I want a first meeting . Insecurity and jealousy are rising

[Joyvke]

Last night after saying he was going there, he said he couldn't book the trip. He showed me some logs, about how eager she was meeting, but then she didn't bother logging msn for trip details.

 

He's not responding on msn, so it might be he's on his way.

 

I don't think there is a she. It all reminds me off some guy that was going to meet a girl called Emma. He drove for 10 hours. He never saw her on cam, never heard her voice. He then got a text she was at work, but that he should make a pic of him having a dildo in his mouth. Which he did and sent it to her (small videoclip). After a few hours "Emma" calls, and the guy is like "wait, this is not Emma?" and then turned out he was framed by a few guys... I got the link, but I'm not sure if it's allowed to post. It's the phonecall between the guy and Emma. I felt so sad for him and I'm afraid this guy might go through the same.

 

For me, even though I'm a girl. Girls aren't girls if I can't hear them. Especially regarding "WoW" girls (WoW player myself. Lovenoob and me met on the forums there and then mIRC).

 

We will see. I'll keep you guys posted if he doesn't. He's a great guy, so I really hope it's all true, but the red bells are going off everywhere...

 

Edit:

 

He didn't go, but he informed her of the webcam thing.

[KikiW]

I'm a WoW player, and I was always surprised by the amount of times people would exclaim "Oh thank GOD You really ARE a girl!" when I got on Ventrilo.

 

I am guessing he is starting to see things in the right light since she didn't get online to get the trip details? Hopefully requesting the webcam will settle this once and for all.

[Joyvke]

No he's not seeing it. He thinks she just bailed out on him again. He informed her about the cam and she's going to get one...

 

Perhaps it IS a girl who just likes to string guys along badly and when it comes close she bails out...

 

We will see, I hope she gets one for his sake and that they end up meeting. As I said, he's a very nice guy from what I know of him .

 

Even if they end up together and those "stories" were true, she's one hell off a problem girl...

 

I'm a WoW player, and I was always surprised by the amount of times people would exclaim "Oh thank GOD You really ARE a girl!" when I got on Ventrilo.

 

Hehe, I had that once. My toon is called Katekatena, and I remember first time I got invited for a Pickup raid and 24 guys were going "OMG IT IS A GIRL!". Was kinda funny, but I do understand why they were so surprised. Many got tricked so :/.

 

You play on US servers I guess? I was pondering to reroll US realms tbh ;p.

[KikiW]

Yes, I am on Dragonblight. Not as heavy a player anymore, but still kicking around.

 

As for the cam, I would be shocked if she doesn't come up with 40 reason why she can't use one (the dog ate it, I dropped it and it broke, I don't have the money, I have a pimple on my face...).

 

Fingers are still crossed though.

[Confusedalways]

This classically sounds like my friend who lied on the internet. I haven't read the entire thing but... oh she is SO lying.

[hoping2heal]

Yep, she sure is. Unfortunately, I think deep down OP knows that, but doesn't want to face it, so he's going to make as many loop holes for her as it takes until it's impossible to deny the obvious.

 

I can understand why he would do this, he has been hurt very badly in the past, and she's his first go out of the gate since that, I'm glad he's got a good friend to look out for him joyvke, he's going to need your support when this thing finally reaches a head.

[Regular]

I'm totally dying to know what is happening with this hehe It's been a week now!

[Joyvke]

I'm totally dying to know what is happening with this hehe It's been a week now!

 

His msn name still contains her name + hearts, so I guess he's still waiting for the cam, which won't happen anytime soon, since I can recall she was going to get one in October or so already ><.

[KikiW]

Poor guy.

[hoping2heal]

Poor guy.

 

 

Yeah part of me kind of thinks that too, but then the other part of me thinks okay, it's OBVIOUS by now and blaringly so that this is never going to really go anywhere, that she isn't really serious about having an actual relationship with him. On that note, he can't be that serious either, if he was; he would be adament that she put up or get out. He's just going to keep living a fantasy life for as long as he possibly can and he already knows nothing real is ever going to come of it. It's his life to make that choice so all is well for these two I guess, cause they both don't mind living a lie, they are happy like that so eh .

