A Wierd Bromance(he still wont leave his guy friends' side.Should I be jealous?)

[hollisterbaby]

So for the ppl who arent familiar with my story,for the past 2 months now my boyfriend of three years will not leave his guy friends' side. Just the other day he called me and had me on hold for 10 minutes talking to his guy friend. When I finally talked to him after that he said he forgot I was on the other line. I was a little upset but I didnt let it bother me. He sleeps at his house every night excepts on the weekends he comes home to be with me. I dont mind only seein him on the weekend(fri-thru mon)but Im just wierded out about how much time he spends with his friend.Even when we are hangin out his friend calls him and they will talk for what it seems like forever.Another thing for Christmas I bought him an xbox360 and 4 his bday I bought him a bunch of accessories to go with it. His Bday is in Feb. and up until 2day actually the xbox has been at his friends house. During the day when he's at home on the weekends he'll tell me how he wish he had his xbox,but it is at his friends' house. I just simply told him to bring it home. He got really defensive of his friend and was saying "But Jon has it!". I got really bothered of the fact he couldnt just bring the damn xbox home. After all I put alot of money into it and the accessories. Ive ranted too much,but I dont know what to think anymore. Am I freaking out still? Or should I just let it go that he likes to be with his friend 24/7. I need honest answers. My cousins who are like my bffs told me that he could be bisexual. What do u guys think??

[JeezLouise]

i think I would have hung up after 1 minute on hold. He knows your number, and he can call you back.

 

You dated for 3 years? That's a long time for him to be treating you like this. Why does he say that he does it?

[hollisterbaby]

actually this all just started.he hasnt never really treated me bad.everyone has problems and we have taken breaks before. he has never latched on to a friend like this. when i question him about it he says that they just hang out and that he doesnt latch on to his friends,but he has also kind of cut other friends off for this particular friend and always talks about him.we can be in the middle of foolng around or having an important conversation and he'll bring up his friend.does it sound like im jealous or wierded out. i even thought he wanted to go to the same college as him. when i questioned him,he said he's going for himself.his friend is going to this college to b with his gf.my bf seems like he follows behind where his friend goes,but he denies everything. his own grandmother has even noticed.

[sotired]

Why are you playing second fiddle to his male friend? Dump him and let him explore his sexuality. This is weird and not normal.

[Lucky_One]

He talks about his friend when you and he are fooling around? That's gross.

[Dman]

This does sound a bit odd. Even if he is not bisexual or attracted to his friend he is still putting this person before you. I can't believe you sat on hold for ten minutes. The fact he forgot you were even on the other line shows you where abouts you are in his list of priorities.

Leaving the Xbox round his friend's house is also a bit odd - it's like he knows he's going to be spending more time round there than his. I suspect he is taking advantage of you. Maybe he is bi-curious, maybe not, but you shouldn't allow yourself to be treated like this. Confront him on the issue and ask him straight out if there is anything else between them. Monitor his answer - is it hesitant, is it defensive? Surely he'd be horrified that you would think this if it wasn't true and would make every effort to make you feel more secure and spend more time with you - his girlfriend!