Abusive boyfriend emotional and physical

[little_miss_muffin]

I know this is quite long but can someone please read this so I don't feel alone!

 

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he was the best thing that had happened to me after the last relationship which was awful.

 

He seemed perfect and caring, and I trusted him 100%. However, I can't trust him any more as he lied to me about having facebook after he told me to delete my myspace. I found out he had it as I had facebook in my google search bar and he's email was saved into the log-in, which meant that he had been on MY laptop while i was out the room! I and guessed his password and looked around. He was speaking to his ex-gf, which really broke my heart as he knows I am insecure and feel threatened by her. She is friends with his cousin and just a week before, my bf was at a family gathering and insisted that i didn't have to go as I had so much uni work to do, I stupidly aggreed with him. I asked him quite a few times if SHE (the ex) was going to be there as i knew she was friends with his cousin, and he said no and promised me.

Anyway, when I found that he had been speaking to her on facebook, I found out that she did go. My heart sank, and I felt so betrayed because I couldn't believe that he had lied to me about it and been so sneaky.

He had also spoken to other girls who he had slept with in the past, and i found numerous comments to girls where he would ask if he had a chance with them if he wasn't with me.

 

Since then I haven't been able to trust him, where he denies speaking to those other girls and denies saying those things and says someone must have 'hacked' into his account. I'm not stupid or naive and i thnk he thinks i'm an idiot.

 

He's denail has got me so mad and it ends up in arguements which get abusive. Sometimes he'll say something that will make me feel so angry and sick, so all i would do is get out of bed to walk into the bathroom to get some space, but he'll grab me and hold me down and squeeze my wrists so tight that they'll be covered in bruises afterwards.

 

Just to note, he is a lot bigger than me and i'm very very petite and small. I'll try to kick him off me but he won't budge and then because my elbow would dig into him as I'm trying to get him off, he'll squeeze me even tighter where I feel as though my vains in my wrists are going to burst, and he'll slap me or twist my arm, my legs...sometimes i feel as though he is going to break me in half. He strangles me where I'm left with horrible red 'blood marks' it looks like around my neck. This all happened only just yesterday, my back is aching, my arms are bruised, my neck is marked. He even went to punch me in my leg but I blocked it with my hand and so he punched my hand instead on the side where my knuckles are, so now that's hurting me too. He's punch me before in the leg, the arm never in the face but I feel like he will one day.

 

He squeezed my fingers so hard i thought he was going to break them, he'll also call me degrading names and has called me a whore before, even though he's slept with more people than me, and I haven' slept with many people at all in my past.

 

Last night I told him it was over, but this happens everytime and he'll always win me back. I hate the way he controls me, and physically and mentally drains me. I get panic attacks while he's abusing me, and he just sits there still being mean to me because he thinks i'm faking it. I don't know what to do.

He'll blame me for it all, and his excuse for hurting me is because i start it. He knows that I hate being grabbed and controlled and he has no right to do that. I'm not hurting him by walking out the room for a few minutes. He'll try to force me to say sorry and be really patronising and say, 'This is all your fault. You did this. Say Sorry. Say Sorry to me for what you've done.'

His voice is so annoying and disrespectful!

 

I can't concentrate, I finish uni next week, and I have work still to do and my back is hurting so much I can't sit up properly to do it. He doesn't care if he effects the outcome of my degree which I've worked so hard for!

 

I just want a new life after uni. I'm getting a new job, and I want to have a fresh start. I don't feel like the person that I once was, i dont know who i am anymore, I feel like he's drained me.

 

He even says to me when i tell him I'm going to leave, if I mean it and if I swear on my 'dead brothers grave' (my brother died 5 years ago in a car crash).

He's hurtful and uncaring, but then he'll control me and get me back when he acts nice and cute again. Please can someone help me and give me advice!

 

Love xxx

[Kaii]

However, I can't trust him any more as he lied to me about having facebook after he told me to delete my myspace. I found out he had it as I had facebook in my google search bar and he's email was saved into the log-in, which meant that he had been on MY laptop while i was out the room! I and guessed his password and looked around.

 

Lie #1

 

He was speaking to his ex-gf, which really broke my heart as he knows I am insecure and feel threatened by her. She is friends with his cousin and just a week before, my bf was at a family gathering and insisted that i didn't have to go as I had so much uni work to do, I stupidly aggreed with him. I asked him quite a few times if SHE (the ex) was going to be there as i knew she was friends with his cousin, and he said no and promised me.