[Joyvke]

Yeah part of me kind of thinks that too, but then the other part of me thinks okay, it's OBVIOUS by now and blaringly so that this is never going to really go anywhere, that she isn't really serious about having an actual relationship with him. On that note, he can't be that serious either, if he was; he would be adament that she put up or get out. He's just going to keep living a fantasy life for as long as he possibly can and he already knows nothing real is ever going to come of it. It's his life to make that choice so all is well for these two I guess, cause they both don't mind living a lie, they are happy like that so eh .

 

To be honest, I think he's serious, he really wants it, but he trusts "her" too much. I mean he even wanted to go to Paris just to see her. I think he just hopes it will change. We haven't spoken for a few days, so don't know the current status, but still hearts in his name + her name so I guess it's the same still.

[hoping2heal]

To be honest, I think he's serious, he really wants it, but he trusts "her" too much. I mean he even wanted to go to Paris just to see her. I think he just hopes it will change. We haven't spoken for a few days, so don't know the current status, but still hearts in his name + her name so I guess it's the same still.

 

 

Nah, this is what I mean by serious; When I was 17 I was lying to someone over the internet, in the end he ended things when I refused to furnish the proof of some things he asked for. Why? Because HE was serious, he wanted a relationship with me and he was serious about it, but if I was someone just pulling his leg across the internet he would have no part of it, he wasn't going to risk his heart and sanity over someone lying to him. I'm sure he "believes" he's serious on some level, but if he trully were he wouldn't put his heart in such a vulnerable situation to be crushed by someone filling him with lie after lie after lie. Whereas the kind of people who aren't really serious, will still be there lie after lie after lie because they are living in a fantasy and it's what they want to do for the time being.

[Joyvke]

Nah, this is what I mean by serious; When I was 17 I was lying to someone over the internet, in the end he ended things when I refused to furnish the proof of some things he asked for. Why? Because HE was serious, he wanted a relationship with me and he was serious about it, but if I was someone just pulling his leg across the internet he would have no part of it, he wasn't going to risk his heart and sanity over someone lying to him. I'm sure he "believes" he's serious on some level, but if he trully were he wouldn't put his heart in such a vulnerable situation to be crushed by someone filling him with lie after lie after lie. Whereas the kind of people who aren't really serious, will still be there lie after lie after lie because they are living in a fantasy and it's what they want to do for the time being.

 

Starting to agree with you here. Still no status updated. Tried to talk a few times, but no response.

 

Guess he likes to put up with this stuff.

[Joyvke]

Hmm can't edit my post anymore for some reason.

 

She's going to get a cam in the beginning of July when she gets allowance.....

 

Honestly, getting slightly frustrated if this girl is for real honestly.

[hoping2heal]

We all know she's not for real Joyvke, and yes that has to be extremely frustrating.

 

By the begining of July she's going to "mess up" and won't get her allowance, and oops no cam!

 

Or else, maybe a flying purple people eater will come out of the sky and swallow it right out of her hand!

[Rollercoasterr]

I'm betting on the flying purple people eater. But he'll molest her on her front lawn first. But no one will see.

 

Honestly. If a person can't look at her story and see that it is lies and WAY too fantastical to be real, then they are beyond help or reason. I'll bet she's about 10 years old as well. Just a hunch. I've seen this happen. Or maybe she's a boy.

[sunflower89]

Or all of us could be wrong and she could be telling the truth..

 

None of us know for sure.

[Rollercoasterr]

Sunflower, everyone is entitled to their own opinion of the matter, but if you say that then that tells me that you haven't read the entire thread.

 

I could be wrong. But I have a hunch and a lot of common sense that tells me I'm not.

[sunflower89]

Sunflower, everyone is entitled to their own opinion of the matter, but if you say that then that tells me that you haven't read the entire thread.

 

I could be wrong. But I have a hunch and a lot of common sense that tells me I'm not.

 

I read the whole thread and contributed my own story where I lied on the internet. Still though, innocent until proven guilty and many, many people have been through horrible things like this girl has claimed to have gone through.

 

I think it's pretty obvious what will happen in July but it's nice to have a little faith in people! We'll see what happens but i'm not holding my breath.

