DDay#3...OM#4...Devestation

[DNU1]

I do not believe DNUi's story..maybe it is true his wife cheated on him...but the rest are too fantastic!

 

Tami: Done. There is only one thing I hate more than being called a liar...that's being lied to (see my STBxWW for details on that one).

 

I gave you a second chance, and you come in here and call me a liar.

 

As GOD as my witness EVERYTHING I have posted here is the truth. Period. End of chapter. End of book.

 

I'm done with you Tami. Done. PLease get the hell off this thread. Don't come back, don't PM me saying you are sorry, asking for forgiveness, nothing. Be gone.

 

Done!!!

[GorillaTheater]

Well, yeah. Like I said, I'm in Tami's league.

[tami-chan]

I simply pointed out the meaness of that post, TC. If you or anyone said you were diagnosed with oral cancer , I would not begin with "well, there goes your oratory career". It was very mean and unneccessary.

 

Meanness...lol..you won't know that, of course . Stop lying, Reg, you know you have been trying to engage me by commenting on my posts and I have tried to ignore your comments. But well, you win! you got me to respond to you and why not, you are after all a lawyer. So celebrate!

[DNU1]

Back on topic people. If you want to bicker, do it elsewhere...

 

STBx lied to me again last night. She was asking whom I told about MY STD (like it's any of her damn business...) Then I asked her whom she told. And she flat out lied...AGAIN!

 

I think someone posted here (or another board) that the annon letter to Dr.X wife is a lie...just to get me to shut up and not tell Dr.Xs wife.

 

I've laid my evidence before some impartial third parties feet, and asked them what they would think if this was their spouse. Every one of them said, "straight to Plan D!" I think my WW and DrX are pissing in their pants. Let them.

[tami-chan]

Well, at least that wasn't SOP #2 ("You simply can't keep yourself from reading my posts, can you?").

 

You did go into victim mode ("you want to PERSECUTE me? Then do it right! Sure, you've got lots of ammo given my f*cked up situation, do it! DO IT!").

 

Just accept the fact you were out of line. I've done it, and I may be one of the few people here who rivals you in sheer hostility and @sshole-ishness. It didn't hurt. Much.

 

My situation is not "f*cked up. Not according to me, which is all that matters, right? He thinks it is, and keeps bringing it up-just enough so people can flame me, even though, he knows more details about it ( which of course, I have since regretted sharing with him-yeah, I know stupid me). Sorry, Gorilla, I do not think I was out of line. Let's just agree to disagree.

[DNU1]

Tami officially ignored...and I asked moderators to remove her from this thread for calling me a liar, harassing me and taking this thread off topic.

 

Bye-bye tami...

[Toodamnpragmatic]

Much of what you say is valid and logical. Some too is crass and pushes the envelope. I also have seen many posts people claim are are written by "trolls". I too questioned the seriousness of the situation in the early posts and the plot turns grow with each passing day. I believe DNU1's story, however also hope he is getting IC, because his rage (while may be fair and expected) is palpable from his posts.

[Dexter Morgan]

Tami: Done. There is only one thing I hate more than being called a liar...that's being lied to (see my STBxWW for details on that one).

 

Bah, don't sweat it DNU. Thats what she does. She goes around defending cheaters and people that screw other people's spouses.

 

Its nothing new. To people like her, its the BS's own fault they were cheated on...blah blah blah.

 

And here she is doubting you in other areas too. Since you are a BS, you have to be some sort of right bastard. Therefore you must be a liar too.

 

Again, don't sweat it. We all know better.

[Darth Vader]

...and the part that sucks the most about all this STD thing, is that I was looking forward to being free and meeting new women, being intimate with someone other than my one and only partner, the POSSTTxWW.

 

Genital Herpes is not contained through use of condom. It's genital area contact thaat spreads it. So *if* I would like to get intimate with someone, I need to tell them I've got Genital Herpes first.

 

So now my STBx has successfully screwed up the past 20 years of my life AND the next 40 years of my life!

 

I am no longer free...About the only thing that could be worse would to be HIV positive. Can't test for that for six months. SUCK!

 

 

Like the others have been saying..... Rake her sorry pathetic ASS over the coals in Court! Take her for ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Make her feel the burn!

 

Um, does your Lawyer know yet? Your Lawyer had better not Suck, because this POS ruined your life!

