Nuala83 Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 I was just wondering if anyone else out there found comfort in break up songs to cope with their heartache. I kinda went through stages.. First of all I burst into tears every time any love song came on the radio Then I started to listen to sad songs (especially bell bottom blues which had me crying into my cornflakes one morning) Then I went through my bitter stage where I listened to angry sorta f*** off and die songs Now I'm listening to my moving on songs which seem to help some. Now and again I slip back to listening to bell bottom blues but I think I'm starting to hit a turning point. I'm far from over it but I'm starting to accept things. Here's some of my favourite break up songs. Please feel free to add your favourites. I'd love to know what songs/movies/whatever are helping others cope. Sad ones Oasis: Stop crying your heart out Roxette: It must have been love Michelle Branch: Goodbye to you Eric Clapton: Bell bottom blues (I cried my eyes out to this one for weeks) Angry ones Alanis Morisette: You oughta know Kelis: Caught out there Ben folds five: Song for the dumped Moving on/acceptance ones Fleetwood Mac: Go your own way Green Day: Good Riddance Beautiful South: A little time (one of my favourites!) The divine comedy: The light of day John Waite: Back on my feet again Gary Go: Wonderful (not necessarily a break up song but it makes me feel good) The Corrs: I never loved you anyways Tina Turner: When the heartache is over Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 This is an interesting thread.... I switch the station immediately when "You're Beautiful" comes on the radio. I cannot listen to love songs right now - makes me depressed. The songs I've listened to non-stop are silly ones like "Blame it on the Alcohol" and the like....make me laugh and enjoy driving my car. Anything flirty, naughty and sexy is good. Makes me feel good about being single and being free means I can hook up with anybody I want. I guess I went immediately for the "I'm single: wooo-hooo!" songs and skipped the sad and angry songs part. Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 Here is a list of my favorites: Leona Lewis: Bleeding Love....I listened to this a lot when I knew it was over but did not want to accept it. Leona Lewis: Better in time.....for when I finally accepted it was over and knew I had to move on. I would listen to this one over and over. Her songs really seem to help me. Christina Aguilera: Fighter James Blunt: Goodbye My Lover Chris Daughtry: Over You Dave Matthews Band: Busted Stuff There are so many more but this is just a few of my favorites. Link to post Share on other sites
Tackle Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 Here's some I like: sum 41 - pieces Taylor swift - picture to burn Amos Lee - seen it all before Papa roach - scars Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 jeff buckley - forget her ( emotional) kanye west - heartless ben harper - walk away Link to post Share on other sites
brokenglass Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 If you want to add one to the sad list, feel free to put Black by Pearl Jam. For a time, I could not listen to this song at all without bursting into tears. I actually think this might be the song I was listening to when I went searching the internet for a community where I could find a place to talk about what I was going through, and that's how I ended up here. That is something I am extremely grateful for. Link to post Share on other sites
ATR Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 Blink-182 - Toast & Banana's (great for the "angry" stage) Blink-182 - Boring (talks about getting lied to) Phil Collins - In the air tonight (About his wife leaving him) Link to post Share on other sites
anne1707 Posted May 9, 2009 Share Posted May 9, 2009 If you're feeling really bad and want to make it even worse, how about Elton John and "Sorry seems to be the hardest word" http://www.lyrics007.com/Elton%20John%20Lyrics/Sorry%20Seems%20To%20Be%20The%20Hardest%20Word%20Lyrics.html Link to post Share on other sites
dudemag Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 american football - never meant Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Sad: Death Cab for Cutie, "Tiny Vessels", "Someday You Will Be Loved", "Your New Twin-Sized Bed" A Fine Frenzy, "Almost Lover" Gwen Stefani, "Early Winter" Fiona Apple, "Red Red Red" Lauryn Hilll, "Ex-Factor", "When It Hurts So Bad", "I Used to Love Him" Panic At The Disco, "She Had The World" (good for unrequited love) Corinne Bailey Rae, "Till It Happens to You" (I still tear up at this) Angry: Fiona Apple, "Window" (good if you've been cheated on/ex left you for someone else), "Sleep To Dream", "Get Gone", "Limp" Lily Allen, "Not Big", "Shame For You", "Smile" (all good for a laugh) No Doubt, "Ex-Girlfriend" Moving on: Anything that's upbeat and will make me want to dance around. That kind of thing always makes me feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
