Hit on by a new MM

[jwi71]

How has sex become an annoyance? Well, if someone dangles a carrot in front of me I'll bite. No carrot... huh... no bite.

 

Oh for the love of God.

 

NEVER, EVER speak of sex, carrots and biting AGAIN. How rude...

 

The penis possessing gender thanks you for your cooperation.

 

It is perfectly acceptable to eat bananas and tootsie pops in public provided there is no "biting".

 

[angie2443]

Yes, men roll over with bad breath, no shower, and make it clear they feel like 'doing it'. At first, it wasn't a point of pissing me off..

 

LOL! I once dated a man like this. After he decided that he'd "won" me, he decided to stop bathing on a regular basis. He stunk! There's no other way to put it. He didn't know I guess. He once commented on how the smell of his armpits would probably get a lot of women excited, because of the hormone thing. If he only knew. I was too embaressed to tell him the truth. I left him soon after the showers stopped. The funny thing was, he was good at picking up woman (I stayed friends with him and he used to tell me about his new girlfriends). I guess he showered well when he was on the hunt for a new girlfriend.

[angie2443]

Oh for the love of God.

 

NEVER, EVER speak of sex, carrots and biting AGAIN. How rude...

 

The penis possessing gender thanks you for your cooperation.

 

It is perfectly acceptable to eat bananas and tootsie pops in public provided there is no "biting".

 

 

I once was with a guy who said teeth were good. I guess you never know.

[NoIDidn't]

I will say this. Women are incredibly perceptive and somewhat devious.

 

A little off topic, but I agree.

 

I like to flirt. I have a single male friend that is interested in me romantically that I can't flirt with. Because I know it will give him the wrong impression, and be really mean of me.

 

But I agree. Women are very devious when it comes to getting what we want. Men, married or not, usually don't know what hit them.

[norajane]

Do married men really tap their wives on the shoulder for sex? Wow.... guess I'm clueless. I'd think that to be incredibly insensitive. I guess that's why the MM of the world look for greener pastures and cake to eat and why women invariably viewed me with a jaundiced eye; the eye of their experience. That's sad, on both counts.

 

Some do the prodding thing. Poke, poke, poke.

 

Such an aphrodisiac, and so romantic!

 

Maybe that's why I have such trouble committing. When they get to the prodding stage, I am so turned off and can't imagine a lifetime with someone who thinks this is acceptable.

[carhill]

Do you mean they prod you with their erection? Now that's funny

 

I always did something pedestrian like kissing or a nice massage. makes notes

[LakesideDream]

So I go to the auto store today and buy some supplies for my car. The young clerk is more than happy to help me find just what I need. After he rings me up he says, 'I'm sure you hear this all the time, but you have the most beautiful eyes.'

 

I thanked him and looked down at his left hand when I noticed a giant, glistening wedding band and walked away.

 

I got to thinking, 'Am I a MM magnet?'. No, I'm not. Unless we all are because it seems that so many MM try to get more outside the M. I remember when confessing my A to my friends almost every single one of them shared with me that they too had been involved in an A at least once in their life whether they were married or single at the time. I was shocked to say the least.

 

So this morning's happening got me wondering how many MM are not only having affairs, but are TRYING to have affairs. How many times have you been hit on by a MM?

 

I can think of four in my lifetime but only succumbed to the last one.

 

 

Methinks you make to much of it WF. Obviously the clerk was a young man of exceptional taste and refinement temporarily overcome by your wit and pulcritude.

 

Bask in the glory my dear.

[norajane]

Do you mean they prod you with their erection? Now that's funny

 

Carhill, mere words cannot convey how NOT funny it is. Poke, poke, poke elicits a violent reaction from women, and men would do well to understand that they are in danger of being separated from their dick if they continue. To this day, when I recall my then-fiancee doing that, I am enraged and repulsed all over again. Now that I think of it, maybe the prodding had more than a little to do with my cheating and leaving him.

 

And I am not alone in this view:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t161986/?highlight=poke+penis

[carhill]

Well, you see, I never have really talked to women about how their men initiated sex and, having so few sexual partners, am generally clueless. I just did what came naturally. Shoulder tapping and erection prodding don't seem natural to me, at least in a healthy intimate relationship.

