"needing Time And Space"

[justaregularguy]

Great to hear that Ev!

 

It's amazing how much better you feel when you just take some time to focus on yourself and not worry about what the s/o is doing or thinking. Naturally, as soon as I slipped into the mindset, I got a couple emails from my ex saying how she missed me but it "is still better right now to be apart". Okies dokies, whatever you say cuz I'm definitely not going to argue anymore and waste anyone's breath. If things work out in the end, great - if not, great. It's been repeated many times in this forum and I whole-heartedly agree - THEY chose to be without us so why should we have to CONVINCE ANYONE to want to stay... I will never ever FORCE anyone to want to be with me - that should be something that happens without saying. Just my opinion.

 

Anyway, excerpt one of my favorite quotes:

 

"You cannot change your past....

You cannot change how other people act.

You cannot change the inevitable.

BUT, you can change your attitude.

 

What is your attitude today?"

[monkey]

Justaregularguy, thats a nice quote

Sinkerswim, i thought about winning my s/o back like that, i thought on valentines i

should send a mass of roses or something, i did send a nice xmas present with a fiew nice words & i got a thanks.

My s/o decieved me in a way, she knew i had anxiety & panic attacks & whils i was in America, i had to come home earlier, i was told things i wanted to hear & i believed her, she just thought i wouldn't go home & get well if she told me then that she needed space, I bought her a big bunch of her favourite white lilies when i leaft, i wonder how she felt, a little bit of bad feeling & guilt, i think so!

 

I haven't given her the space she requested & it hasn't worked, now i do.

& i suppose everyone else going through this mental torture, just hopes we shall hear from them again, i'm sure after time they will get inquisitive, well i hope so anyway!

[JamVan]

Since my last post I have been together with my ex both the past two days. I met with her on Monday night and I took the advice of Eagle_Nate and my aunt and followed my heart. I will admit after going through averything my ex and I have over the past couple of months I tried to tell my head not to venture into this again as I had the great fear of it happening again. But, the reality of this whole thing has come full circle and found myself realizing, I do still love this girl and thought she was the one and still believe that, and thought can I live forever wondering WHAT IF? I said no! How this will all turn out no one knows and I guess that's how life treats us, but what I see in her now is I actually feel and see how much she cares about me and she shows and says how happy she is being with me.

 

Anyway, I guess what i'm trying to say is I thank you all for your advice and am going to remain around here to see how all your situations are going.

 

As for any advice. One point that has been redundant through this forum is when someone asks for space...give it to them...and all the way. They will never figure out their thoughts or realize what they might be loosing, unless they feel they have. That's what my ex or GF, not sure what to call her yet, said to me last night. She thanked me for giving her space and when faced with the real thought that I was going to be gone from her life, did she realized...I know what I want and what makes me happy, and that was me and her together and tackling all the other good and bad times in life together.

 

I have to at least give this a shot...even if my heart gets hurt again...but, if things work out! Then it's nothing lost and everything gained!!! Am I right in thinking this way?

[Fedup&givingup]

I truthfully feel that taking a break in a relationship is the beginning of the end. That one that is getting asked to take a break ends up feeling SO insecure about everything that you can rarely ever go back to the way things used to be. Think about that, too...the way things used to be is what caused the person to want to take a break in the first place.

 

IMO, people who want to take a break are being cruel to the other person. They are stringing them along, and they are watching them squirm and wriggle. All the stories shared by the people that have been put on hold sound the same. The other thing I think/notice is that when/if the couple gets back together, the one that took the break comes back with this attitude that they can almost do anything and get away with it. That other person has just been tested to see how much crap they are willing to put up with from the one who wants to take a break.

 

I just don't see the whole thing as good. My advice to the ones who were told by the counter part in their relationship that they want to take a break...give them a break, a permanent one. It won't EVER be the same afterwards. It's not fair to yourself, it's torment.

[justaregularguy]

Hey Fedup&givingup

 

You pretty much took the words right outta my mouth. I've been doing nothing over the last week except being a rational / levelheaded guy and not *worrying* about anything in terms of what the potential outcome will be with my ex. She still drops me email notes, and I respond like I normally did - but it's just not the same. Somehow she always tries to twist anything I say into a negative light and what used to be simple joke emails and light sarcasm has somehow turned into personal attacks on her and how I'm not being nice to her. I'm not sure how giving short one or two word answers to simple questions are construed as being "not nice" - especially when her reason for our breakup was nothing more than a simple one or two word answer.