[Darth Vader]

Tami, you better not answer anymore on this thread. You've really pissed off someone who's lost his life already........... He was the one who tried everything he knew how to do, she didn't. Now just STOP!

 

If you keep going, you may be banned from the site in the end.

[Darth Vader]

DNU1, you wanna borrow my Light Saber? You may need it in Court. Too bad it won't go through the mail though...........

 

Seriously though, I don't think it's possible, (since you were the one faithful), to give your wife an STD like Herpes. But, even if you somehow contracted it through other means, (again, I don't see how.) that would be too bad on your wife's part if she got it from you, because she sure as hell has been up to no good all these years.

[DNU1]

Thanks for the support Darth! Light Saber? Hmmmm...that might come in handy.

 

yea, if her testing comes back negative I'll be banging on my Doc's door bright and early next morning to get re-tested. Cause there is no way in hell that I gave my STBx this genital herpes thing. I've said it before, will say it again, I've been completely faithful to her for 20+ years.

 

Attorney knows of the STD thing, but says it probably doesn't effect my case.

 

Oh well, either way it destroys any shread of sympathy I have for her in this whole thing. I did nothing wrong. I worked my tail off for her and this marriage. Supported her career for 18 years, left four career paths, moved four times, etc., etc., etc.

 

I'm sticking to my plan. Just compensation and fair and equitable financial settlement.

[Darth Vader]

Thanks for the support Darth! Light Saber? Hmmmm...that might come in handy.

 

yea, if her testing comes back negative I'll be banging on my Doc's door bright and early next morning to get re-tested. Cause there is no way in hell that I gave my STBx this genital herpes thing. I've said it before, will say it again, I've been completely faithful to her for 20+ years.

 

Attorney knows of the STD thing, but says it probably doesn't effect my case.

 

Oh well, either way it destroys any shread of sympathy I have for her in this whole thing. I did nothing wrong. I worked my tail off for her and this marriage. Supported her career for 18 years, left four career paths, moved four times, etc., etc., etc.

 

I'm sticking to my plan. Just compensation and fair and equitable financial settlement.

 

 

I can't see how her giving you an STD wouldn't matter much............

 

That's a life altering event which can never be taken back, like all the rest of the other events. It's like the courts assume that a person can do whatever short of murder and get away with it. I don't know, maybe the case you're wanting happens separate from the Divorce. The thing that sickens me is, that she slept around and gave you a serious STD, and that wouldn't matter, now if you had Hit her, you'd be wrong and the only person in trouble! See the Bias?

 

With the Doc, get a second opinion! Go to another doctor. You say your STBX-Hex and OM are scared, about what? You, STD, or whatever legal challenge you might bring their way?

 

Hmmmmm.....................................................................................

 

I've just had a Dark thought(Yeah, really! Can't you tell!), Anyway, You can go after the other Doctor for damages if it comes to light that he had an STD, passed it to her then to you, but, I'd ask a really good Lawyer about that one though, if your Lawyer doesn't know enough about that. It takes 2 2 tango, and it sounds like that Mr. Doc didn't take responsibility for informing her about his Herpes, if he's the one that passed it around.

 

About the Light Saber, well, it won't go through the mail, too bad I don't have one of those Transporters like in Star Trek! I'd Beam it to ya. Anywho, check out the stuff typed, if you haven't already. Laterz. Vader out.

[stampdaddy]

my only thought on the STD thing having any weight in court is this: I mean, how could anybody ever prove who gave who what and who got it in the first place? And because you "say" you have been faithful (I believe you, by the way) how could the court prove this?

 

anyway, it sucks and I am sorry that all of this happened to you...

 

have a good weekend

[Toodamnpragmatic]

But back to some wondering if you are a troll.... Your story has evolved, many twists and turns. I still don't know how much truth/honesty you have gotten from your stbxw. Any email, texts, computer, private investigation and actual concrete evidence?

 

How quickly you have moved to divorce since DDay. Herpes out of nowhere.

 

You say you have given up pretty high level 4 career paths for your spouse and sorry as far as I can tell she is a doctor and you haven't stated that she is a leading practitioner in a field that has forced the moves. Again not everything computes and I am not trying to be mean, just stating the facts.

 

Also you have not posted a single response to anything outside your own thread on LS.

 

I hope everything you said and all of us believe to be true (though I am sorry for you and your children), but it does make for quite an amazing story.