Anyway, when I found that he had been speaking to her on facebook, I found out that she did go. My heart sank, and I felt so betrayed because I couldn't believe that he had lied to me about it and been so sneaky.

 

Lie #2

 

He had also spoken to other girls who he had slept with in the past, and i found numerous comments to girls where he would ask if he had a chance with them if he wasn't with me.

 

Since then I haven't been able to trust him, where he denies speaking to those other girls and denies saying those things and says someone must have 'hacked' into his account.

 

Lie #3

 

He's denail has got me so mad and it ends up in arguements which get abusive. Sometimes he'll say something that will make me feel so angry and sick, so all i would do is get out of bed to walk into the bathroom to get some space, but he'll grab me and hold me down and squeeze my wrists so tight that they'll be covered in bruises afterwards.

 

Just to note, he is a lot bigger than me and i'm very very petite and small. I'll try to kick him off me but he won't budge and then because my elbow would dig into him as I'm trying to get him off, he'll squeeze me even tighter where I feel as though my vains in my wrists are going to burst, and he'll slap me or twist my arm, my legs...sometimes i feel as though he is going to break me in half. He strangles me where I'm left with horrible red 'blood marks' it looks like around my neck. This all happened only just yesterday, my back is aching, my arms are bruised, my neck is marked. He even went to punch me in my leg but I blocked it with my hand and so he punched my hand instead on the side where my knuckles are, so now that's hurting me too. He's punch me before in the leg, the arm never in the face but I feel like he will one day.

 

He squeezed my fingers so hard i thought he was going to break them, he'll also call me degrading names and has called me a whore before, even though he's slept with more people than me, and I haven' slept with many people at all in my past.

 

It is so glaringly obvious that you should leave him, but you haven't. So, I guess the question is, WHEN it is it enough? When will it be enough abuse in your eyes? And for godsakes, TELL someone what is going on here. Go to your parents, the police, a university counsellor and tell them what has been going on.

 

Last night I told him it was over, but this happens everytime and he'll always win me back. I hate the way he controls me, and physically and mentally drains me. I get panic attacks while he's abusing me, and he just sits there still being mean to me because he thinks i'm faking it. I don't know what to do.

 

He wins you back because it's a CYCLE of abuse and you refuse to help yourself. Let me guess he "wins you back" by being sweet and apologetic and can't help himself from hurting you when he's angry because he loves you so much and if you wouldn't make him so angry then he wouldn't act this way.

 

He'll blame me for it all, and his excuse for hurting me is because i start it. He knows that I hate being grabbed and controlled and he has no right to do that. I'm not hurting him by walking out the room for a few minutes. He'll try to force me to say sorry and be really patronising and say, 'This is all your fault. You did this. Say Sorry. Say Sorry to me for what you've done.'

His voice is so annoying and disrespectful!

 

Of course he blames you, he is a coward.

 

I can't concentrate, I finish uni next week, and I have work still to do and my back is hurting so much I can't sit up properly to do it. He doesn't care if he effects the outcome of my degree which I've worked so hard for!

 

No, he doesn't care BUT you have to take responsibility here because you ALLOW him to treat you this way....and then you take him back. If your degree was the most important thing to you, then you would cut your losses here and move on.

 

Please can someone help me and give me advice!

 

Yes, my advice is seek help, tell someone what has been going on(not a gf but an ADULT who can help you) and to cut all ties with this boy. You deserve to be in a relationship with mutual respect and honesty and one that is free from physical and emotional abuse. Good luck honey, because we can give you advice until we're blue in the face but the only one who can help you here is YOU.

[little_miss_muffin]

Thank you so much for taking the time to read it and reply to my post. You are right, I should leave him, and I know it. He brings out the worst in me, and I always try to fight back but that's just not who I am, I mean, I'm a fighter inside, and I've usually always stood up for myself, but I have never been one to get into fights!

i think he finds that threatening, because i'm not a walk over like his last gf! He gets pissed off because i'm a feminist? He never respects my views at all.

 

I have not heard from him today, so hopefully he has got the hint this time!

 

Thanks again.

 

x

[Mycroft]

Agree, get away from this abusive guy asap. The sooner the better, imagine how he will act when you're married and he feels your trapped. Notice how everything is your fault, even when it is his.