 

In the referenced thread, you'll note I immediately went off-topic and started talking about their relationship

[norajane]

For every thread started by a man saying he's not getting enough sex with his wife and/or is having an affair or considering one, I always wonder if he's stopped the romantic seduction with his wife. Stopped the kind of romantic seduction that led to his wife wanting to marry him in the first place.

 

Consider how often OW say the sex in their affair with MM is phenomenal. Why? Because the sex doesn't start in bed with a tap or poke. It started days ago with sexy texts and flirtatious phone calls. It continued with the passionate kiss when they met, and then the touching and eye contact and more flirtation over dinner or a glass of wine. By the time they're naked, they've been seducing each other for days, so YES! the sex is hot!

 

Contrast that with poke, poke, poke.

 

If married people would devote that kind of flirtatious energy to their spouses, fewer marriages would suffer from sexual problems. Great sex requires that partners not take each other for granted, and that they devote as much energy to seducing each other after marriage as they did when they were dating. And that requires communication, affection and emotional intimacy. The two go hand in hand, yin and yang. For every MM who complains about the lack of sex, there's probably a W who can complain about the lack of romance and vice-versa. Affairs are the detour out of that catch 22.

 

So this morning's happening got me wondering how many MM are not only having affairs, but are TRYING to have affairs. How many times have you been hit on by a MM?

WF, I have never kept track, but it's a huge, vast number. For the last 20 years, I've worked in consulting or software companies, sales. Lots of conferences, business travel, business entertainment, and with lots and lots of money, money, money fueling the whole industry. Men who become accustomed to getting what they want and thinking they should get everything they want. Married men hitting on me (and the other women in my field) is so routine, it's not even remarkable.

[Spark1111]

For every thread started by a man saying he's not getting enough sex with his wife and/or is having an affair or considering one, I always wonder if he's stopped the romantic seduction with his wife. Stopped the kind of romantic seduction that led to his wife wanting to marry him in the first place.

 

Consider how often OW say the sex in their affair with MM is phenomenal. Why? Because the sex doesn't start in bed with a tap or poke. It started days ago with sexy texts and flirtatious phone calls. It continued with the passionate kiss when they met, and then the touching and eye contact and more flirtation over dinner or a glass of wine. By the time they're naked, they've been seducing each other for days, so YES! the sex is hot!

 

Contrast that with poke, poke, poke.

 

If married people would devote that kind of flirtatious energy to their spouses, fewer marriages would suffer from sexual problems. Great sex requires that partners not take each other for granted, and that they devote as much energy to seducing each other after marriage as they did when they were dating. And that requires communication, affection and emotional intimacy. The two go hand in hand, yin and yang. For every MM who complains about the lack of sex, there's probably a W who can complain about the lack of romance and vice-versa. Affairs are the detour out of that catch 22.

 

WF, I have never kept track, but it's a huge, vast number. For the last 20 years, I've worked in consulting or software companies, sales. Lots of conferences, business travel, business entertainment, and with lots and lots of money, money, money fueling the whole industry. Men who become accustomed to getting what they want and thinking they should get everything they want. Married men hitting on me (and the other women in my field) is so routine, it's not even remarkable.

 

Norajane, truer words were never spoken! LMAO! All that pre-marital seduction was so hot! For me, the BS, the most devastating disclosure was all the TIME and EFFORT he put into his relationship with the OW. Has he made a quarter of that effort with me, the woman who kept waiting for it, well, that would have made a remarkable difference in our sex life. But, poke, poke, poke was such a turn-off.

 

And I agree the hitting on by married men is nothing new to women. Try 6 months pregnant? Try 40 pounds overweight? Try 20 years older? College Professor? First married boss? GIrlfriend's drunk and married father?

 

I love Bill Maher's line: "For a man to have the sexual choice of any woman in the bar, what does he have to be? Leader of the free world?

 

"For a woman to have sexual choice of any man in the bar, what does she have to do? Do her hair?"

 

HAHAHAHA!