[Darth Vader]

my only thought on the STD thing having any weight in court is this: I mean, how could anybody ever prove who gave who what and who got it in the first place? And because you "say" you have been faithful (I believe you, by the way) how could the court prove this?

 

anyway, it sucks and I am sorry that all of this happened to you...

 

have a good weekend

 

 

Each virus carries it's own unique signiture markers, which varies from strain to strain of a particular virus, match those strains and well........ I think you get the idea. I know, I know, it sounds like something you'd get off of Star Trek, or one of those CSI show thingys, but hey, it all sounds good.

[stampdaddy]

Each virus carries it's own unique signiture markers, which varies from strain to strain of a particular virus, match those strains and well........ I think you get the idea. I know, I know, it sounds like something you'd get off of Star Trek, or one of those CSI show thingys, but hey, it all sounds good.

 

well, I sure learned something today.... nevermind my post DNU... Youre in good hands with Detective Vader

[Darth Vader]

well, I sure learned something today.... nevermind my post DNU... Youre in good hands with Detective Vader

 

 

Ha ha ha! It's only Theoretical, I probably did catch it on one of those shows. No way for sure if it's possible to trace stuff like that, but, it's an idea, better than nothing.

[DNU1]

But back to some wondering if you are a troll.... Your story has evolved, many twists and turns. I still don't know how much truth/honesty you have gotten from your stbxw. Any email, texts, computer, private investigation and actual concrete evidence?

 

Not much truth from STBx. She continues to lie to me, even to this day. Concrete evidence, I've got e-mails about A with OM#3. I got texts about OM#4, but didn't give up my source, just threatened polygraphy until she came clean. I've got her on tape admitting to the affair, but she still continues to deny it was ever more than a one time sex two years ago.

 

By the way, don't believe her one bit.

 

She would have never told me about either of these latest OMs...mainly because back 14 years ago with OMs #1 & #2 I said I never would go through this again...

 

How quickly you have moved to divorce since DDay. Herpes out of nowhere.

 

DDay#2 with OM#3 was in December 2008. DDay#3 with OM#4 was May 5th. Divorce papers served May 8th. I wasn't playing around.

 

You say you have given up pretty high level 4 career paths for your spouse and sorry as far as I can tell she is a doctor and you haven't stated that she is a leading practitioner in a field that has forced the moves. Again not everything computes and I am not trying to be mean, just stating the facts.

 

I was in university administration, and walked away from one job so we could move for her med school rotations. Left another job so we could move to her internship, residency. Left that job (my favorite) so she could take attending job. Left the fourth job because WW was unhappy in her position and we wanted to move back to home town.

 

You aren't being mean...I probably just haven't filled in all the blanks of my story.

 

Also you have not posted a single response to anything outside your own thread on LS.

 

I've been a very active poster over at MB.com. And had to change my screenname to protect myself once went to PLan D. I've posted here on the "OM/OW" forums. And I've posted a few on the keylogger thread here.

 

Basically I'm trying to work through my feelings and emotions of this divorce and following many threads doesn't help me stay focused. I'm trying to be the best Dad I can be and take care of myself.

 

I hope everything you said and all of us believe to be true (though I am sorry for you and your children), but it does make for quite an amazing story.

 

Yes, it's an amazing story, and I sincerely hope it doesn't get any worse from here. I've always considered myself a pretty lucky guy. Had good luck landing jobs when we have moved, and really felt I "outkicked my coverage" with my wife. A month ago I would have told you how lucky I was to have such a beautiful, successful and wonderful person to be married to. Today she just looks like a shell of the former person I knew.

 

I really wish my story was a made up fantasy / troll story. But this is my life right now. Sucks, but it's all true.

 

I've alwasy been a "talk the talk and walk the walk", "what you see is what you get" kind of guy. Sometimes it's hard to post things here because I'm ashamed or afraid of 2x4s coming my way. BUt the posters here and over at mb.com have been a great strength in my life. I don't think I could have ever headed to Plan D without support here, there and from family.

[BUENG1]

But back to some wondering if you are a troll.... Your story has evolved, many twists and turns. I still don't know how much truth/honesty you have gotten from your stbxw. Any email, texts, computer, private investigation and actual concrete evidence?

 

How quickly you have moved to divorce since DDay. Herpes out of nowhere.