 

A friend of mine was married to a guy like this. Basically I realized, when his emotions were unhappy/sad/angry/anything unpleasant, in his mind it was her fault. It didn't matter what happened, if he wasn't happy, he figured someone else must have been at fault for it, primarily her. To top it off, he was bi-polar, so this came up all the time. He wasn't physically abusive luckily, but it just got worse and worse and she eventually divorced him.

[quankanne]

LMM, what makes you stay? Is it because you live together and can't break the lease? Is it because you want to "prove" you're more independent (and therefore different) than his ex? Because you can't stop loving him?

 

none of those are good enough reasons to stick around for abuse. Frankly, if he can't deliver when it comes to respect, he needs to be shxt-canned, because life is too short to deal with unnecessary crap like this.

 

WALK AWAY. NOW!!!

[little_miss_muffin]

I think maybe it's to try and prove that I can last longer than the last gf, I know it sounds so silly, maybe it's a jealousy thing as well, I dunno, but I remember he told me that when she found out that me and him started going out, she told him to wish me good luck, as he was horrible and awful to her, and so wanted to wish me luck...i guess she was right after all.

Well, he came over tonight, and things are still the same, I've stood my ground this time, and it's a first that we haven't ended up happy again, he didn't fool me this time! *proud face*

I definatly agree with you when you say life is too short, I'm 21 and I need to live the life of a happy 21 year old, and enjoy myself at these times, not to be depressed. Thank you for your support

 

x

[You'reasian]

I know this is quite long but can someone please read this so I don't feel alone!

 

I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he was the best thing that had happened to me after the last relationship which was awful.

 

He seemed perfect and caring, and I trusted him 100%. However, I can't trust him any more as he lied to me about having facebook after he told me to delete my myspace. I found out he had it as I had facebook in my google search bar and he's email was saved into the log-in, which meant that he had been on MY laptop while i was out the room! I and guessed his password and looked around. He was speaking to his ex-gf, which really broke my heart as he knows I am insecure and feel threatened by her. She is friends with his cousin and just a week before, my bf was at a family gathering and insisted that i didn't have to go as I had so much uni work to do, I stupidly aggreed with him. I asked him quite a few times if SHE (the ex) was going to be there as i knew she was friends with his cousin, and he said no and promised me.

Anyway, when I found that he had been speaking to her on facebook, I found out that she did go. My heart sank, and I felt so betrayed because I couldn't believe that he had lied to me about it and been so sneaky.

He had also spoken to other girls who he had slept with in the past, and i found numerous comments to girls where he would ask if he had a chance with them if he wasn't with me.

 

Since then I haven't been able to trust him, where he denies speaking to those other girls and denies saying those things and says someone must have 'hacked' into his account. I'm not stupid or naive and i thnk he thinks i'm an idiot.

 

He's denail has got me so mad and it ends up in arguements which get abusive. Sometimes he'll say something that will make me feel so angry and sick, so all i would do is get out of bed to walk into the bathroom to get some space, but he'll grab me and hold me down and squeeze my wrists so tight that they'll be covered in bruises afterwards.

 

Just to note, he is a lot bigger than me and i'm very very petite and small. I'll try to kick him off me but he won't budge and then because my elbow would dig into him as I'm trying to get him off, he'll squeeze me even tighter where I feel as though my vains in my wrists are going to burst, and he'll slap me or twist my arm, my legs...sometimes i feel as though he is going to break me in half. He strangles me where I'm left with horrible red 'blood marks' it looks like around my neck. This all happened only just yesterday, my back is aching, my arms are bruised, my neck is marked. He even went to punch me in my leg but I blocked it with my hand and so he punched my hand instead on the side where my knuckles are, so now that's hurting me too. He's punch me before in the leg, the arm never in the face but I feel like he will one day.

 

He squeezed my fingers so hard i thought he was going to break them, he'll also call me degrading names and has called me a whore before, even though he's slept with more people than me, and I haven' slept with many people at all in my past.

 

Last night I told him it was over, but this happens everytime and he'll always win me back. I hate the way he controls me, and physically and mentally drains me. I get panic attacks while he's abusing me, and he just sits there still being mean to me because he thinks i'm faking it. I don't know what to do.

He'll blame me for it all, and his excuse for hurting me is because i start it. He knows that I hate being grabbed and controlled and he has no right to do that. I'm not hurting him by walking out the room for a few minutes. He'll try to force me to say sorry and be really patronising and say, 'This is all your fault. You did this. Say Sorry. Say Sorry to me for what you've done.'

His voice is so annoying and disrespectful!

