Paranoid or a valid concern?

[allornothing]

Ok i really need some extra opinions on this......here goes....My current bf wants me to hang out with a friend of his who is female and who he has been in a relationship (all be it one that went bad really quickly when they tried). However, there friendship is pretty solid if you take the notion of "dating" out of the picture. My problem is she hates me, without knowing me, she just really dislikes me. And it has been proven a few times over. He says that when he spoke with her shortly before i moved in, that she's over that part and would like us all to hang out and since she is a friend to him it would be good if she tries to be friends with me, he thinks this is worth a shot. I on the other hand am looking for her angle. It could be me just being jealous or paranoid but i can't imagine going from completely and totally hating somebody you don't know to wanting to spark a friendship with that same person. Does this sound strange to anybody else or am i just way too not trusting?

[Davey McG]

I'm not sure what angle she could be trying for.

 

Is it possible that she's decided that in order to remain friends with him she has to accept you? It could be that she's actually over her jealousy now.

 

Like you say, she doesn't know YOU so she can't really hate YOU. Only the fact that her ex is with you.

[Kaii]

He says that when he spoke with her shortly before i moved in, that she's over that part and would like us all to hang out and since she is a friend to him it would be good if she tries to be friends with me, he thinks this is worth a shot.

 

I think that if they were really "just friends" that she would have no reason to be "over that part" in regards to you. There should be no "getting over" to begin with. Friends don't have to "get over" their friends girlfriends, but ex girlfriends who still have some sort of feelings for their ex boyfriends and who are hiding it under the ruse of "being friends" do.