SBG04 Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Bitter torn up and emotional "I want you" by Elvis Costello Kind of sad "Leave" by Matchbox 20 Sad & Desperate "Against All Odds" by Phil Collins Simple but passionate plea "Oh Darling" by the Beatles Hidden Emotions (I found this good when she wanted to 'stay friends') "Please Don't Ask Me" by John Farnham Sad at a loss, but positive for future "The Special Two" by Missy Higgins Positive and Moving on (although not relationship specific) "The Bridge" by Elton John Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nuala83 Posted May 10, 2009 Author Share Posted May 10, 2009 I'm definitely gonna listen to the songs everyone's suggested. Thanks! I thought I'd add some of my favourite verses/lines from break up songs. It's funny how closely I listen to songs lyrics these days in a way I never used to. 'Do you want to see me crawl across the floor to you? Do you want to hear me beg you to take me back? I'd gladly do it because I don't want to fade away give me one more day please I don't want to fade away In your heart I want to stay' (eric clapton - bell bottom blues) 'It was a slap in the face how quickly I was relaced and are you thinking of me when you f*** her' (Alanis Morisette - You oughta know) 'This is our last goodbye I hate to feel the love between us die But it's over Just hear this and then I'll go You gave me more to live for More than you'll ever know (Jeff Buckley - Last Goodbye) Link to post Share on other sites
era Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Roxette: It must have been love Oh yeah - THIS was the one Link to post Share on other sites
BlueEyedGirl Posted May 10, 2009 Share Posted May 10, 2009 Try Katie Melua - Piece by piece It's about how hard it is to move on. Link to post Share on other sites
dudemag Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 american football - never meant http://tinyurl.com/c6rg9l owen - bad news - not really a break up song but it is awesome and makes me feel depressed and happy at the same time http://tinyurl.com/p3qumm owen - skin and bones - same as above...great stuff http://tinyurl.com/q574nv jawbreaker - sea foam green http://tinyurl.com/pbnuv8 Link to post Share on other sites
t0ri Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 Bitter ones: All-American Rejects - Gives you hell Hinder - Without you Lily Allen - **** you! Britney Spears (hehe) - Why should I be sad Kate Nash - Foundations Paramore - Decode The Veronicas - This is how it feels September - Cry for you Keyshia Cole - Let it go Taking Back Sunday - You're so last summer Death Cab for Cutie - Heart is an empty room Sad ones: All-American Rejects - The wind blows Sia - Breathe me Missy Higgins - Where I stood Snow Patrol - Run Staind - Everything changes The Used - On my own Sufjan Stevens - To be alone with you Coldplay - The scientist Britney Spears - Out from under Paramore - Never let this go Link to post Share on other sites
lost_one_01 Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 Derek and the Dominos: Layla Blink 182: I Miss You Alan Parsons: Eye in the Sky Not sure if all are break up songs...sad just the same. Sorry if they seemed dated...think I am older than most on here;) Link to post Share on other sites
WhyYesThankYou Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 Ahhhhh, Alanis. I realize this is deviating from the point of the thread a bit, for which I apologize. But Alanis' "You Outta Know" WAS my break-up song - i.e. the song responsible for my break-up. I had been dating a girl, on off on off, difficult because she wanted to be exclusive and I didn't. So we were pretty much in our "off" phase, and I was coming to the conclusion that we were not going to be "on" again, ever. So she (I'll call her Daisy) was visiting me from out of town, as a "friend," she'd said. Another friend of mine (a guy, "Ryan") was staying over as well. Daisy said she was tired, so she gave me a big hug and went upstairs to go to bed in the guest room. I then start confiding to Ryan how sad I was that Daisy and I weren't going to work out, and that she was a great girl but we obviously were in different places, and did he see that big platonic hug she'd just given me... He said yes, and we stayed up reallllly late talking about me and Daisy, and he was being very caring and supportive... And then, all those years of friendship and unspoken tension between us - as well probably as my grief at not being able to be with the excellent lady upstairs - came together, and Ryan and I started making out. We were down to a very minimal level of clothing when suddenly, upstairs, my clock radio starts blaring "You Outta Know." I realized in horror that the alarm clock was still set to 5am from the day before, when I'd had to get up early to take someone to the airport. I flew upstairs to turn off the alarm - cutting Alanis off mid-chorus - and then the house was filled with silence, until from the guest room, Daisy says, "WhyYes [my name]?" I pulled on my robe and went into her room. It was dark. She reached up and pulled me into the bed and started kissing me. Then she stopped, paused, and asked, "Why are you wearing just a robe? What's going on?" And then she clicked, and jumped out of bed and started pulling on her clothes, and saying she felt so stupid because all she wanted to do last night