 

Anyway, like you said - BE FAIR TO YOURSELF, and don't put yourself through any unnecessary undue stress and grief over someone who "JUST DOESN'T GET IT" - meaning -THEY wanted a break, THEY asked for this, so what do THEY expect? get them to turn the tables and see how they would feel if you asked for *space* yet continued to contact them, tell them you miss them, send them all these positive vibes, then yank them away in an instant saying they're not being nice for absolutely no reason....

 

In *SOME* rare cases, things DO in fact work out, so I'm glad to hear things have worked out for you JamVan - but speaking out of my own experience, I've come to the conclusion my headspace is better utilized for less-stressful, less-confusing, and more positive thoughts and intentions.

 

Best wishes to everyone on here.

[OnlyEverything]

Very very very well said. Thanks for those words RegularGuy

[situationsmend]

Justaregularguy-

 

My ex does the SAME Exact thing. She'll call up and want to chat and if i act any different towards her, like tease

her about something or joke with her in a "friend" kind of way, she gets so : "You never talked to me that way before.."

They Don't Get It!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

THEY left US. Seriously, How would they like it if the tables were turned? How can my ex be hurt if I don't feel

like hanging out all the time because it's too painful. She asks me all the time If I hate her. I say no. But she just

doesn't understand how painful it has been.

 

THEY DON'T GET IT!!!!

[dlb311]

they dont understand and probably wont... maybe if you back off and tell them I can't be your friend and really go for it don't return calls dont answer or take their calls dont reply to their e-mails... that may hurt them as much as them leaving us hurts...but probably wont even compare then but they might be able to understand maybe were we are coming from...

 

They can't and wont understand because they are dealing with what they feel... they are confused they don't understand why they want to be apart but they know they do....

 

they want to have their cake and eat it too... telling someone time and space it like telling them well I want you but I don't feel like I am seriously ready for this much of a commitment so lets take a breather and I will date and if I see you are better then the rest I will come back...

 

its your chioce if its worth it to you.....

for me it was but it is really hard and I have learned alot. THat relationships are better when you are who you are and they are who they are not you are him and he is you.... My boyfriend and I were inseperable before we broke up... now I spend a whole weekend with him and I feel like I need a day... not because I love him less I just realized I need my time just as well as he needs him....

 

don't let them play with you if she gets mad saying you never acted this way before say well weren't just friends before... now we are. I do treat my friends differently then my s/0.....

[justaregularguy]

You're welcome OnlyEverything - best of luck to you.

 

Situations - aint it just RIDICULOUS?! What used to be the source of such humour and laughter all of a sudden gets TWISTED into something so serious - and you're left sitting there thinking "what in the name of gawd is she talking about? We just joked about this a couple weeks ago?!"

 

DLB - you're absolutely right. The troubling / frustrating / nerve wracking / unsettling / AGGRIVATING thing is, I DO in fact think it is worth it in the end if all this extra-cirricular BS was left out of the equation. Say you don't like me anymore, tell me you want to date other people, tell me you didn't like spending the day at the Spa and in the Penthouse of the hotel for Valentines day - but don't tell me you need space and then when you DO decide to send a quick little note to say hello (which is cool I guess), twist my response into something and try to make ME the bad guy. Come to think of it, it's almost comical how it has all turned out, especially because of how we went into this relationship in the first place - always talked about not wanting to waste anybody's time, and we're too old to be dating just for the sake of dating anymore, and it's hard to find decent people these days so when you do, you should try and make something of it, and blah blah blah blah... It's like one big gigantic contradiction and I'm sitting here thinking - holy crap, I was the biggest sucker in the world.

 

Anyway, moral of the story is - everyone is in a unique situation, whether it applies to how long you've been in the relationship, how many other relationships you've been in, how old you are, and obviously NUMEROUS other factors. Nothing would make me happier than to reconcile the situation and *at least* be able to come out of the whole mess with a good friend - cuz you'd hope all the time and effort isn't complete down the toilette. I've managed to stay good friends with ALL of my ex's because we broke up for a specific reason - no matter how painful that reason was, we *at least* both managed to suck back our pride and admit what the reason WAS for breaking up. In *this* particular case, I have absolutely no bloody idea which drives me INSANE. Everything was great, and within 12 hours of me leaving her bed to go to work, we are now in this state of limbo where I can't even send / reply to a joke email without her being somehow insulted, and if I answer the phone the wrong way, I apparently sound choked....... *sigh*.