[Thornton]

I really hope this turns out well for the OP, but having read the thread I'm not filled with hope; this girl sounds pretty fishy. Genuine people have nothing to hide.

 

When I met someone online he sent me photos but said he didn't have a webcam, and I insisted that we could never meet until I had seen him on webcam to prove that he was the guy in the photos. He could have downloaded those pics or they could be pics of his grandson or anything, I wasn't taking any chances. Since he had nothing to hide, he went out and bought a webcam - he didn't like appearing on it because he wasn't confident about his looks, but he did it just to prove to me that he was a real person. Once I was convinced that he was genuine I agreed to meet him - I wouldn't have gone near him otherwise, it's just too risky to meet people you've only seen in photos.

[Joyvke]

Thing is, she sent him pics (I've seen them), they're pretty 'sexy' pics. Also the girl from the b/w pics looks nothing like the colored one. Different hairtype, completely different nose as well. If you're really that shy you simply don't make pictures like that.

 

Also since she said she'd get a cam since october I doubt she will have on in July. I laughed with the purple man eater eating it from her hand though . I bet it will be something like: "I tried to get one, but I have to preorder, and that will take another month :(" or "the guy behind the desk was looking funny at me and I couldn't stand being another minute in that shop so I left, no cam yet hunny xxx"

 

-_-. We will see, just 2 more weeks left and we will know I guess.

[Bayern]

LoveNoob, for your sake, I hope it's all real and eventually I'm sure you'll meet. If you want to talk about it further: e-mail: [email protected]

 

EDIT: This is what I get for not reading all 7 pages of posts. Bloody hell - good luck anyway.

[ON MY OWN]

It may or may not be true. My roommate and I agree there is something this girl is being untruthful about. It could be her age, physical appearance or marital status. I am getting a feeling it has something to do with her appearance. When does she plan on meeting you by? She has to know deep down if she waits too long you would most likely meet someone closer. I mean she should give you an "estimated" meeting time even if its within a few months. When is her estimated time alotment to turn her webcam on? There is certainly no danger in that. Talking to someone for 10 months is a bit extreme that you want to be with IRL. If it is true, however, I would still wonder if she ever really plans on meeting you. It is so nice you are such an understanding person that by the off chance any of her story is true.

 

It also doesnt make sense if she was almost raped that she would ever meet you. Be careful, you never know who your dealing with. Whatever information she is hiding I dont know but something isnt jiving here, and a relationship will not last forever on the internet and she MUST logically know this.

[Joyvke]

Well he got upset I posted in here and isn't going to tell me anything. However he put me on ignore after I asked him there was really a purple dotted monster. This was when he said, she got her allowance and was gonna get one, but didn't get one.

 

Not going to bother with someone who doesn't see he's just getting mentally played by some "chick" online.

 

So if you're reading this "lovefool", good luck in wasting another good few months in your life. You're not going to open up your eyes anyway and fall for her lame excuses over and over again. She's not at relatives at the moment, if she is a she, she's mind****ing you nevertheless. Have fun with that o/.

[hoping2heal]

Well he got upset I posted in here and isn't going to tell me anything. However he put me on ignore after I asked him there was really a purple dotted monster. This was when he said, she got her allowance and was gonna get one, but didn't get one.

 

Not going to bother with someone who doesn't see he's just getting mentally played by some "chick" online.

 

So if you're reading this "lovefool", good luck in wasting another good few months in your life. You're not going to open up your eyes anyway and fall for her lame excuses over and over again. She's not at relatives at the moment, if she is a she, she's mind****ing you nevertheless. Have fun with that o/.

 

Ah well, there isn't really anything to tell anyhow. OF COURSE she got her allowance and didn't get one. This is nothing that most all of us didn't know. It's sad that he's so hell bent on a clearly sinking ship, but he'll just have to learn when eventually he cannot deny the truth anymore. I think he just got angry you were posting because he thinks it makes him look like an idiot. That said, everyone; you included was only trying to help him, and it's quite sad he doesn't know who are his friends and who are his enemies (as evidinced by how he will ignore you, who was only concerned for his best interest, and continue to carry on with her web of BS). He really doesn't know how bad this is for her, not only himself.