was to be with me, and she'd wanted to tell me that and wanted me to spend the night in bed with her... And I was trying to tell her that I was only taking solace in Ryan because I thought nothing was going to ever work out between us, and that if I'd had ANY inkling that she was feeling that way, then I would definitely, DEFINITELY have been up there with her.... But oh.... disaster. Lost her. Sigh. That was ten years ago, now. It probably sounds like a stupid, kid situation to have gotten into, but if it happened again today, I don't know that I would have done anything differently. I was convinced it was over between me and Daisy - and maybe it was, and she was just using that event as a big blow-up break-up explosion thing - which is the only reason I was downstairs making out with Ryan. Okay. Sorry to interrupt the discussion of break-up songs. I just had to get that out of my system! I think Matchbox 20 has a whole bunch of angry/poetic break-up songs that have captured a lot of the problems in my most recent break-up. (They've already been mentioned here, and they've got a range of break-up songs that run the gamut from pining to hateful.) Link to post Share on other sites
now_what Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 When my ex was totally ignoring me and just doing his own thing I think I knew in my heart things would never be the same - I listened over and over to My Chemical Romance "I Don't Love You", and then "I'm Not OK (trust me)" after he left (after 30 years of marriage). I know I'm old (50), but I have young tastes in music lol. The absolutely saddest song to me is the Carrie Underwood/Randy Travis duet of "I Told You So". I guess because it is about someone leaving and wanting to come back - but the one who got dumped says "Now, I've found somebody new and you will never break my heart in two again" I think one of these days my ex will come to his senses but I will have moved on. Keith Urban is good for a cry too - "Tonight I Wanna Cry" and "You'll Think of Me", good songs to bawl to. And I should know, I have an hour commute to work and many times would cry on the way to work and on the way home. If anyone would look in my car they would probably wonder what my problem was - either singing and crying or just plain crying. It helped though, and it kept me from being so sad around the house, because I did not want my daughter to see me crying very much. Link to post Share on other sites
Bluebird In My Heart Posted May 11, 2009 Share Posted May 11, 2009 Nuala, Have to agree about Jeff Buckley. Such a soulful voice. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Nuala83 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 TigressA I just listened to Death Cab for Cutie, "Tiny Vessels" and "Your New Twin-Sized Bed". LOVED THEM! Tiny Vessels especially summed up the way I think my bf felt about me. The tears were just rolling down my face. Link to post Share on other sites
tigressA Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 TigressA I just listened to Death Cab for Cutie, "Tiny Vessels" and "Your New Twin-Sized Bed". LOVED THEM! Tiny Vessels especially summed up the way I think my bf felt about me. The tears were just rolling down my face. Aww...it is a really sad song. I came across Tiny Vessels in a really awkward way--I was visiting my FWB for a couple days over the summer (2 years ago) and we were getting intimate; his media player was on. When we were in the middle of things, Tiny Vessels came on. I caught the lyrics, "...and she was beautiful/but she didn't mean a thing to me...I wanted to believe in all the words that I was speaking as we moved together in the dark..." and I just wanted to DIE because that song perfectly explained our situation. It took months before I could listen to it without bawling because I had been so in love with him. Link to post Share on other sites
hp321 Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 Muse - Hyper Music [FONT=Verdana][sIZE=5][sIZE=2]"Hypermusic" Your golden lies feed my role In this forgotten space race under my control Who's returned from the dead? Who remains? You know I don't want you and I never did I don't want you and I never will You wanted more than I was worth And you think I was scared And you needed proof Who really cares anymore? Who restrains? You know I don't love you and I never did I don't want you and I never will Powerfull stuff ! [/sIZE][/sIZE][/FONT] Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I can't believe I left this one out because I used to listen to it constantly after my breakup and just cry for hours. John Mayer: Dreaming With A Broken Heart is another one of my favorites! Oh another good one is Fix You by Coldplay. That one always has be bawling like a baby! I find that listening to these songs and just crying....letting it all out really helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Okay sorry guys for posting again. I'm just in one of those moods and have been listening to a lot of my favorite songs. Finger Eleven: Thousand Mile Wish is just one I like to listen to when I'm really sad. I love that song. Link to post Share on other sites
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