 

I can't concentrate, I finish uni next week, and I have work still to do and my back is hurting so much I can't sit up properly to do it. He doesn't care if he effects the outcome of my degree which I've worked so hard for!

 

I just want a new life after uni. I'm getting a new job, and I want to have a fresh start. I don't feel like the person that I once was, i dont know who i am anymore, I feel like he's drained me.

 

He even says to me when i tell him I'm going to leave, if I mean it and if I swear on my 'dead brothers grave' (my brother died 5 years ago in a car crash).

He's hurtful and uncaring, but then he'll control me and get me back when he acts nice and cute again. Please can someone help me and give me advice!

 

Love xxx

 

Separate yourself from this guy.

 

Tell him you need distance to work on you.

 

If the physical abuse continues, you might try calling the police. Not sure how responsive the police force in the UK is to such calls, but it should be helpfull none the less.

[annieo]

You need to get away from him, immediately!

 

Let people you love and trust know what is going on, have a safe place to be, and stop playing around. Telling him you'll leave, then not leaving, makes you seems weak in his eyes, makes you more of a victim. He doesn't believe you because you don't believe it yourself. I don't care how "cute" and apologetic he gets afterwards - he's just manipulating you into staying around so he can act out more of his mental issues on you.

 

What he has done is a criminal act. Whether he hits your legs or face is not the issue. Your life is potentially at stake. It will escalate, it always does.

 

Get the hell out, and call the police if he doesn't back off. If you still have bruises, photograph and document them. Hopefully, if you make a strong enough stand at this point, with witnesses to your injuries and back up people, he'll back off.

 

You do NOT deserve any of this. But it's there, so you have to deal with it. Strength, courage and blessings

[LoveLace]

Abusers have a cycle, of being mean and then being nice...when they are nice it's the "honeymoon phase"....it's a way to control you. Keep that in mind when you leave him, because he will likely lay it on thick then, maybe even make extravagant promises to change, beg you for you back, etc. And when you continue to resist him, it will make him angry and vulnerable to more abuse, even if you don't live with him. Before you leave, tell someone you trust about it, make sure it's known that he is dangerous. This may sound extreme, but the longer you stay, the more you are risking your life. You might not think he's capable of more than he's done...but he is. Just think if you got married and had kids, making it an even worse situation, where kids are at risk for being abused, too.

 

Lasting longer than the last girlfriend, frankly, wouldn't prove anything positive about you, to him or to anyone else. She got out, and you need to follow her foot steps, here. This is no time to prove anything at all, except that you value your life.

 

A talk show yesterday interviewed a woman that was abused, just like you, for 20 years by her husband...it got worse and worse as time went along, to the point where leaving was not an option for her...he threatened to kill her if she did. It was to the point where he came at her with a gun, but since she was prepared, she ended up having to kill her own husband. Pretty soon she has to go in front of a jury to prove he deserved it, otherwise she'll get life in prison. I'm just saying, you have to consider the worst possible scenario and the system is not always a supportive one. Hoping and believing he will change, only enables him to continue this behavior. End it before it's too dangerous to even do so. Good luck.

[little_miss_muffin]

That's what I always think. he wants to move to America, and at first I was so up for it and really wanted to go, and me and him would plan our future together, and I used to know that if someone offered us that life right there and then I would jump at the chance.

Now however, I don't want to, I don't want to live my life for him, and go all that way and then some time down the line i find out his lying to me. I'd have no friends, no family, and all because I would have lived his life by going out there.

I always think to myself, if he got down on one knee randomly, and proposed, I'd not know what to say, which is because it isn't right, and my gut feeling would be making me feel doubtful about it, because he isn't for me, i know this.

Everything is so much easier said then done, but I guess I have to keep strong.

 

He has a friend down at the moment from Mississippi,got here this morning, he went there 2 years ago just before i met him, where he slept with quite a few girls. They're the girls he still spoke to recently on facebook, so now i don't want to even meet his friend who's coming down because it reminds me of those times and makes me so mad and jealous. I just don't trust them together.

I know that if i spend time with them I'm goign hear one of those girls names being mentioned, and this guys sister used to like my bf too, so I know she's going to get mentioned. I know it sounds crazy of me, but when me and my bf first got together, he told me all the gory details of people he had sex with in the past, and forced it out of me to tell him mine, even though I found it disrespectful, so now i can't help but think of his past because it was so whore-ish.

He then used to call me a whore and throw me around like how I described it before above, but it was 'okay for him to sleep around cos he's a guy'...f*cking a-hole.

