guys have broken up before, right? Does her coming back this time feel any different -to you- ? If yes, go for it, if not I'd move on otherwise you're just setting up for another whirl on the same merry-go-round. Link to post Share on other sites
bicyclejunk Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 JAM- I'm kinda in the same situation. My ex is starting to kind of call me a lot and telling me she's missing me. Were supposed to get together today and talk about things. She's acting as if it was a mistake she left, she knows i'm the one, she feels changed around etc etc. I love her so much, but i've been trying to "Hide My Love Away" as John lennon once said, Because it's painful, I thought we were going to be together forever, I saw her as my wife. But i met a new girl in the months my ex and I have been apart. She's really cool and interesting and knows what she wants in her life, unlike my ex who left me, saying she needed time and didn't know what she wanted in her life, needed to feel independent. This new girl is just a friend at this point, but I can see her calling me more, emailing me more, sending me little fun notes, doing nice things for me etc. and wanting to hang out more and she seems to really like me, the signs are sort of there. I like her, she's an interesting, fun girl. I'm left with the same question...Do I try and make things work with my ex because we had such a good thing before and I love her? OR do I pursue this other girl who seems like she's got a good head on her shoulders, knows what she wants out of life, is interesting and fun, attractive, great views on life in general, etc. It's tough, But in the end, we need to follow our hearts. If you truly love this girl, Like i do my ex AND SHE'S REALLY SERIOUS I'd say give it a shot. Nothing can ever be exactly the way it was, But in a way that could be fun and exciting, a fresh new start. Do things different this time around. As for me, My ex has ping ponged with me a bunch of times after we broke up, then she came back, then she left me again, then acted like she was going to come back, then got distant again. So I'm moving on, Because even though she called me and wants to get together today and says she misses me and even cried on the phone yesterday, I need to do my own thing. I can't let myself get hurt by her over and over, she needs to be happy on her own before she can be happy with anyone else....unless by some act of God, she turns her life around and figures stuff out in the next couple of months, I'm moving on. Link to post Share on other sites
JamVan Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Wow, bicyclejunk your situation sounds like a mirror image of mine. I really feel it's different this time around, as she has never pleded her love and feelings the way she did yesterday, but like all of us I can't help but be a little skeptical. Days ago I thought I knew what I was going to do, but after being with her and talking to her I found myself remembering the reasons I fell in love with this girl in the first place. I had given up hope on her, figuring she would never wake up and smell the roses, as I put it. But, I see a refreshed sense of energy in her and talking about achieving goals I always saw I always saw in her, but never saw the fight in her. As for the other girl, like yourself she's great, has achieved so much, has a good head on her shoulders, etc...and all of this sounds totally pleasing, other than the fact my heart I think lies with another. Now, I am faced with thoughts of regret either way I choose to go. But I can't help but feel, I always waited for that feeling where you know this is the one and my ex was just that, and from what she's telling me is I am that for her too. At the end she asked me..."Where do we go from here?', I didn't know what to say. I simply said "I don't know", I told her before anything could ever happen I had to feel the feeling that she in fact was in lov with me the way she says. By that I mean before I knew she loved me, but those feelings left and before I can give her my heart again, I have to feel that again...be that the ld feelings or as you put it new exciting feelings. I just can't go off words alone, I need the actions to speak louder than the words. I guess over the next couple of days I need to do some soul searching and reason with what my heart is telling me. I am supposed to go out with the other girl tomorrow. Do I blow it off? But then I set up a blow up? Or do I simply go and see what happens and see if it tells me anything new? Link to post Share on other sites
Dixiecron Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Don't play any games. Always do what you need to do to get your own mind/heart in order without bringing anyone else into the mess. Cancel that date. She'll know you're thinking about something else if you go out with her. If she's a good woman, she'll want to know whats going on in your head and will want to talk about it, then you may want to clam up to keep from pissing her off over your ex, etc... (I know this one from experience). Take a few days to sort out what you're going to do with the ex, then if you decide to go back to her, let the new girl know immediately. Sucks for her, but it -is- only one date you've had, right? If you go with the new girl, be upfront and honest about how your ex wanted to get back and you needed to deal with that. Tell her that you needed a few days to do some soul searching, tell her a -little bit- about your back and forth relationship and that that part of your life is over, and you're out with her now because she is who you want to be with. Either way, you can't move forward with the new girl until you make a decision on the ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Evanescence Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Hey JamVan and BicycleJunk. I'm sure you've written it in previous posts, but how long have you each been on your "break" or "break up" for? What do you think happened made them come back? I've tried leaving messages on my ex's cell phone twice now. The second one was just yesterday, so I still have a chance there, but the first message was left two weeks ago and I asked him to call me last week sometime because I wanted to get with him and talk about things because I was in town that week. No answer though. I hope i get an answer this time. I told