Island Girl Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 I know her, since I pretty much spent most of my free time at their house. She likes me so I don't think it would be a problem to call. I guess it would be like the final step in deciding if it's over. Yes. And she should understand how you are feeling since you had so much contact in the beginning. I would caution you that you do not accept her help in getting in contact with him if she offers it. It is HIS responsibility. If he is perfectly healthy and has stopped contact - then there is NO excuse. There is NO reason you should accept that behavior. And you should consider it OVER. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RcBunnys2 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 So, I called his mom over the weekend. The first time the line was busy, so i called the next day and that time it was busy too. I have decided to give up. He is either dead in a ditch or just an ass. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 I'm going to go for the 2nd option. Farming accidents usually make the news. Okay, no time for jokes. I'm sorry he's an ass. Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 Rc - I guess it's been almost 3 weeks since he contacted you I am really sorry, it must be incredibly disappointing to feel such a strong connection and have them flake on you. I hope you get some closure, purely for your benefit. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RcBunnys2 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Share Posted May 14, 2009 Alright, so yesterday what's-his-nuts reappeared... He logged onto his facebook. He replied to two messages I sent him: 1st: "Hey there... I haven't heard from you in a while. Are you okay? I hope you are just working a lot and didn't get hurt or something. REPLY: ya im ok i just work from 6 am till 12 ish" 2nd: "why don't you ever talk to me? i thought we were both gonna try. it's like i don't have a boyfriend. REPLY: i have no inter net any more and we are seeding so im rilly rilly tired MY REPLY: you haven't talked to me in two and a half weeks. Internet or no there are still phones. if you cared you'd make an effort. two minutes out of your day for a phone call isn't that hard. i thought you dropped off the face of the earth so i have started to move on. seeding is no excuse for neglecting me. if you didn't want to have a girlfriend you should have just told me instead of putting me on the back burner like i'm nothing. you are a true *******." Then that was it for messages. I talked to him on the facebook chat thing but it was a very short convo. Basically he said he was sorry and his internet wasn't working, then I said something like "well you have a phone" and then he logged off cause his internet crapped out. I was hoping for maybe a phone call after that, but there was non. I believe him that he works so much. He warned me before he left that he isolated himself when he goes there and engulfs himself in his work. I know that I should break it off right now because I was neglected but I also understand why I was... In my heart I don't want to end it. Shouldn't I listen to my heart? My gut? Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted May 14, 2009 Share Posted May 14, 2009 You said it yourself. There are still phones. If you stay with him then you are only enabling him to do worse because then he'll know that you will always be there no matter how mad you get or how sad his excuse is. And then you'll be his doormat forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I believe him that he works so much. He warned me before he left that he isolated himself when he goes there and engulfs himself in his work. I know that I should break it off right now because I was neglected but I also understand why I was... In my heart I don't want to end it. Shouldn't I listen to my heart? My gut? He isolates himself. That is his CHOICE. He neglected to call you or talk to you at all for almost 3 weeks. That was his CHOICE. He didn't think about your thoughts or feelings at all -- even if you would worry about his safety - you got no thought or consideration at all. That was his CHOICE. If you want a boyfriend that has such complete disregard for your feelings and really can't see past the nose on his face --- if you don't think you deserve better than that (ESPECIALLY since this is supposed to be when people put their best foot forward in relationships because it is brand new!) -- or if you think you want to waste a whole lot of time thinking he'll be different or it's just the circumstances, etc. then stay with him. By all means if you want to hang on then go for it. Just don't expect to be a priority and lower your expectations about time and attention greatly. You should just assume he is going to never talk to you or see you or treat you well. And then when the rare occasion happens and he actually does you will be threw the roof with happiness! Just keep in mind to stay away from anyone else in a relationship because when they complain about how bad their boyfriends are --- you are going to think their boyfriends sound like Prince Charming compared to yours. Well, nearly any guy will. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RcBunnys2 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Share Posted May 18, 2009 Thanks for helping. Alright, so tomorrow what's-his-nuts is supposed to come back into town. What do I do if he tries to contact me? Last time he came back he surprised me by coming to my school. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Say "Excuse me? Do I know you? You look like that jerk what-his-nuts."And walk away. Don't let him thing he can pull one over on you and you still hang around. You're too smart for that. Don't be his doormat. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 Say "Excuse me? Do I know you? You look like that jerk what-his-nuts."And walk away. Don't let him thing he can pull one over on you and you still hang around. You're too smart for that. Don't be his doormat. Good luck. I second this. Don't chat with him, don't talk to him if he asks, don't even look at him -- he is invisible. If he makes himself known ("hey Rcbunnys2") then you say the above. Do not spend one minute listening to ANYTHING he has to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RcBunnys2 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Share Posted May 18, 2009 For some reason I am kind of excited to tell him off. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 18, 2009 Share Posted May 18, 2009 For some reason I am kind of excited to tell him off. Okay so here's where you keep yourself in check. Going off on him shows you care and as far as what he did - simply dropping out shows he doesn't so it is best if you are really monotone about it. Quick. Done. And you get out of there. The fact that you aren't upset will bother him waaaay more. Trust me. And then don't answer any of the phone calls, etc. either. Just stop yourself. It is really important that you move on from this loser. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I agree with Rollercoaster and Island Girl here. Telling him off is the last thing you should do - it shows you have feelings for him and believe me that is NOT what you want. Be totally cool about the whole thing and walk away - with your self-respect intact. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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