bac Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I am in 40s. And I am considering to have a sexual intimacy with a guy in 20s. I have found him on line. He is very handsome, intelligent, nice and may be shy. I have no idea why he would go for me. But I definitely would like to give it a try. I have never done anything like this before. I need advice how to approuch the situation. I feel so uncomfortable to meet him for a cup of coffee. But I have no choice to do that if I want to get the job done. Please any advice about dating younger guys. What do they like with an older woman? What do they think about an older woman with whom they have intimacy? Why would a handsome guy want to have sex with an older woman from internet?
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 As long as you bring your A game you should be alright. have no expectations and relax. You should meet him first, feel him out and be comfortable. These days it's not safe to meet people online, they could be psycho. I love it when a hot older woman wants me. Have a good time. And at the end of the day: A man's a man, and a woman is a woman. Stop asking so many questions. lol.
Lizzie60 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I am probably the female LSer with the most experience with younger men. I have been dating tons of young guys since I'm 50... my first encounter was with a hottie 18 yrs younger.. it was intense but only lasted about 1 1/2 month. I was like you at first,.. why me? But then I had another one.. then another one.. and so on.. To answer your questions: What do they like with an older woman? They like the 'sexual experience' Older women are laid back.. no expectations, we are independant... we don't need to know what they do.. where they are.. 24/7... we have our own life.. our career.. our children.. etc.. We are financially secured... so again, no pressure on them to pay for this and that... we can pay too. We can discuss just about anything, not just the latest fashion, make-up.. etc... What do they think about an older woman with whom they have intimacy? They think it's mind-blowing sex.. I've had great sex with younger men... we know our body and we're not scared to tell them what we like.. they like that. Why would a handsome guy want to have sex with an older woman from internet? Why not? Older doesn't mean 'uglier' or 'boring' ... it could mean 'prettier' and 'exciting'... I have had the most beautiful younger guys a woman can wish for.. I still can't believe some of them.. I thought they were out of my league.. but they hit on me.. I never ever made the first move.. they always did.. and it wasn't all from the Internet... It's so much fun.. enjoy.. One advice: don't fall for them.. cause you got to be realistic.. it won't last forever.. (none last, not even the conventional so we can't expect a big age difference to work )
Author bac Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 As long as you bring your A game you should be alright. have no expectations and relax. Stop asking so many questions. lol. Thank you. What is my A game ? As for questions, what should i talk about with him? What topics will turn him on?
Author bac Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 I am probably the female LSer with the most experience with younger men. Thank you. I have noticed too that the handsome young guys want to have sex with older women. Guys who are not attractive prefer women of their age. I have never even dreamed of intimacy with such handsome guys when I was young and they had never paid any attention to me when I was young. But now when I am old they want me somehow.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 In short, be confident. Younger guys expect older women to know how to act in any social setting especially the bedroom. The last thing a 20 year old wants is a 40 year old woman who acts like a 17 year old shy virgin. If he wanted that, he would go after that. You need to do your part and playing your correct role. ALWAYS be sure of yourself. You don't have to throw him around and always lead but just make sure you're subtly reminding him who's the experienced one. I ****ed my buddy's mom's friend not because she was tight bodied and hot ... but because she was older, experienced and I was curious. If she urned out to be like every other teenaged lay I had, i would have been disappointed. So don't come off nervous or passive.
mr.dream merchant Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I am probably the female LSer with the most experience with younger men. I have been dating tons of young guys since I'm 50... my first encounter was with a hottie 18 yrs younger.. it was intense but only lasted about 1 1/2 month. I was like you at first,.. why me? But then I had another one.. then another one.. and so on.. To answer your questions: What do they like with an older woman? They like the 'sexual experience' Older women are laid back.. no expectations, we are independant... we don't need to know what they do.. where they are.. 24/7... we have our own life.. our career.. our children.. etc.. We are financially secured... so again, no pressure on them to pay for this and that... we can pay too. We can discuss just about anything, not just the latest fashion, make-up.. etc... What do they think about an older woman with whom they have intimacy? They think it's mind-blowing sex.. I've had great sex with younger men... we know our body and we're not scared to tell them what we like.. they like that. Why would a handsome guy want to have sex with an older woman from internet? Why not? Older doesn't mean 'uglier' or 'boring' ... it could mean 'prettier' and 'exciting'... I have had the most beautiful younger guys a woman can wish for.. I still can't believe some of them.. I thought they were out of my league.. but they hit on me.. I never ever made the first move.. they always did.. and it wasn't all from the Internet... It's so much fun.. enjoy.. One advice: don't fall for them.. cause you got to be realistic.. it won't last forever.. (none last, not even the conventional so we can't expect a big age difference to work ) And this is why a good looking 30-40 year old Woman will always make my soldier salute! Fareal, older women aren't so damn needy and insecure. The fact that they don't give a **** about you in itself is hot, for some strange reason.