 

At the end of the day, if you're s/o is inconsiderate enough to just let you sit there and STEW and think all these horrendous things about why you've broken up (like are they dating someone else? did they not like the way you made their eggs in the morning? did you snore? did you hog the blankets? GIMME SOMETHING), how do they expect us to just carry on any conversation and this intermittant *token* contact like absolutely nothing is wrong? I can probably speak for the bulk of us, as we do not possess the skills of Kreskin the mind-reader.... for crying out loud. I can swallow my pride to a *certain extent*, but when it's at the expense of going against your own moral fibre/backbone - no matter HOW much you like/love/lust this particular person, it simply CANNOT be healthy and result in anything positive in the long run. I expect to behave and BE the person I was the day I FIRST met her and I think it's only fair to expect something similar in return. If THEY somehow change so drastically and become someone completely different during this "space period", I almost have to ask the question to everyone here - who is actually the person we're waiting for to come back? The "honeymoon" is over, and now you're dealing with someone who *used* to laugh, used to say and do all these wonderful lovey dovey things, and now - all of a sudden - is giving you grief for making a simple (obviously) sarcastic comment in a joke email...

 

hmmmmmmmmm, I don't do Jekyll and Hyde very well and as much as "life is a box of chocolates", I'm not sure I really want to find out what comes back after this "space". Then again, doesn't look like it's going to happen anyway, so it's really a moot point.....perhaps a blessing in disguise.

 

In any case, I am speaking *purely* from my own situation/experience, so please forgive me if you are in a better place than I in terms of your "needing space" predicament. I seriously hope all of you can hold your head up high, keep your chin up and everything somehow automagically works out the way it's supposed to. For myself, I just have to look up at the sky, throw my hands in the air and shake my head.

[situationsmend]

JustARegularGuy-

 

I hear you So Loud And So Clear. she LOVED me...I mean

LOVEEEED me. Told me so many serious and powerful things, now she's moved out and doesn't want to

be my girl. 4 years of complete Bliss, with every bit of my love and my heart and my care to show her she

was loved by me and that i cherished her completely, that I accepted every part of her. Now she's gone.

I never insulted her, never disrespected her, never yelled at her or was deliberately mean to her. I only loved

her. I guess I should have been more of an a**h***, I don't know. I'm completely puzzled to this day.

 

**And there are Mixed signals galore.**

In the past 7 MONTHS, She broke up with me once, She came back, crying, confessing her undying love for me then she broke up with me again. **she finally moved out. Yet she still wants to know me, still wants to do things with me, just not every day, She says. She asks my friends about me all the time. Got moody and depressed when i told her I was moving out of our house we had together to move in with a friend, since she's gone now...She cries on the phone and says she misses me, yet when I ask "where do we stand?" she has NOOOOOO idea. She says she doesn't know what she wants and She doesn't

know anything, never wants to talk about it because it makes her sad. She just knows she wants to be on her own.

 

We would converse about the SAME EXACT THING... About how hard it is to find a decent guy/girl these days so when you do, you should try and make something of it and be happy you found someone so good for one another, share our dreams together.... But i guess they were just empty words to her. But not me. I meant every word.

Now i'm forced to adjust to a life without her. She wants to remain friends...but why?

If I broke up with a girl who really really really really loved me and I broker her heart, I would feel like such

an A$$ saying, "well we can still be friends". I'd feel like such a selfish dick leaving her hanging on, breaking up

with her, then saying I missed her and giving her false hope.

 

whatever. Life goes on..

[dario]

I hear you on this one. My ex said similar things like, 'when you finally meet someone you should make a go of it...because it's so hard to find etc.' All words...perhaps meant at the time. But they are powerful things to say - sometimes equivalent as saying, 'i love you' etc. My trust factor has returned to zero. But, yes, life goes on.

