SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Okay so my bf has asked me to make some "naughty videos" on the webcam for him to use for...you know...while he is away at school. Have any of you ladies (or guys, too) done this for your LD SO? I am rather nervous...what happens if (GOD FORBID) we break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 No no no no no, a thousand times no. With a capital N and O. Keep thinking about what would happen if you break up. It is not worth the risk at all. Tell him to use his imagination. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 I'm thinking of doing it but not showing my face AT ALL. Think this would be ok? Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I'm thinking of doing it but not showing my face AT ALL. Think this would be ok? This may work. That way when the video(s) wind up on the internet, your dad won't have a stroke in the midst of surfing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 Exactly!!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 I really don't think it would end up on the internet, honestly. We've been together for 5 and 1/2 years and I believe he would have more respect for me than that, should something happen. But...I'm thinkin if I leave my face out it will be okay. Link to post Share on other sites
Maggs Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 To be honest, I wouldn't! I would never do a video. Live stuff yea, but never a video. But I guess that's just me. My fiance gets really naughty emails sometimes. Which he thoroughly enjoys! Maybe that'll be a better idea. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 I've done some naughty emails already ;)LOL. I'm just trying to keep things spicy...he's only been gone about a month and we're already hurting for some lovin. I just want to make sure he doesn't forget what he has back home when he's seeing all those scantily clad girls on the beach/at the bars. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 You may trust him, but computers aren't always the safest places to store stuff like that. What happens if his friend sneaks on his laptop? If he sends it for repair? If someone hacks into his computer just for fun? Wouldn't it be hotter to do it WHILE he's watching, instead of recording? And safer, too? Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I posed nude when I was younger for an photo project for a friend and he gave me the negatives. I was ok with that then and wish I hadn't lost the negatives because there was one really great shot I wouldn't have minded getting a print of (all you see is my back and rear end, I was sitting with my knees tucked under me and my hands over my head holding a light - looked neat). I have told my LDR, as much as I love him, and as crazy as we get in the sack when we see each other, the best he will EVER get from me is a photo of my chest in a low-cut shirt. NO PHOTOS, NO MOVIES. No No No No No. NO. They ALWAYS seem to find their way into the wrong audience. I refuse to take the risk. Please PLEASE be careful if you decide to go forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Author Share Posted May 15, 2009 Elswyth you're right it is nice to do "live" or whatever on skype while he's watching..but isn't there a way he'd be able to record it anyway? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 If you believe you know and trust him very well, then the risk of him sneakily recording you and not informing you would be extremely low... much lower than the risk of him breaking up with you and being vengeful, or someone hacking him computer, etc. Personally, I'd definitely do it live, but I'd never record it. He wouldn't either, we're both paranoid after reading about several 'computer hacking/repair fiascos'. Granted, those usually occur mainly to celebrities, but still. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Nope. Don't do it. Morbid thought - he dies and his parents/brother/friends are going through his things to find out what to save and what to trash. Link to post Share on other sites
thegoodlife Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 Honestly, I have. I've made 3 in the past for my bf, my face isn't shown in any of them. I was extremely nervous to do it, and I still get nervous from time to time when I think about it. I was young and I was stupid, but I've just come to terms with the fact that I made the choice to do it, and although I don't think it will happen, IF those videos happen to surface somewhere then I'll just have to face the music. Can't change the past. I wouldn't do it again though. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted May 15, 2009 Share Posted May 15, 2009 I really don't think it would end up on the internet, honestly. We've been together for 5 and 1/2 years and I believe he would have more respect for me than that, should something happen. But...I'm thinkin if I leave my face out it will be okay. I think there is an expression in america that this is a "pile of crock"....? there are people married for 3 times that amount who divorce with no respect and much animosity for each other, so I personally would not count on this to guarantee that he would have that much respect for you if you were to seriously argue and split up. The face is the one area where pleasure shows up in film and photo. You think he would be happy to omit? you really think this would be un-identifiable....? and if he was angry at you, don't you think he would say something like "hey guys, check my ex *<name>* what do you think?" It has been already said: N-O. and look, here it is again!! N-O!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 My answer to this is NO. I would make him use his imagination. My husband has done that just fine for 6+ years. No naughty photos, videos, etc. We utilize the phone - and that's it. And he hasn't been gone very long, right? What happens a year from now? What is going to "keep" his interest or keep things from getting "boring" then? Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 You can do it if you want to end up on the internet later on, which you WILL. Even live, you can record the screen in the background, which he more than likely will. For two reasons, 1. for material for the spank bank and 2. it's his ace card for if you break up. Even if you don't show your face, you'll know it's you. Do you have any tattoo's? But it's up to you and you alone if you want to do it or not. Only you know if you are comfortable with this sort of thing. You really can't take someone else's advice on this as we all have different moral barometers. I've done stuff for a girlfriend and she's done stuff for me and we've done stuff together. Is it out on the internet? Probably. Do I care? Nope. In fact, if I found I had the most views I would think that's completely awesome. I never showed my face, so I could care less if the world has seen my hog. I'm completely comfortable in my on skin. Maybe start with pg-13 type material, just to get him going. Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted May 16, 2009 Share Posted May 16, 2009 Wearing a low cut, tight fitting top while chatting on webcam - no problem - just to remind him what he's missing........ but a 'naughty video'? Oh no! Definitely not! Not worth the risk. We're not really into the internet/phone sex thing anyway. Each to their own though! Link to post Share on other sites
megrenade Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Well, since my boyfriend has been in the army... I've sent him some naughty pictures... bra and underwear type stuff. Nothing too revealing. I would definitely not send naughty videos, though. Nothing wrong with pictures, if they're not X-rated, I don't see why not. Link to post Share on other sites
dunstable Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 If you are comfortable with other people seeing the video some day, do it, otherwise don't take the risk. Link to post Share on other sites
LikeCharlotte Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 There is something to be said for taking the risk . PM me Sophie if you want ideas. There are safe or at least "safer" ways. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 Thank you- just pmed ya. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Has no one ever heard of the user-submitted sites like Youporn etc? They are chockfull of videos that angry, vengeful people have posted of their ex's. And I bet a lot of them had the same "I love you, I would never show anyone this video, even if we broke up". Bad idea all around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 And what do I care where it ends up if my FACE isn't shown in ANY of them??? Link to post Share on other sites
westernxer Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 And what do I care where it ends up if my FACE isn't shown in ANY of them??? Do what you like then. But what if someone traces the video back to your room and deduces that it's you? Anything is possible, with or without a head. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
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