Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Every night I have the same dreams. My ex and I are happy and reconciling. She is usually the one who makes the move and I am suprised in my dreams. What the hell does it all mean? EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!! Does anyone else have this? Link to post Share on other sites
drummerprince81 Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Almost every night... Link to post Share on other sites
bluewolf17 Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Hey SoulBear, Hang in there. I have them too. Less often now. Doesn't it make you feel like, there must be somthing to them? I guess in the end, it's just your imagination. I came to beleive, that my heart was so broken, and my mind was in so much agony, that when I slept, my dreams gave me what I wanted, if just for a bit. My re-occuring dream is that I am in bed, and he is there with me. We just woke up, and the sun is shinging on the bed. We are so happy, and in love. I hold his face in my hands and tell him, "your here!". He smiles at me sweetly. Then I realize somthing is amiss, and I look at him, and say "Your not going to be here when I wake up, are you?". He smiles again, so sweet. And shakes his head no. Then I wake up. Depressing... Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 the opposite happens in my dreams. the ex would wanna meet up in my dreams then we talk and he ends up dumping me.... EVEN IN MY DREAMS LOL! so what the heck - just move on then! I gotta be fabulous and single and love my freedom. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 Thats strange... In my dreams we just hold each other say how sorry we are to each other and how much we love each other and how it will work this time. There is never any dumping or any doubt.... Its only when i wake up that I realise that its a dream...but damn...every night its the same. It really has me thinking there is more to it than that. Out of interest, have you all been going NC or have you been talking to each other? Are you both on speaking terms? Im going to conduct a small experiment now... Stories please Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 same dream all the time, she says she made a mistake, we make up, i wake up, i'm sad! NC 14 days, before that 22 days, so only broke it for 1 day to ask for money she owed me. it's not a sign so don't read into it! Link to post Share on other sites
playlislay Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 These dreams will slowly fade, well, I hope so. Mine used to be like that but now (knowing that he has a new gf ( ) my dreams of him have recently started up again. Although this time they consist of him going out with one of my associates, being all loving with them and me just standing there. Watching. Having my heart broken all over again. It sucks. I wake up in tears, sweaty and barely able to breathe!!! Gr! Whats worse is that we cant control our dreams. The only way that I can try to control them is to watch a moving or dramatic programme before I sleep-these tend to have an influence over what occurs in my dreams. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 same dream all the time, she says she made a mistake, we make up, i wake up, i'm sad! NC 14 days, before that 22 days, so only broke it for 1 day to ask for money she owed me. it's not a sign so don't read into it! On whose part is the NC? Yours or hers, or both? Do you ever think that maybe your dreams are telling you that you should try to work through it together? Maybe you are both having a mexican stand off? Sorry guys, I know Im getting on peoples nerves here, but im so sure that there is more to all this than meets the eye. You dont want to contact them and are waiting for them to contact you and visa versa.... Makes me think Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 These dreams will slowly fade, well, I hope so. Mine used to be like that but now (knowing that he has a new gf ( ) my dreams of him have recently started up again. Although this time they consist of him going out with one of my associates, being all loving with them and me just standing there. Watching. Having my heart broken all over again. It sucks. I wake up in tears, sweaty and barely able to breathe!!! Gr! Whats worse is that we cant control our dreams. The only way that I can try to control them is to watch a moving or dramatic programme before I sleep-these tend to have an influence over what occurs in my dreams. This is an interesting one too, have you guys been in contact at all? are you on friendly terms? Or is it all still yugh?! Am I the only one not doing NC and on friendly terms with my ex??!! Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 It's not contact from my side she gave me the whole ' i hope in time we can be friends' Why would i settle for being her friend? and why if she wanted to be my friend does she not contact me? You can only try to get blood out of stone for so long ex's give nothing but take everything! Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I think that you want the relationship to work so badly, so absolutely, that your subconcious has latched onto it. And I suspect you want to hear that your dreams are prophetic. I haven't posted to your threads that I recall, because others have given you the same advice I would. But I fear for your heart, brother; that's all I can say. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 It's not contact from my side she gave me the whole ' i hope in time we can be friends' Why would i settle for being her friend? and why if she wanted to be my friend does she not contact me? You can only try to get blood out of stone for so long ex's give nothing but take everything! Sorry bro! I didnt realise it was you, you just changed your pic! -duh- Anyway, Sometimes, the whole firnds thing can be a door left open...sometimes it can be an easy way out for them...only YOU will know what one it is... Peace and Light me broo. Stay safe Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 I think that you want the relationship to work so badly, so absolutely, that your subconcious has latched onto it. And I suspect you want to hear that your dreams are prophetic. I haven't posted to your threads that I recall, because others have given you the same advice I would. But I fear for your heart, brother; that's all I can say. what does not kill me will only make me stronger Im not going to give up on something I believe in. I hope you understand. If it backfires in my face - so be it. But at least I know that I have given it everything I have got. I dont want to live in regret. Thats just who I am. Please dont fear for me, I will be fine, whatever happens, I will be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
