PinkToes Posted June 3, 2009 Share Posted June 3, 2009 Touche, you've got some amazing advice, you really do, but after 26 pages of doing whatever he wants and not listening to anybody, don't you see that he doesn't give a sh*t what you or anyone else has to say? It's another one of these "bragging" threads, and you know how I can tell? Because the OP has a freaking smart answer for everything. He's emotionally dishonest. He doesn't even seem human half the time. He writes like he's in a children's book. So just let him hurt the people around him, because it's inevitable. I'm starting to agree. TP's a big boy, he knows what he's doing. I'd just hate to be either one of these women, knowing both sides of the story. Hey, maybe he could hang out with the ex long enough for the current g/f to find out and get pissed and leave. Very decisive, that. Cowardly, but decisive. Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 3, 2009 Share Posted June 3, 2009 Ouch! Anyway, I finally figured out what he wants to hear. TP, you can have both. Just date both. You can do whatever you want and there will be no repercussions. There. Link to post Share on other sites
TroyNJ Posted June 3, 2009 Share Posted June 3, 2009 Incoming Train Wreck! Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Honestly, I don't know... I'd suggest against going back to him... But our situations are a little different, I think... -TP like um..i'm a boy. Explain to me, why are they different? We were both severely hurt by someone we loved. We both had to move on. We both have gotten apology letters....so, what's so different? Other than the fact that YOU want to tell yourself it's different in order to justify what you know isn't right for you.... Link to post Share on other sites
AriaIncognito Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 He's always struck me as a very sensitive and genuine man. And I don't think he's going to hurt anyone except himself...so there we don't agree. Touche - you're right on this. He's a very sensitive person. Posters, I know this man in real life. Not just via words on paper. I've seen how he acts with his girfriends, and how he's reacted over breakups. He's not doing this for attention. He's trying to rationalize something to himself that he knows isn't right, and therefore isn't really getting anywhere on this thread. Now, to you TP..you say the thing that was in her life that caused the issue is gone. You are very wrong on this one. B is her own person. B makes her own decisions. B decided that YOU weren't worth it, and that her EX was more worth it. B decided to leave YOU hanging high and dry. Her "bad influence" being out of her life is a tiny sliver of positive for her newfound rebirth. Trust me. She's not a different person just because 1 person is gone. No one person has that great an influence over someone ESPECIALLY if that someone loves YOU and wants to be with YOU. They would fight for YOU. She didn't. Cut the crap. You know you're going to get hurt. And you know I'm going to say I told you so when you're upset over this. I'll offer you tissues, but I certainly will never say I didn't see it coming... Sorry to be so blunt, but well, you also know ME and know that I'm not one to sugar coat something that is obvious to me. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I was at her place, and we were watching TV (a Family Guy marathon, by the way... I NEVER watched FG until I met her!)..... and she "made a move" on me.... YET she KNOWS you have a girlfriend and decided to make a move on you anyway. Your ex, whom hurt and cheated on YOU, made a move knowing FULL WELL that you're in a relationship. TP, you don't know if this ex has changed. NOONE can know that in such a short period of time. There's no way this girl has become a completely different person, learned and grown from what she's gone through in such a short period of time. I mean, HOW long ago did her ex and her break up? Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I'll offer you tissues He will need tissues after the fallout.. but not for his tears .. Aria.. he stopped listening before he even posted this thread.. It's hard to say what any of us would do in his shoes.. I would hope that I had enough self respect to put her in my rear view mirror in this case and I think that is what I would do.. but I'm not TP... Whatever you do TP.. don't just settle with this chick, settling can lead to a loneliness that dwarfs what you feel today... Good luck TP... I guess... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 YET she KNOWS you have a girlfriend and decided to make a move on you anyway. Your ex, whom hurt and cheated on YOU, made a move knowing FULL WELL that you're in a relationship. TP, you don't know if this ex has changed. NOONE can know that in such a short period of time. There's no way this girl has become a completely different person, learned and grown from what she's gone through in such a short period of time. I mean, HOW long ago did her ex and her break up? indeed... *turns chin up and stares down nose* Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 It doesn't absolve her of what she did, but it also means that I do see the change in her. But enough change to make you want to go back with her? I'm sorry, but it seems like you've given this no time at all, like your mind is made up - You and the ex are back together. First things first - Be honest and break up with your current girlfriend. It's just wrong for you to be spending all this new time with your ex, allowing old feelings to come rushing back - All based on LESS than 3 weeks or so of talking and seeing her. How do you know this ex has totally changed? Who's to say in 3 months, she'll turn around, treat you like crap, say you're too nice, too giving, too much for her and she hurts you all over again. TAKE IT SLOW man. Put off sex for A LONG TIME, otherwise you're in deep trouble. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 TP.. you're so already banging her.. aren't you ?.. tell us the truth... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 i think we should all keep ourselves in tip-top mental & emotional health for when TP comes back with his tail between his legs in 6 months Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 if the GOP found out TP is hanging out with bisexuals and transvestites they'd kick his arse out of the party Link to post Share on other sites
