fabulous_chk Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 That is just a big heap of SH*T..sorry, but i am a guy, and i loved my ex very much. Whenever we would perform oral It was always give and take. SOMETIMES she would give and just want to move straight down to business, other times it was the other way round. I think that comment sounds like something you would read in a teeny weeny/pop/hello/vogue magazine. Sorry if this comes across as rude, but i disagree very strongly with that statement. Your ex obviously only wanted to hurt you when he said that to you, and i personaly want to smack him in the face for projecting that kind of crap about men. DO NOT generalise gender specifics like that. If you hold onto that total BS thought you will destroy any relationship you have. Trust me Just my 2p. no the ex stopped kissing and would move away his lips, stopped having sex and would only allow bj from the girl. the ex would usually just lay down and close his eyes. nothing else. it was not a give and take relationship anymore. that's the situation we were talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 no the ex stopped kissing and would move away his lips, stopped having sex and would only allow bj from the girl. the ex would usually just lay down and close his eyes. nothing else. it was not a give and take relationship anymore. that's the situation we were talking about. Yes thanks fabulous_chk. Sex used to be passionate and exciting and very equal between us. Towards the end he NEVER initiated, didn't really like when I did, when I did he would lie there like a sack of potatoes, SOMETIMES get into it but rarely, and all he was ever interested in towards the end was oral (for him not me). I LOVE giving oral though so I was fine with this...but obviously he checked out on me physically. Always said it was stress/sex hurt him - but made no effort to go the doctors. And obviously kissing doesn't require any effort or cause any pain so he was b/sing me. Thing is I do KNOW he didn't cheat, said he fancied me like mad still...so what happened I will NEVER know. Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 Thing is I do KNOW he didn't cheat, said he fancied me like mad still...so what happened I will NEVER know. he cheated...found a new p*ssy. my ex said he was getting old, or just tired. lol no he was banging this chick for 3 months...3 months of me performing oral sex on him and nothing back. that's how it is - just gotta laugh at ourselves and learn from what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
See_ya_on_the_flip Posted May 8, 2009 Share Posted May 8, 2009 I've been the dumpee everytime. (3X)....and no, none of the relationships worked in the long run. Let me add, that after we reunited, I was the on that f**ked up and forced THEM to break it off. I don't know why I don't listen to LOGIC and REASON, but instead follow my heart...mistake when I think about...and I'm trying to "follow my heart AGAIN. What's the definition of insanity? Doing something the same way and expecting different results (or something like that.) Peace Link to post Share on other sites
willfromsydney Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 i got back with my ex after being broken up for 6months found out a few things she had done while broken up i was gutted utterly devastated after finding out about her adventures while for the 6mnths i was a mess it took her 3mnths of begging and sucking up for me to take her back she actually left me all of a sudden after 3yrs together no warning sign that i could see got hit with it after work one day anyway we got bck together things were great to start off with i had the girl of my dreams back i was soo happy but 6-7mnths into she started slipping away again after 2yrs being back together she left me again same reasons as b4 only this time she went straight into the arms of another guy and had been cheating on me since we got back together with randoms she had met at work she was a bar chick which is where half our problems started but anyway its not worth it im devastated again iv been 1mnth nc with her now and i have many regrets of taking her back and haunted by the thought of her cheating and me being to naive to see it my point is its never the same once they have broken ur heart the trust is gone and u cant help but think they will do it again which has happened to me i wasted 5yrs of my life on a fairy tale im doing ok still angry but iv learned a great deal from it people dont change no matter how much u try or how much u love them i lost my sweet girl that i loved and adored yrs ago but couldnt let go i still love my ex and miss the thought of her dearly but i will never go back again no such thing as a 3rd chance imight sound a bit jaded maybe i am but im just giving u my story i would hate to see someone else make the same mistakes i have Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 What's the definition of insanity? Doing something the same way and expecting different results (or something like that.) Insanity: Doing the same THINGS over and over, expecting different results each time. Link to post Share on other sites
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 he cheated...found a new p*ssy. my ex said he was getting old, or just tired. lol no he was banging this chick for 3 months...3 months of me performing oral sex on him and nothing back. that's how it is - just gotta laugh at ourselves and learn from what happened. Trust me, he didn't cheat. I went through everything. He admitted to a LOT of **** in what I found, but didn't cheat. There is a relief in that! I think he might have mentally set himself up for someone new, but never physically. Link to post Share on other sites
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