 

I just can't live with what he does to me, and his concept of what is right and what is wrong.

 

Tonight i'm stuck in, I've been invited out with him and this Mississippi guy, but all my friends are busy so I'll be stuck with them.

If i don't go out with them, my minds going to go crazy and I'm just going to think of horrible things in my head and be upset all night.

 

I feel so alone, it's typical how my friends all have to busy tonight, life just sucks so bad right now, I feel like i have no one.

[Island Girl]

I think maybe it's to try and prove that I can last longer than the last gf, I know it sounds so silly, maybe it's a jealousy thing as well, I dunno, but I remember he told me that when she found out that me and him started going out, she told him to wish me good luck, as he was horrible and awful to her, and so wanted to wish me luck...i guess she was right after all.

 

Maybe it is the way you are thinking about this.

 

Because I would be thinking I am not going to be an idiot like she was and stay with this jerk and waste that much time in my life with an abusive azzhat.

 

Seriously you need to tell one of the counselors at the Uni or a teacher or someone -- an adult. And get away from this moron.

 

He is pretty far gone in the abuse cycle and since he has done this previously as well you are really in danger.

You have said this is getting worse physically.

 

And it is classic to blame you for these episodes and then be sweet after. The is the textbook abuser pattern.

 

You are 21 years old. You do not need to become a statistic.

 

And you were not stuck with them tonight. You should have stayed home alone rather than put yourself in danger again.

 

I don't think you understand how lost you are in all of this. It obviously started small and has built up to some serious violence. It will continue to get worse.

 

Please PLEASE tell your parents, tell the counselor, tell PEOPLE who can help you.

[little_miss_muffin]

I haven't gone out with them yet, I only posted this this morning an hour or so ago. I think I'm going to stay in for sure, I was just on the phone to him and get this; he said to me that if I hit him, he has the right to hit me back. I just said F you and put the phone down, haven't picked up his calls.

I know it's wrong for me to hit him, but it starts of seriously, when he wont let me get some space and has to hold me down. Does he not get it by now?

Thing is, like I said before, I'm 5ft, petite, and i'm not really built in a way that can harm him. He's 5' 10, broad, and used to do weights and sports, so he has that physic.

He thinks we're on the same scale.

On the phone before he said what I told you, he started saying how i was being moody and horrible to him, and I told him it's because I'm unhappy, then he starts going off on one, saying how it's my fault that I keep going on about it!!! ...if it wasn't for him and what he did then I'd be happy and wouldn't have to moan about anything!

Instead, tonight, I'm going to stay in, do my uni work, turn my phone off and get my sister to hide it somewhere in her room or something, and just get on with work that is going to benefit me!

I have thought about going to see someone, my auntie is a police woman, so I might speak to her, if not, then I might see a counsellor to get my confidence back.

 

x

[Nikki Sahagin]

Follow through on everyone elses advice.

 

I would advocate breaking up with this guy AT A DISTANCE, not in person, because this is likely to potentially make him continue to behave violently/aggressively toward you to prevent you from leaving.

 

As others have mentioned, there is a cycle here, whereby the abuser can be EVERYTHING you want. This is a FAKE image. Somehow they have picked up, what you like, what you want to hear, what tugs at your heart strings, and they can say and do things to pertain to this image. However as soon as you are emotionally/mentally invested again, they switch back to the controlling and manipulative character.

 

The emotional/mental abuse is one thing, but the violence appalls me. He has bruised you and left marks. I would take photographs of these marks and take them to the police. Me and my ex experienced violence twice, the first time was by me, and the second was by him. He choked me around the neck and left marks and bruises around my neck. He burst into tears afterwards and because I hit him in the past, I forgave him for it. Your boyfriend is CONTINUING to hit you so he has learnt NOTHING. He feels no guilt, shame, remorse. If anything he feels POWERFUL. He is in fact a weak, cowardly individual. Anyone who resorts to violence as a means of communication or control is. When I hit my boyfriend, I was a coward, weak, PATHETIC and disgusting. But it is one thing to do something horrible....feel bad...and never do it again. And it is another to repeat it continuously.

 

Get out of there! You have your degree, your health and your happiness to worry about it. I know this guy has a hold on you and is under your skin...and it is so difficult to get people like that out of our systems...but focus on the anger, focus on the humiliation, focus on his 'irritating' voice....the anger will get you through. As soon as you feel wishy-washy because you remember the kind words or the hugs or the kindness - remember the slap to the face, the bruises on your wrists, that he called you a whore, and get ANGRY. Use the anger to ignore him and move on.

