andreautick Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 Ok, I'm back with more quanderies! So, I really like this guy...we'll call him Ben. Ben and I only talk every couple days in the halls between classes, and it's never for more than a minute or two, but he gives me butterflies. He acts very interested, and last Wednesday (the 15th of October) I saw him at the gym and he asked if he could stop by some time and we could hang out, watch a movie, etc., etc. I said sure (with a smile), and he knows where I live (we live in dorms and I'm an RA, and RA rooms are marked...and he clarified which floor I live on). So, it's Monday and he still hasn't stopped by. I've been around in the evenings (I've had a lot of midterms to study for, I wasn't just waiting around), and I have a message board on my door in case I'm not home. He still hasn't stopped by. To his credit, he was gone all weekend because ROTC stuff, and he's still acted really friendly and interested each time I've seen him since he asked if he could stop by (I've seen him twice since them, each time was quick). So tell me--when a guy says that does it mean he's really going to stop by, or what? From all info given, do you think he'll stop by so we can finally get to talk for more than a couple of intense seconds, or what? I guess I worry a lot, but he really does give me butterflies:) THANKS FOR YOUR OPINION!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
jalexy Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 sweety, call him or something. isnt it time to just get to the point with people at this age? i dont think we can answer such a question because we arent in the situation. you can tell alot by body language, or if the situation put it where he was just being nice. so who knows, call him, ASK HIM out. and go from there Link to post Share on other sites
Author andreautick Posted October 20, 2003 Author Share Posted October 20, 2003 I don't have his number (he doesn't have mine either), and he's the traditional type--as am I, who waits for the guy to do things until a dating routine is established. He had to go out of his way to ask me if he could stop by, we only had a few seconds to talk, I was with my friend at the gym, and there were people trying to get by. Our encounters are too quick to interpret lots of body language, besides the eye contact and smiling. Does that clarify anything? Link to post Share on other sites
MarieW Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 I'd say he sounds quite shy and perhaps you will have to make the first move despite tradition. Invite him out for a drink or dinner. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 sounds to me like he's quite busy or occupied w/school and outside activities. YOU should take the initiative and find him to hang out or whatever. In this type of situation, if you dont make the move...no one else will. and it will continue staying like this if you dont do something about it Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted October 20, 2003 Share Posted October 20, 2003 just have some patience! he'll come around. my view, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
innocent Posted October 21, 2003 Share Posted October 21, 2003 I am sure that he is probably just as busy with midterms too. Do you know if he has any? That might be stopping him from dropping by. If he really likes you then eventually he will come by, don't worry too much, and if it really bothers you them just ask him. Link to post Share on other sites
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