[davej]

I agree with everything being said.. My ex still hasn't contacted me, (and I haven't contacted her), but I heard from a mutual friend yesterday that she is starting to wonder if she made the right choice. We were together for (in my opinion) 5 1/2 wonderful years. We've been apart for about 6 weeks now. I'm going to try and lay low and let her come back to me if she so desires, but all this talk about would things be the same really hits home. i don't know if I could look at her in the same light as I did in the past, as much as I know I would like to. If she could do this once for no apparent reason, who's to say that it won't happen again in a year or two?

[JamVan]

Dave j

 

I used to think the same way...I just want things back to the way they were, but I then came to realize we tried before to get things back to the way they were which in turn led us back to the road we were on before sepearting. Then the notion came to me, maybe I should just remember the good times as the past, you know how you look back on times of your life and remember the good times, well keep those times as just that.

 

I decided to myself, I will take this as a bran new beginning and go forward and make new memories. Sometimes the past is best left there and new beginings are just what a relationship may need to become pure again. That being said, I believe you are doing the exact thing you need to, by not making any contact. That's when things start to happen and the other starts questionning their decisions and if she comes back and you still want her, then that's fine, and if she comes back and you don't want her, then she might just learn a valuable lesson in life.

 

You can screw with someone's emotions and expect them to just forget about everything, that takes time and space, so maybe the space is something both parties needed but some we don't know it at the time.

 

I was talking to my ex/gf still sort of working on that on what to call her, and she said I think what we went through was a good thing for us. I knew exactly what she meant, not meaning in in a bad way, sometimes people need to part in order to realize the one true thing that was great for them. We fortunatley realized this and although very scary, the feelings right now are absolutely fabulous. Once I called it quits saying I couldn't handle this emotional roller-coaster any longer, only then did I realize I would be alright without her, but I realized deep down inside that there is something different and special with what we had and if fate brings us back together, then it was meant to be.

 

Everything happens for a reason, no matter how confusing it may seem at the time.

[OnlyEverything]

well I'm completley f**ked in the head. I hung out with My ex last night and things are still

kind of weird between us, but we were getting along good, sort of having dinner at my place and

talking about what's been going on and snuggling a little BUT THEN, we ended up having sex and that

just ruined everything. We both just got caught up in the moment, started kissing, kissing heavier and

you know what happened next.

 

Sure it was nice while it was happening but she left in a hurry afterwards...Said she's confused...Didn't really

kiss me goodbye. meanwhile, i left feeling like when a man and a woman have sex and the guy just ditches her right after,

saying, "okay I gotta go".

 

I can't get a straight answer out of her ever. She's lost and says she doesn't know what she wants. I'm pissed at myself

for letting it happen and mad at her, because it doesnt seem to mean that much to her, it doesn;t phase her. I know she'll

try and forget that it happened. But i don't have sex, just to have sex. I thought at least she'd say something to me

after, But she didn't.

 

Maybe I need to go to the "Guys who have sex with their girls who need time and space" Message Board. I'm

going insane in my head. I love her soooo much and she's not sure about anything. our 3 years of LOVE is

becoming a fuzzy memory because of all of this BS going on with her going back and forth with me. Some days she

acts like she wants to come back, other days she doesn't.

 

sadness is creeping in.

[glasshammer]

dude, I'd say just forget about it. forget that it happened. It probably didn't last long anyway, i'm assuming...

So let it go. If you think she's going to forget like it never happened, then you need to as well.

 

the thing is, if you're saying she's confused and didn't say a word after the sex, bringing it up later and

demading you guys talk about it, could really send her away from you and then you guys may not reconcile, if that's what you want. she seems like she wanted sex too, since you didn't say that she tried to stop it and

i assume you didn't force her to.

 

Just let it go for right now. let her come to YOU. don't fall into sadness either, stay strong.

[davej]

JAMVAN: How long were you guys together/apart before your recent development?

[JamVan]

dave_j we were together for a quick and furious 9 months. We went on 2 breaks before this last one. The first two were no longer than three days, but this last one lasted just beyond 3 weeks. During that time she would contact me and I would basically give her the I don't care attitude and just let her know I'm fine without her, not saying the actual words, but you get the just of it. IT was much like a game, one which none of us want to play, but we had our time a part and both realized the same thing and are now beginning our reconciling. Even now, as good as things are going, I find myself scared, but just put my mind set in that I've been down this road before, now lets see if there a different one to take this time.

[justaregularguy]

Hey JamVan

 

Great to hear you're on the road to mend. Hope it works allllllllll works out for ya.