 

Please do this for yourself. I can promise you it will only get worse and worse. I can tell you do want help and change. So please know you can do it! Don't look back!

[Eve]

Great advice already provided.

 

What I have noticed in life is that generally people will tell you exactly who they are. If you look closely at your messages you will see that this person has told you who he is - very clearly in fact. Generally people will speak and its up to you whether you accept the information or not. This person knows that no matter what he does and says, you listen.

 

It is as simple as that.

 

Stop listening to crap and get on with your life. In many respects you are part of the reason why he is the way he is. You permit it.

 

Take care,

Eve xx

[sugarmomma]

YOu also mentioned that you hit him. PLEASE DO NOT HIT HIM. HE WILL SERIOUSLY HURT YOU. YOU MAY HAVE SOME ISSUES OF YOUR OWN WITH VIOLENCE.

 

First of all, do you live with him? If not, it should be easy to break up with him. I would get a restraining order to keep him away.

 

Nexr, you have to educate yourself about abuse or the horrible consequences and what it does to your self esteem and confidence. Go online and read about the cyles of abuse and how to spot an abusive man.

 

He is a classic example. You are so young and you have a chance to turn your life around.

 

He is a LOSER!! You need to work on yourself and find out why you allow people to abuse you.

 

 

STAY AWAY FROM HIM. ABUSE IS PROGRESSIVE AND IT WILL GET WORSE. HE KNOWS THAT HE CAN GET AWAY WITH IT NOW AND HE IS GOING TO BEAT THE HELL OUT OF YOU THE NEXT TIME!! CHANGE YOUR NUMBER.

 

WHEN I WAS YOUR AGE I WAS IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. IT TOOK ME 5 YEARS TO GET OUT.

 

PLEASE GET OUT NOW!!!! Do not talk to him anymore. If he hits you again have him arrested immediately. He is Sick!!

[little_miss_muffin]

Luckily, I don't live with him, so that makes things a hell of a lot better and easier for me. And in response to Nikki (2 above), I actually looked at my bruises on my leg this morning and it reminded me of what a terrible person he is. They've come out a lot the last couple of days, and it just made me so mad.

 

I think I do have a problem myself with getting angry, but I have never been like this with anyone else, I'd just usually get moody or talk back if someone is rude to me or whatever, so it kind of shows that he provokes it a lot and knows how to irritate me. I don't like hitting him, and it makes me feel disgusting afterwards as well, but at least I feel shameful about it; he doesn't. I think I get angry at him not just for his lies, but also because he thinks he can push me around because I'm small, and that he's far more superior than me because he's a guy. It gets right on my nerves.

 

Thanks everyone for your posts, it's been nice having people to talk to.

 

x

[You'reasian]

Luckily, I don't live with him, so that makes things a hell of a lot better and easier for me. And in response to Nikki (2 above), I actually looked at my bruises on my leg this morning and it reminded me of what a terrible person he is. They've come out a lot the last couple of days, and it just made me so mad.

 

I think I do have a problem myself with getting angry, but I have never been like this with anyone else, I'd just usually get moody or talk back if someone is rude to me or whatever, so it kind of shows that he provokes it a lot and knows how to irritate me. I don't like hitting him, and it makes me feel disgusting afterwards as well, but at least I feel shameful about it; he doesn't. I think I get angry at him not just for his lies, but also because he thinks he can push me around because I'm small, and that he's far more superior than me because he's a guy. It gets right on my nerves.

 

Thanks everyone for your posts, it's been nice having people to talk to.

 

x

 

Have you reported your injuries to the authories?

 

With the bruises all over you - that should be enough to get something to get law enforcement to keep him away from you.

 

Either way, avoid this guy and work on yourself from now on.

[little_miss_muffin]

The only people I've told is my close friends, but then my friends at work see them too sometimes, and I am straight up with them, and they've said that it's good that I don't keep it to myself and I actually tell people what's going on so someone else is aware of it.

I don't want to tell my parents, I know they're important but I just don't want them to get involved.

I haven't told the authorities like the police about it because I feel like the bruises I have at the moment are not drastic enough, I should have gone before when they've been a lot worse. The police here are really crap, I don't know where you live, but if anyone lived around here they're not that amazing. Saying that, my auntie is a police officer and she would definatly pay attention to her own niece, so I will bare that in mind, thank you.