Emoke Posted October 21, 2003 Share Posted October 21, 2003 Someone please give me some advice. I've been with this amazing girl, Chelsea, for about 6 months now. I've known her for about a year. We are totally head over heels for each other. Here it comes, BUT, My fears are starting to take over. I'm scared to lose her. I'm scared to lose feelings. I'm scared that she'll lose feelings... and so on. She knows about these and we've been working on them. We have the most amazing relationship but my doubts and fears sometimes take over.... We both know that we only really think each other is attractive and not anyone else... or at least I do... The latest thing now is me not talking... I mean.. I want to talk to her. Just plain talking like about your day and such. I just... I don't know I can't explain it. I WANT to talk to her. and she get's scared that by me not talking that I've lost feelings but in reality I haven't. I've explained this to her but she's so scared. and so am I. Someone please help me/us! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted October 21, 2003 Share Posted October 21, 2003 Talk to her. Make yourself talk. For the love of GOD make yourself talk. It ain't easy sometimes but try, man. That was my problem before and it was one of the main reasons my girl and I are on a break. As for your fears...I wouldn't really talk to her about that, might turn her off in a way, girls tend not to like insecurities of that nature, I could be wrong, I'm not a woman, but I would just kinda try to deal with it yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Emoke Posted October 21, 2003 Share Posted October 21, 2003 She knows about my fears... That's one of the great things about our relationship... We're completely open and honest... She understands but as of right now we're doing good...kind of. I'm still trying. Link to post Share on other sites
barbie_doll Posted October 21, 2003 Share Posted October 21, 2003 Have you tried writing her a letter? If you can't talk to her, then write to her, believe me she will be greatful. It sounds kinda "kiddish" but just try it . What can it hurt? What can it help? Good luck to you both Link to post Share on other sites
TheDonny Posted October 22, 2003 Share Posted October 22, 2003 At the begginning of my new relationship I felt tha if I did not talk to my girlfriend all the time she would begin to lose interest. What I did was confront her and ask her what she likes and dislikes as far as talking goes. She fully understood me, and told me to talk to her about any problems I may have in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Emoke Posted October 23, 2003 Share Posted October 23, 2003 Heh you guys are missunderstanding the whole thing... We can communicate about PROBLEMS. but we can't.... we have been able to in the past... I just can't seem to keep a normal conversation going... and I feel that's she's going to get fed up with it Link to post Share on other sites
barbie_doll Posted October 23, 2003 Share Posted October 23, 2003 You don't have to have a conversation to "communicate" with one another. Sometimes, just the way you look at someone says more than pages of words could ever say. If she is not complaining about you not wanting to talk, and is ok with it, then don't worry and spend your days loving her, not worrying. (besides worrying causes wrinkles) Time will heal this, I believe it. SILENCE IS GOLDEN my friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Emoke Posted October 26, 2003 Share Posted October 26, 2003 Thanks... Thanks much Link to post Share on other sites
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