fromfaraway Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Every night I have the same dreams. My ex and I are happy and reconciling. She is usually the one who makes the move and I am suprised in my dreams. What the hell does it all mean? EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!! Does anyone else have this? Soul Bear, I had them for 4 years, in which we had no contact. I reestablished contact with her, and they disappeared. Clearly you have feelings. Do you think that contacting her will do you any good? Just a thought! Link to post Share on other sites
Nuala83 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Every night I have the same dreams. My ex and I are happy and reconciling. She is usually the one who makes the move and I am suprised in my dreams. What the hell does it all mean? EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!! Does anyone else have this? If it makes you feel any better Soul Bear, I've been dreaming about my ex every night for the past 2 months. Not the same dream every night but the theme's the same. I dream that he's getting closer to the other girl and I'm stuck there watching them flirt!!! Aaagghhhh!!!! It's f*cking horrible and in the dreams I'm not actually present but watching it somehow. Does that make sense? I even dream that they send each other suggestive messages over messenger! TORTURE! Link to post Share on other sites
fabulous_chk Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Out of interest, have you all been going NC or have you been talking to each other? Are you both on speaking terms? Im going to conduct a small experiment now... Stories please NC on my side - 14 which he broke, then another 7 days and now 11 days....he kept breaking it to tell me how wonderful his life is and things are with his new gf. I couldn't bear it I'm not ready yet for those kind of information so I asked him for time and space. The dreams have stopped - I actually like sleeping now I feel so good just sleeping rather than waking up. A sign of depression so I gotta watch out. Link to post Share on other sites
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I don't want to get anyones hopes up.. I just wanted to say that I have had prophectic dreams. I think it happens to many people. I think there is definetly more to dreams then just our subconcious. However, many times are subconcious is the one playing the role, either with our fears or hopes. The way I always knew if my dream was somthing more is the strange feeling I had when I woke up. I however am going through a divorce and am addicted to my soon to be ex husband. Who is in love with someone else. I don't dream much anymore. Just visions of things float in and out of my mind and I am glad. He is invading my life I don't need him in my dreams too. If your having nice dreams about your ex. Who knows if they will come true. I would say since your being friendly with your ex SoulBear that there is definetly a more of a chance then those of us who aren't. I suppose if it gives you peace to dream of them and makes you happy atleast you have that. I think it would probably make me more miserable.. Link to post Share on other sites
t0ri Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 My ex keeps appearing in my dreams as well The other night I dreamed that I gave birth (painlessly!) to his child!! Other dreams include me meeting a stranger (female) and she ends up telling me her new guys name, which is my ex, spying on him while he threw a party, and us reconciling and cuddling & kissing in bed. Bizarre. I'd rather not see him AT ALL, but am forced to in my dreams, making me sad when I wake up sometimes. Mine don't occur every single night, but a lot of the nights. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 20, 2009 Author Share Posted May 20, 2009 Saw my ex yesterday for the first time in a month and a bit. She said she had dreamed about me twice while she was away, and her dreams were of me begging to come back and her pushing me away. Rest of the story in another thread. Link to post Share on other sites
Ayla Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I belive dreams have different purposes... 1. Wishful thinking 2. Reassessing the day or a conversation or situation 3. Prophetic 4. Meeting with someone who is dreaming of you at the same time. SB-I think yours are number 1. Cos it is something you want so bad. I too dream of my ex every night, but rarely remember them. I just remember his presence. The weirdest dream I have had was that I was hanging out with my best friend ex, who has the same name as my ex. I then went home (which looked like the home we shared in real life) and his brown shoes were on the floor. I put them in the cupboard and I thought to myself (in the dream) no worries, he will be back for them when he remembers, and I felt happy and comfortable. The end. I have not had the dream again but it really stuck with me. ...that was about 4 weeks ago. Have been NC for 7.5 weeks and broken up for 8 weeks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 20, 2009 Author Share Posted May 20, 2009 your right. It was just wishfull thinking. I got my heart trampled on all over again yesterday Link to post Share on other sites
JeezLouise Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 (((((Soul Bear))))) it is no fun having your heart trampled. At the end of the day, YOU are the ONLY one who will look after and protect you. That is the purpose and beauty of NC - to learn how to take the best possible care of your most vulnerable areas and to make them stronger. Please take this time that you have now, to protect your heart and keep it from being hurt again. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 your right. It was just wishfull thinking. I got my heart trampled on all over again yesterday There'll be no "I told you so's" from me; but this is what I was afraid would happen. And I'm very sorry that it did. I second everything Jeez said, you HAVE to protect your heart now, you HAVE to go NC and heal. Anything short of NC at this point is self destruction. Hang in there Bro; there's light at the end of the tunnel. I won't lie about the length of that tunnel, but if you'll allow me another prediction: a year from now you'll be happy, healthy, and kicking yourself for subjecting yourself to this abuse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 20, 2009 Author Share Posted May 20, 2009 Funny that...obviously SHE had the prophetic dreams and I had the Hope full dreams. I have no other choice now but to let go. Thanks for your replies folks. Link to post Share on other sites
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