Computer Chip Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 i think we should all keep ourselves in tip-top mental & emotional health for when TP comes back with his tail between his legs in 6 months indeed.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 I would play the dumb routine : Dear : who ever you are :........ Do I know you ? Wow if so, sorry its been ages and my girlfriend and I appreciate your note . Thank you Have a nice day LOL ! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 TP.. you're so already banging her.. aren't you ?.. tell us the truth... of course he is A_C, you know that. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 TP, baby cakes, I really wish you wouldn't start this up again. But you will, you're human. And from LS. No-one ever does what they should on LS. I hope it doesn't blow up in your face, if it does we're here okay. With a lot of "I told you so" remarks but here anyway. If it doesn't I expect an invitation to the wedding. Break up with your current girl, it's going nowhere and you need to remove as much drama from the situation as possible and now. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Explain to me, why are they different? We were both severely hurt by someone we loved. We both had to move on. We both have gotten apology letters....so, what's so different? Other than the fact that YOU want to tell yourself it's different in order to justify what you know isn't right for you.... wow, you're all wasting your time...we're Jews..we're stubborn. We all think we're different and special...well we're not. We're no different than anyone else. Nope, we're not. Hopefully you raise your expectations..i did. Get it now, TP? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 TP, I hope you really read my reply to you..And get back to me. You ARE letting the WRONG head think here. It's way too soon for you to go back to your ex. Man, it's like the past 3 years have been wiped out and didn't exist in some sense! Sure, you can forgive her, but the thing is, not enough time has gone by for her to prove to you she's changed. She can tell she has till she's blue in the face, until you see ACTIONS and a changed pattern in her behaviour, then possibly you'll know if she has. Right now? Too soon. Again, her making a move on you is just really crappy because she KNOWS you are with someone else. To me, that just says she has no respect and I think she's still the same person she was before, she's just hiding it from you.. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Oh God I am 400 posts too late ! Are you getting back with her. ?? I jumped ahead there were so many posts. Encapsulate this for me , I have to get some sleep ..hehe Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Oh God I am 400 posts too late ! Are you getting back with her. ?? I jumped ahead there were so many posts. Encapsulate this for me , I have to get some sleep ..hehe basically TP started dating this new bisexual woman a few months back. within the past week or two his ex bisexual gf sent him an email (after 3 years of NC and she dumped hiim). he responded back to her within 5 hours. they got together and he went all ga ga and she apologized and gave him some sob story saying she's changed and realized how she hurt him. now she wants to get back together with TP and "build a life". he's probably bangin' her right now basically she's full of sheeyot Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 oh yeah M3, the ex bisexual gf was with some dude who treated her like crap and she remembered how "nice" it was with TP. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 basically TP started dating this new bisexual woman a few months back. within the past week or two his ex bisexual gf sent him an email (after 3 years of NC and she dumped hiim). he responded back to her within 5 hours. they got together and he went all ga ga and she apologized and gave him some sob story saying she's changed and realized how she hurt him. now she wants to get back together with TP and "build a life". he's probably bangin' her right now basically she's full of sheeyot Damn... not bad Alpha... 400 posts summed up in one short one... Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 Damn... not bad Alpha... 400 posts summed up in one short one... :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 basically TP started dating this new bisexual woman a few months back. within the past week or two his ex bisexual gf sent him an email (after 3 years of NC and she dumped hiim). he responded back to her within 5 hours. they got together and he went all ga ga and she apologized and gave him some sob story saying she's changed and realized how she hurt him. now she wants to get back together with TP and "build a life". he's probably bangin' her right now basically she's full of sheeyot After he gets done bangin' her he needs to realize most breakups that get back together break up again. Live and learn , NOT ! Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 4, 2009 Share Posted June 4, 2009 oh yeah M3, the ex bisexual gf was with some dude who treated her like crap and she remembered how "nice" it was with TP. And now all of a sudden, TP is the "nice guy" again and she misses how it "was." Problem is, this girl is a BAD GAL and she likes drama, she creates it and lives/eats/breathes it. TP will suffer again because of her... Sorry TP. Just don't want to see you get really hurt again and this ex has such potiential to do that to you again. Link to post Share on other sites
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