Author BlueEyedGirl Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 Business is business and how nice a person is to a boss will not affect his decision... at least it hasn't ever affected mine.. It certainly hurts to have to fire/let go someone you like or care about and it weighs on you how it will affect their lives but it is still business and if a person needs to go, they go... My boss is pretty sensitive person and a first time boss, so I think those things DO affect him. Of course if the person really needs to go, they will be fired. But lots of times it's borderline and someone's bad behaviour and such is likely to be tolerated for longer if the boss like them. Link to post Share on other sites
Okfine Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 Blue Eyed Girl just get him the card, you know the relationship you have with your boss. Some people work in environments that are not conducive to being anything more than an automaton so they may not understand. If you tend to make strong professional bonds with coworkers and nurture these relationships then don't change your ways. Some of the best friends I have made along the way came from work. Nothing wrong with wanting to pave your way professionally establishing good working relationships along the way. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 2Sunny - I do know that she has a crush on her boss and that she also found out he was having an affair with a co-worker. I don't know what that has to do with changing her ways in terms of how she conducts herself professionally and how she relates to her boss? I also don't see what is so funny. What am I missing here? i never once said it was funny. i don't think you're missing anything. i answered the question with a straightforward approach. i would never take a situation like this as a joke. i'm not sure where you got that impression. i thought she should keep her position on the card completely professional. she now seems to disregard anyone that has said "don't give the card" so now i'm wondering... why did she even ask if she's just going to do what she wants anyway? she never seemed to consider not giving the card. and no - i don't think any of it is the slightest bit funny. Link to post Share on other sites
Okfine Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 You had a laughing face at the end of your post, that's why I asked. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 I have not decided what to do yet. Thanks for everyone's input. I just find it a bit silly when I read people saying that I am expecting something if I get him the card. I have worked with the guy for 2 years. Nothing has happened and nothing is going to happen "in that way" and one card is not going to change that. If I am expecting anything it's to nurture the close proffesssional realtionship that I do have with him and hope that "positivity breeds positivity". I will run this idea by my co-workers and see if they think we should get him one AS A GROUP. Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 You had a laughing face at the end of your post, that's why I asked. that was only in reference to getting him a sympathy card - to which i was joking with her about, not at all about the birthday. i tend to have odd humor at times... that is nothing new. sorry for the misunderstanding. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 2sunny, Thanks for your advice and I also appreciated your advice in my other thread. I know it's a screwed up situation and it's very hard to look at it objectively anymore (which is what I am trying to do now). I have started to date someone couple of weeks ago (only 3 dates so far!) so we will see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 BlueEyedGirl, Would you be doing the same thing if your boss was female ? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 The nicer I am, the more difficult it will be to fire me.... thats generally not how it works. being "nice" has nothing to do with work performance. the more things you do to make your boss' job easier the harder you will be to get rid of Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 Send card with nice handwritten note; take on more job responsibilities to become indispensible. Check Would you be doing the same thing if your boss was female ? Instructive. Go with that, IMO. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 Yeah, Send him a birthday card with something romantic in it. Just go through cards in a store and the perfect card will land in your hand. Don't be afraid, just do it. (See, you hesitated so much now some other woman is doing him). Link to post Share on other sites
Okfine Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 that was only in reference to getting him a sympathy card - to which i was joking with her about, not at all about the birthday.i tend to have odd humor at times... that is nothing new. sorry for the misunderstanding I see, I hadn't understood the joke about the card didn't realise that is what you meant. Thanks. :-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted May 12, 2009 Author Share Posted May 12, 2009 BlueEyedGirl, Would you be doing the same thing if your boss was female ? Yes and have done so for my previous bosses (some of them were females). Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 do whatever you want to BEG Link to post Share on other sites
imani Posted May 12, 2009 Share Posted May 12, 2009 BEG - Just go ahead and get him a card. All he will do is say "thank you" (which is proper etiquette) and then continue to bang the other woman (which is his norm). You'll know from your reaction to his response if your true intentions were only based out of habit. I want you to not give him one, only because I know it'll be a mental torture for you afterwards. He doesn't sound like someone who even desserves well wishes. You should give the new guy you posted about dating a birthday card. ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Author BlueEyedGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Share Posted May 13, 2009 So I won't do it. Talked to other girls and they said they will sign the card but noone wants to go to buy the card with me. Plus I looked up his bday and it falls on a Sunday. Meh, too much effort. Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 So I won't do it. Talked to other girls and they said they will sign the card but noone wants to go to buy the card with me. Plus I looked up his bday and it falls on a Sunday. Meh, too much effort. Divine intervention. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
imani Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 Divine intervention. LOL LOL! Too funny, West. And good decison, BEG. Link to post Share on other sites
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 13, 2009 Share Posted May 13, 2009 I didn't read much past the first few posts but its obvious this chick has a thing for this guy and isn't being honest with herself. If you can't even be honest with yourself, then how do you plan on handling a situation where your honesty with him might get called into question? This is exactly how affairs happen and after its all said and done, office tramps like this one can play innocent ... "Bu bu but I didn't think anything was going to happen ... honest". Yeah, ok. You know what the hell you're doing. Link to post Share on other sites
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