 

Not to be a negative influence on this other wise FANTASTIC forum of support - but I'm about as bitter and jaded a guy can possibly get.... lol - JUST KIDDING.

 

I've managed to keep some sort of sense of humour regarding all this as I just went through about 3 months of me and my ex's emails - damn hillarious stuff....

 

Anyway, if anything of material significance changes in my situation, I'll be sure to let everyone know about it. You never know what the future holds.

 

On another note, I'm reading a fantastic book called "The Saint, the Surfer, and the CEO" written by Robin Sharma (he also wrote The Monk who sold his Ferrari) - I highly recommend it to anyone here trying to get their minds off of things and put "life" into perspective.

 

Good luck all

[MarKus]

Ok me and my gf/ex of nearly 3yrs have been on a break over 2 months, she is 20 me nrly 22. I have only seen her a couple of times face to face since, i have seen her around town. i met up her briefly to give her some photographs i printed of her dog, (which had recently died)

As soon as she saw me she had this big smile on her face, but she looked different, mabye cos she had burgundy streaks put in her blonde hair anyway i also drew her a picture of the dog off my own back cos i was fond it, she really loved and thanked me so much etc, she was with a friend so i didnt really get the oppertunity to talk to her about stuff, she was boasting to her friend about going out that night, infront of me to probably try to make me jealous, which didnt work.

 

I told her i was sorry i rang last weekend (I was a bit drunk at the time cos i was out in weymouth clubbing with friends), but i was sober enough not to go into detail about us, she said it was okay. I told her i was in weymouth (which is 25 miles away), she replied sharply "Who were you in weymouth with then?"

When we were together she would always say stuff like that if she was jealous, or wanted to know who i was with, i know her to well, but we are on a break requested by her, so why would she say it like that??

 

a couple weeks ago my dog also died and she text me asking how i was, and a few days later i recieve a card from her parents thanking me for the photographs and the drawing i had done and said sorry to hear about my dog dying they know how im feeling, which i thought was very nice of them.

Funnily enough i bumped into her parents a week later and they were very pleased to see me, we spoke for 10 minutes, and just before they had to go i asked how she was, they said she was fine, but i know they dont like this girl she has starting going around with.

 

When she first started going around with this girl (who is only 17), thats when things started to get weird in her behaviour and her asking for a "break and time".

So i cant help but think her younger friend influenced her in some way, but at the end of the day its her decision

 

 

i have only spoke to her on the phone once or twice, and she has text me during the break, asking how i am what im up to and allsorts, i have kept contact to a bare minimum though in the first week i didnt, cos i was in shock, alli wanted to do was meet her and wanting to know WHY? which is natural i suppose, i have occupied myself, which has been HARD cos i love her to pieces. I didnt bother with valentines day, but i did send a small happy birthday card, i have kept contact to a bare minimum, and if we have its only been simple

 

We great times and a few bad patches like every relationship does, 3 months in it was obvious she wanted to stay everysingle day and night with me, yes i loved it. but we were in eachothers pockets all the time so to speak, which caused some friction sometimes, and after a while i told her it wasnt healthy for us and i told her we should spend a few days a week at our own houses, but she didnt want to,

shed get jealous me seeing my friends,she was the jealous type, but i was ok if she wanted to go out her friends, but she wanted to be with me ALL the time. she was forever telling me she loved me so much cards/letters etc and the way she'd act around me, i would do the same, sometimes i would forget to do the little things, but i loved still love that girl to death,

 

Thats what i dont get?

 

 

Anyway a week ago she sends me a text message saying

 

"Do you reckon we should meet up sometime and have a chat"?

 

i said okay, but im still waiting for a responce.

 

why does she want a chat??,

do i meet her for a chat?? i got many things i want to say about the past, and the present, or shouldnt i delve into that too much? what shall i say?

 

Thats if she respondes.

 

help appreaciated thanks

 

Sorry if its long

[eagle_nate]

Hi Markus,

 

Sounds like your in a pickle there buddy.

 

Well, I've been through it a couple times with different ending so i have a little bit of insight to offer you on the matter.

 

First and foremost, leave her be. Let her do whatever the hell it is that she is doing. Your only question is...do you want to be with her? If so, you have to wait it out. If not, get rid of her. Simple really.