 

You say you have given up pretty high level 4 career paths for your spouse and sorry as far as I can tell she is a doctor and you haven't stated that she is a leading practitioner in a field that has forced the moves. Again not everything computes and I am not trying to be mean, just stating the facts.

 

Also you have not posted a single response to anything outside your own thread on LS.

 

I hope everything you said and all of us believe to be true (though I am sorry for you and your children), but it does make for quite an amazing story.

 

What is the purpose of this post? Do you think he owes you and everyone else posting here proof. Emails, pictures what? If you don't believe what is posted here, then you don't have post here its really that simple, and in addition if you click on his name you can see that the above poster has posted elsewhere.

[Toodamnpragmatic]

What is the purpose of this post? Do you think he owes you and everyone else posting here proof. Emails, pictures what? If you don't believe what is posted here, then you don't have post here its really that simple, and in addition if you click on his name you can see that the above poster has posted elsewhere.

 

 

The funny thing is I take everything at face value. It is others who post wondering the validity of some threads. I seldom do. The story however is really quite amazing. I did notice he posted in other areas, whereas I lurk here.

 

DNU1 answered me and I said I did believe him and he answered me with no maliciousness in his tone. I feel terrible about his situation, but it is quite the story.

[Reggie]

Not that it has any bearing on veracity(I still cannot figure out the logic of why posting on other threads is an indication of veracity), but I beleive DNui has posted on other threads.

His story is far from far-fetched based on the myriad stories I've read. It's a fairly common, run of the mill stroy. I've read three other stories where the BS contracted an STD. and, there are many, many stories of serial cheating throughout a marriage. I've seen no inconsistency at all.

[DNU1]

DNU1 answered me and I said I did believe him and he answered me with no maliciousness in his tone. I feel terrible about his situation, but it is quite the story.

 

I just call them like I see them. And believe me, no one feels worse about my situation than me. Thought I had the world by the balls, beautiful wife with great career, wonderful kiddos, nice house, vacations, good stuff...but all that comes crumbling down with lies, deceipt and adultry. ICK.

 

You want to see some really bad stories, head over to marriagebuilders.com and check out the GENQII forum. My stores doesn't even compare to some I've read there. Hard core stuff my friends. Hard core.

 

Update: today I helped neighbor buddy mulch. STBx took kiddos to pool, then got jimmy johns. Texted me saying dinner was home. I texted back saying I was having a beer...go ahead and feed them. I waltzed in hour later all grubby and sweaty, said thanks for the JJs as she sat in basement by herself watching movie. I showered, threw on nice jeans, shirt and said I was heading back to neighbors for some smores and a few more beers. Spent night shooting bull with neighbor friends as kiddos played outside.

 

She sat home and probably moped around house. Ha. No sympathy from this prairie dog. She gets what she deserves. Off to bed.

[DNU1]

This just boggles my mind. I'm looking back on financial records, seeing all the "date nights" we did to re-connect, to spend time together. Seeing the bill from Cancun trip in January that she suggested in Dec, before DDay#2, seeing all the little bills for things I did to try and recover the marriage.

 

And I'm looking back on pictures from past two years (I'm photog and take LOTS of family pics, candids, etc.) and I see her with me, with kiddos, with family...and I can't even begin to think what it must have been like to know deep down inside her mind/heart that there was always another man lurking in the background(?!!)

 

What kind of heartless, selfish person allows her husband (me) to work so hard at recovering the marriage, yet knows deep down inside that there is still someone else?

 

How can someone live a live like that? Live the life of lies for so long? Two years. Then last fall engage in yet ANOTHER affair? And never come clean. Never say, "this is what I've done, please forgive me...I'll do anything to make this right"

 

Never.

 

I discovered both affairs. I firmly believe that she would have never broken it off with either OM, and she would have never told me of either affair. Selfish. Self-centered. All about her and her comfort, her needs getting met. Ug.

 

I just can't imagine what must have been going through her mind all this time. I've asked her a few times and I get the standard STBx get-out-of-conversation-free-card, = "I don't know."

 

I don't know. Boggles my mind!

[Reggie]

You'll never get the mind of the disordered, DNUI, and will drive yourself nuts trying to figure it out. They have a whole different take on life , primarily due to their incredible sense of entitlement.

Stop trying to figure it out(easier said than done). Check out bpdfamily.com. You willsee many stories eerily similar to your and you will see folks confused like you are, as well.