Am I fooling Myself

[RBA80]

My well "friend" and I were together for about 3years and lived together

for 2 of those years. We broke up about 1year and a couple of months

because I was going through some tough times with jobs and school.

She meet someone new at work and told me she deserves better.

I really don't want to write a ton on here so I will leave it at that.

 

Anyways recently she called me out of the blue and wanted to hang out.

I was shocked and we hung out. While we were hanging out she really

didn't say much and kept texting on her cell phone. I got that feeling

that she only wanted to hang out because her boyfriend was out of town.

 

My question to any ladies who want to reply is. Does she have any feeling for me or am I fooling myself. She hasn't made any contact with me or wanted to do anything with me for over a year and now this. When

she left she never made and attempt to remain friends and has avoided

every single request I have made to try and still be friends. I feel like

she just used me for company. I know she has a boyfriend but WTF?

 

Why would she do this? After almost 1 1/2 years apart. She droped me and didn't even really tell me why? Except she deserves better. I don't get it. I think I was better off thinking she was gone forever and leave it at that.

[calero]

It sounds like she is not sure if she made the right decision. It seems like maybe she is trying to see if the feelings are still there. Something is almost definantly not going right in her new relationship for her to call you out of the blue and want to hang out. Maybe she wanted to see if getting back with you might be better than the relationship she is in. You will have to go with your gut. See if she contacts you to get together again to hang out. If she does you might ask her how her boyfriend is and how things are going? This might give you a better idea of her intentions with you. If she does want to get back with you, do you want to be the rebound, the one that she goes back to because she realized after saying it that she can't do any better than you? It would be a nice feeling, but would it be a good relationship? You have to go with what you feel would be best for you in the end. At this point to don't really know what her intentions are. She could also have just realized that you were a really good friend and she misses that. Hard to tell. Good luck.

[BCCA]

Hard to say for sure, but I tend to think that if people want to see about trying things out again, they'll let you know. Was she at all flirty or touchy? What did you do when you hung out, and where did you go? Did she make ANY mention of getting together again soon, and if so, was it like 'someday' or 'next week'?

 

I feel like she just used me for company

 

If thats your gut feeling, then she probably did. She could also have just had some unresolved guilt, and felt that seeing you under the pretence of just being friends would help her to feel like she wasnt a bad person.

 

Really hard to say. A lot of variables, but again, I think if she was questioning her decision or seeing about getting back together, she would have made that a little clearer. Sounds like she was bored.

[Perrier]

I think it's poor manners to say the least to be continually texting on her cellphone. She hasn't seen you in over a year, she initiates contact and this is how she behaves?

 

Go with your gut, not sounding good you feel she was using you for company. In the absence of anything more solid to go on, it sounds like that to me too..... sounds like she was at a a loose end tbh