hotboxxin Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 So I'm watchin the game and I hear a ringing and its my gfs phone. I answer and its a guy. He goes is X there and I say no she's at work. He goes well o who's this? And I go its her bf who is this? He says his name is X and my gf gave her number to him. He said sorry he didn't know and hjung up. Earlier in the day I noticed the same number texted her when I passed her her phone. So I have her phonbe now and I checiked to see the text and it was deleted. I'm pissed abd am going to confron her after she's don't work. I don't think its ok for her to hand out her number anbd not mention me. Am I being too jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Am I being too jealous? Honestly? It's hard to say. When people have something to hide, they usually aren't dumb enough to let their significant other hold onto anything that would expose the secret (I.E: Cell Phone.) But again, it's difficult to judge the situation as I don't know your girlfriend. However, if I were you, I would have played my cards a bit different. Instead of coming out right away as the big bad boyfriend. I would of probably acted like a brother or something and played him into dumping information. Unfortunately, with you playing into him, he's probably had time to contact her and give her the opportunity to delete messages (which she has?) and come up with excuses. Again, take what I say with a grain of salt, because I don't know the situation.. Here are a few questions for you... How's your relationship with your girlfriend and have you been together for a long time? - Are you guys fighting or is it wonderful? - - Do either of you party a lot? - - - How old are you 2? and finally... Are you both faithful to one another? Link to post Share on other sites
curiousnycgirl Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 I would hold off getting angry - first get more data. When your g/f comes home, tell her X called and didn't leave a message - see how she reacts. It is quite possible that she did give her number - very innocently. I've had that happen - I'll be traveling on business or out for drinks after work and start talking to some guy at the bar. He'll ask for my number, and I'll give it to him, thinking he wants to continue the conversation (usually about work stuff). Days later he'll call to ask me out, and I'm left explaining that I am in a relationship but would love to be friends. Now if she blushes or gets flustered when you tell her that X called - that's something else entirely. You have plenty of reason at that point to suspect. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotboxxin Posted May 5, 2009 Author Share Posted May 5, 2009 Earlier in the day I saw a text from the same number asd this guy. She lost her phone and I found it. So when he phoned I noticed the number was the same and she had deleted the messagew from earlier. She DID NOT wwant to go to work wirthout her phone. I'm not gunna get mad but ask what's up. Its bs that she is hiding it from me. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 Earlier in the day I saw a text from the same number asd this guy. She lost her phone and I found it. So when he phoned I noticed the number was the same and she had deleted the messagew from earlier. She DID NOT wwant to go to work wirthout her phone. I'm not gunna get mad but ask what's up. Its bs that she is hiding it from me. Ahh, so she IS dumb. Well, you know about this guy now and she's trying to hide him... So, what does that tell you? It tells me that something is not right. In your situation, I would be a tad on the assertive side. I'd bring it up casually and see how she reacts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotboxxin Posted May 5, 2009 Author Share Posted May 5, 2009 We party a lot and were 19. I'm gunna be super calm but ask her about it. If ur SO did something similar would u not be mad? I don't trust her very much anymore... Edit: our relationship is great as of now. But her friends promote promiscuioty Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 If ur SO did something similar would u not be mad? I wouldn't jump to conclusions, but yes, I would be a little upset. Especially, if she attempted to hide it after a mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
Shock Me Sane Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 We party a lot and were 19. I'm gunna be super calm but ask her about it. If ur SO did something similar would u not be mad? I don't trust her very much anymore... Edit: our relationship is great as of now. But her friends promote promiscuioty She didn't do anything as far as you know. Give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she deleted it because she wasn't interested and giving her number out was just a stupid mistake. Don't go getting all paranoid and putting unnecessary strain on the relationship. Relax. And I'm pretty sure all 19 year olds promote promiscuity. It's basically their job. So, I wouldn't worry about that either. Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 I wouldn't get angry but try to gather some info because something isn't right. Obviously the guy thought she was into him and she erased his earlier message. Wait and see if she calls him or if she sends him a message. Link to post Share on other sites
Author hotboxxin Posted May 5, 2009 Author Share Posted May 5, 2009 Well she responded to his text. Saying sorry she couldn't hang out she had errands and work. When she was hangin with me I dunno... Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted May 5, 2009 Share Posted May 5, 2009 I don't think you need to be a genius to figure out what is going on. She is playing you. If the roles were reversed do you think she would be so accepting as you have been? It sounds to me that you are in denial. You judge a person by their actions and not by their words. Her actions seem pretty obvious. Link to post Share on other sites
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