 

Sounds to me like you lover her alot and want to see things improve. Take this time to take stock of your relationship with her. Spend time figuring out what it is you love about her and what it is about her you could live without. What do you think it will take to make the rel/nship thrive?

 

These are the things you can talk to her about when she is ready to get back with you. And you can listen to her side of things as there is obvioulsy something she is trying to figure out herself, and go from there.

 

At some point, if this is hurting you alot, you may need to consider putting a stop to it. I did and it was very empowering...although now i am single and that is not the outcome i was hoping for...but i wasn't prepared to sit and wait while my ex figured things out on her time.

 

As for meeting her, thats your call! i would if i was you but thats me....my advice...meet her only if she wants to figure things out. That doesn't mean getting together....it means offering you some clarity, let me know how it goes!

[MarKus]

Hi Nate,

 

cheers for your input fella.

 

Yes i have left her to do what she has to do, and yes i do wanna be with her badly because i miss her, so im waiting it out,

 

but at the same time i have gone out with mates, and tryed to make myself not think of her, but boy it's so hard. I think about her when i go to sleep, and shes the first thing on my mind when i wake up.

I even caught myself trying to put my arm round her, but then i realised she wasnt there in the bed wit me,

 

its weird how its come to this cos she was mainly the one who wanted to stay over eachothers houses everynight throughout nearly all the 3 years, and see me ALL the time, and i mean ALL the time.

 

I told her year and half ago that we should spend a couple nights a week at our own houses for a change because i felt that spending every night with eachother wasnt healthy for us and we might drive eachother away, but she didnt want to do it, but i had our best interests at heart.

its a bit hypicritical on her part

 

I think that this friend of hers played a role by leading her astray persuading her to other things with her, and not bother with me, i reckon even her parents think this as well, because they dont like this girl. but i suppose she's her own person.

 

 

A big part of me wants to meet her, i have many things to say to her, and because i love her. so i will meet her, when she respondes

But a small part of me is saying, why bother after what she's doing right now.

 

 

After 3 years of me knowing how much in love with me she was, I just know that deep deep down in her heart she still has feelings for me, thats why im not giving up just yet.

mabye shes being stubborn, i dunno.

 

MarKus

[eaglenate]

Hi again,

Yeah, you're feeling the same things I did some time ago. It's been a month and a half and i still think about her all the time! So don't expect that to change any time soon. However, it sounds like she will come back to you.

 

The only thing I would do differently if I had to do it over would be to not try and figure it out. If she isn't telling you it could be a million different things...just try your best to keep busy and have some fun.

 

I'll hope for the best for you mate!

[Pebbles59]

I knew a guy that was waiting for this girl. He quietly said to me "I'll give her another month then %&$# her"...he gave her a month, two months, three months, four months, five months, six months, seven months, eight months. He found out that she was pregnant with someone else's baby. Heartache and heart broken guess who opened the door? ME. Now I'm in love with him and he doesn't want a relationship with anyone. Do I wait? Do I go? Should I communicate with him? Should I not? How should I respond in passing?

 

My heart races and flutters when I see him. He lives in the same apartment complex as I do. He knows I love him, he knows I trust him, he knows I'm not controling, he loves my time. He doesn't want a relationship right now and doesn't see it happening anytime soon. Yet "if I could say it, if I could give myself right now, it certainly would be YOU".

 

UGH....

Love sucks,

Pebbles

[situationsmend]

My girlfriend came back and wants a relationship with me. She says she was

WRONG and begged me to forgive her and that she loves me and knows that we're

meant to be and knows we are so good together. She says she loved me the whole time we

were apart but that she just needed to see what that thing inside of her was, wanting to be on her own.

I was so overwhelmed and just

completely caught off guard and have been so lost and hurt that i said YES YES YES.

 

This happened saturday. Since then, she's been telling everyone she knows that were

back together. I'm just kind of weirded out about the whole thing. I'm happy, don't

get me wrong, Because i stuck by her and showed her she was loved the whole time,

but still kind of confused and weirded out a bit. I really hope we make it. this will be

the second time we got back together after her breaking up with me for wanting to

be free and feeling confused.

 

Anyway, Just thought i'd mention to you guys, since I really have no one to talk to....

 

 

any thoughts?

[MarKus]

You are one lucky fella!

 

 

id wish that would happen to me in my situation