Lizzie60 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I am probably the female LSer with the most experience with younger men. Thank you. I have noticed too that the handsome young guys want to have sex with older women. Guys who are not attractive prefer women of their age. I have never even dreamed of intimacy with such handsome guys when I was young and they had never paid any attention to me when I was young. But now when I am old they want me somehow. Not necessarily... all kinds want older women.. hot.. not so hot.. not attractive.. it's all about 'preference' or, in some cases, curiosity. I agree with Glenn.. though.. if you come out as being insecure about it.. that could be a turn-off.. it is at all ages.. but it's worst for an older woman. Just relax.. don't 'try' too hard.. be natural.. confident (a must).. and go with the flow.. just enjoy ... trust me.. it's a LOOOOTTT of fun.
boldjack Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Bac, Listen to Liz on this, she is the oracle on older/younger sex. When I was 22, I dated a woman 42, for 3 mos. we were like Siamese twins joined at the pelvis. It was spectacular.:D:D Then I met her daughter, Hoo-boy the trouble I've been in.:rolleyes:
Author bac Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 . The fact that they don't give a **** about you in itself is hot, for some strange reason. Thank you. Could you please explain me what it mean?
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 What do they like with an older woman? What do they think about an older woman with whom they have intimacy? Why would a handsome guy want to have sex with an older woman from internet? 1. No Strings 2. They tend to know what they want 3. They tend to be more aggressive in the bedroom. 4. Lots of younger guys have MILF fantasies.
mike1988 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I think I may be able to help you out. I tend to attract older women, manly because I come across more mature. I am 20 yrs old, but very mature for my age...so I connect better with older women. Also, older women come across more intimate with me, and that's a big turn on. The only problem is many are in relationships or married, or refuse to date/sleep with a younger man. I say, give him some coffee, then just tell him that you are turned on and let nature take it's course.
Author bac Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 I think I may be able to help you out. I tend to attract older women, manly because I come across more mature. I am 20 yrs old, but very mature for my age...so I connect better with older women. Also, older women come across more intimate with me, and that's a big turn on. The only problem is many are in relationships or married, or refuse to date/sleep with a younger man. I say, give him some coffee, then just tell him that you are turned on and let nature take it's course. Any suggestions what topics he may like to talk about with me? It is not like I am into talking but I have to do some talk and I am afraid that something can turn him off. Is it a good plan to have a coffee together and next day a dinner at my place?
bitbyte Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I don't think the subject of conversation is really of concern and more so about attitude. Most young guys are dealing with very insecure or overly secure girls who are probably very inexperienced. Be confident and take charge! I don't imagine you're dealing with too many alpha males as I think they tend to hunt younger (though that maybe a stereotype).
mike1988 Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Any suggestions what topics he may like to talk about with me? It is not like I am into talking but I have to do some talk and I am afraid that something can turn him off. Is it a good plan to have a coffee together and next day a dinner at my place? If you wanna have sex...maybe just grabbing him and telling him "I want you NOW!" will do the trick, honestly. But coffee, dinner, whatever is fine.
westernxer Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Is it a good plan to have a coffee together and next day a dinner at my place? A little booze usually works best. The rest will take care of itself.
2sunny Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Please any advice about dating younger guys. What do they like with an older woman? What do they think about an older woman with whom they have intimacy? Why would a handsome guy want to have sex with an older woman from internet? 1. they like the fact that you are willing to have sex. 2. it's not intimacy - it's sex... big difference. they are only (usually in this scenario) looking for the uncomplicated, hot sex. 3. again, it's about the sex - and the fact that you've had more experience than him. he may look to you to teach him a few new things... 4. what to talk about? i don't think he's thinking about conversation... in fact, if you don't do a lot of TALK - he's likely to be happier. don't expect him to act all interested and get attached - be realistic - it's only about the sex. is that what you're willing to have as an experience with him? you need to be clear in your mind that this is what the setup is. no emotions - no expectations. just sex.
stepka Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 One advice: don't fall for them.. cause you got to be realistic.. it won't last forever.. (none last, not even the conventional so we can't expect a big age difference to work ) That's where I messed up. My first date since the breakup of my marriage and I fell for him big time. Ouch. He was soooo handsome too. And hot in the sack--how do you keep from falling for him? I dropped him like a hot potato b/c I don't want to be so undignified as to chase a 29 yo around like a sick puppy.
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