him all I need is half an hour of his time. This time I'm thinking I should call and tell him that this isn't a "break" anymore. He said he wants to "see other people" but he's still calling it a break? I want to tell him either we're together or we're not.. no break crap. You know the whole "people want what they can't have" thing? Well i want to do that, but i'm afraid if i say something to convey that message, he might think that i don't want to ever give him the chance and even though in the future he may want to come back, he won't. Plus last time we talked everything was so positive. No fighting or anything (well even before the break up we haven't faught for a long time), so i kinda want to keep it there. Any tips for what i should say to him? This doesn't make sense because last time we talked everything seemed so positive! He seemed like he was happy with me, but we just need some time apart. He said that he made a mistake and since he made it already he may as well live it for a while. He said he just "needs more time". Well it's been almost a month and i haven't talked to him yet. I know that there is nothing to do now but go on with my life, but still the pain is so damn unbearable some days u know? Yesterday i was fine, today i feel like crap. My friends and parents are telling me to get over it. Sometimes (and i mean just maybe a few hours every other day) it just feels extra hard to try and "get over it". It was 5 1/2 years of my life.. that's a quarter of my life! And he was my first and only... how does someone just "get over it"? Good thing is that i'm actually starting to feel happiness and excitement again. Haven't felt that for over a month now. Link to post Share on other sites
JamVan Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Evan... First of all, you may not want to hear this, but if your ex wants to see other people you need to think do you really want him back. I know first hand when they flee your arms into another, its very hard to ever forget that, but if you can and forgive him for that then maybe it's worth fighting for. As far as how long we've been on break, this is like my second if not htird break from my ex. Each time I broke off all contact, that means messages, phone calls, emails, etc.. it would only be a couple of days until she began calling. One thing to remember is every individual and evry situation is different, no matter how many comparisons you may have with someone else's situation. What you truly need to do is follow your heart on this one. Any kind of contact will make the other person feel that you are still there and available for them to do whatever they want and only come back when they are ready. The saying "You don't know what you've got till it's gone" simplifies my ex to a T at this moment. She can sit there and say I miss you, I love you, I relaize what I've done and I know what I want...but the truth of the matter is what our loved one's have pulled on us leaves scars and it's now up to us whether we can move past those and give it a shot. I think what you need to start doing is convey and analyse the situation for whats best for YOU and not him or the both of you. What attracts those back to us in these situations is confidence and individuality. If they feel they have lost you for good and only then will THEY realize I think I f**ked up and I really want her/him back. Anyway, keep your chin raised high and be strong to yourself, in the end over time...evrything will work out, whichever avenue the situation goes. Believe that. BEst of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
justaregularguy Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 I trust everyone is dealing with their respective situations in a positive manner - chin up - the sun will rise tomorrow! ... and remember, no rain, no rainbows! Anyway, so my situation - she sent me an email today mentioning a few little things that we shared that she misses. Wants me to drop by for a visit this weekend, but left it up to me.. What do I do?!?! Do I go? Link to post Share on other sites
Evanescence Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 JamVan K. Well last time I talked to him I think I gave the message that I'm waiting, or at least that I'm here for whenever he decides to come back. I want to get that out of his head. That's why I want to talk to him. But then i'm afraid that he'll think that me leaving messages means that i'm thinking about him and what not. I kinda wish i could erase that message now but i can't. If he doesn't call back I know I'm going to be a mess. I was better off just not leaving that message, just for myself. I think him not calling back will hurt more than me just not being able to say my piece to him. Why do i always get myself into these stupid situations? Link to post Share on other sites
bicyclejunk Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 I know people who have been left by their BF/GF and they never got back together. It was a "Needing Space" thing and they got their space, realized they were happy without their Ex and moved on. My best friend had his GF of 6 years break up with him because she wanted space and time to think and said "She Knew They Were meant to be, She Knew they were going to be together" But she just needed time to be alone and have her own place. Well I guess it was Out of Sight/Out of mind. This girl who SWORE she knew he was the one, Stopped calling him, is now going out with someone else, forgot to call my buddy on his birthday and when he finally got her to call him back, he asked if she was happy, she said YES. IT HAPPENS. We need to think of it as THE END. They broke up with us, We need to see it as THE END. All i'm saying is, trying to hold onto FALSE HOPE, is not the way to go. It ruined me and I broke down and even cried a lot over losing my girl. I was so in love with her. But she left. even though she says stuff like I'm sorry, i didn't meant o hurt you, I still care about you....It doesn't make it any better. They still left. And there's no guarantee they'll come back. They need to grow and mature. Link to post Share on other sites
Evanescence Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Thanks bicyclejunk... I'm going to really try to think that. It just frickin hurts. But thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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