Should I be mad

[Lacey08]

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now and he started watching some porn since we now have a computer and ordering it on tv..Im pissed and its causing a major issue between us, I told him how it makes me feel and how it makes me feel like Im not good enough..What do I do to fix this mess?

[Shock Me Sane]

I think it's pretty normal for guys to watch porn even when they're in relationships, but I know what you mean. It bothers me too. Although, it's mostly their doing it in secret that bothers me. Watching porn together can be fun though, and I think it's a reasonable request to ask him to include you. Even if you're not necessarily open to it, you could give it a try. If he's watching porn because your sex life sucks, you might want to focus on that instead of scolding him for trying to find an outlet for his sexual frustrations.

[MeaganRaye]

Tell him that if he doesn't respect the fact that you don't want him watching porn, you'll take the computer back to the store or cancel the internet service so he won't have access to it anymore

[JeezLouise]

Tell him that if he doesn't respect the fact that you don't want him watching porn, you'll take the computer back to the store or cancel the internet service so he won't have access to it anymore

 

Isn't that sort of treating him like he is a child? (An ignorant child at that - take the computer back to the store??)

 

Men tend to like porn. If it interfers or changes your sex life, then that is one thing. But I certainly don't think that anyone should tell me how or when to masturbate.

 

(Disclaimer - I am assuming he isn't watching serious deviant porn, like kids or goats.)

[MeaganRaye]

Isn't that sort of treating him like he is a child? (An ignorant child at that - take the computer back to the store??)

 

Men tend to like porn. If it interfers or changes your sex life, then that is one thing. But I certainly don't think that anyone should tell me how or when to masturbate.

 

(Disclaimer - I am assuming he isn't watching serious deviant porn, like kids or goats.)

How else is she going to get through to him that she really doesn't like him masterbating to other people having sex? She tells him that she doesn't like the fact that he watches it yet does it anyway. He isn't being considerate to how it makes her feel. I'd cancel the internet service.

[Lacey08]

I just would rather have sex with him then him watching porn and the fact of the matter is we are new parents so its kinda planned when we have sex and I guess he can masturbate when he wants. He does do it in secret and he already said return the computer if your gonna make it an issue. Im just hope I get it more and maybe I need to be more open to things. Thanks for everyone's input

[bean1]

How new is your child? Sex certainly dwindles during that time, when our little one came along, I'm sure there was a lot more porn going on then before. Eventually it evened out again.

[Shock Me Sane]

Tell him that if he doesn't respect the fact that you don't want him watching porn, you'll take the computer back to the store or cancel the internet service so he won't have access to it anymore

 

Uhhh... that's harsh.

 

 

 

If you're new parents, it's likely that your sex life isn't quite what it used to be, I'm assuming. And since your husband didn't have to physically have a baby, his libido isn't affected like yours is. Maybe just give it some time? Tell him you would rather he not be so secretive, and that you'll at least try to be okay with it to some extent. Ultimatums just seem... mean.

[JeezLouise]

How else is she going to get through to him that she really doesn't like him masterbating to other people having sex? She tells him that she doesn't like the fact that he watches it yet does it anyway. He isn't being considerate to how it makes her feel. I'd cancel the internet service.

 

Flip side. He could say that she isn't being considerate to how her demands make him feel.

 

Masturbating is normal. Men are visual creatures. They like to look at tits and a$$ to make their masturbation more pleasurable, just as most women fantasize while masturbating to make their orgasms more pleasurable. Maybe a girl likes to masturbate in the shower using her waterpik showerhead; if he tells her to stop it, should she?