Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 Tonight I'm following my stomach. She's making roast beef. Meanwhile, my current...friend is working, and then going out with her friends... I've seen her twice in the last month, and won't see her for another week. By next Friday, I will have figured out how to resolve all of this. My friends are giving me mixed advice, but it tends towards persuing the relationship with The Teacher, and this is even from the friends who introduced me to my current. They know her and I are too different to have anything more than the "fling" we have now. -TP likes being flung, but..... I'm sure thats not the * only * roast beef you will be having tonite. lol..okay enough with the Jokes...My next letter will be tough love... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 She just had a bad breakup a couple of months ago (karma at it's best)... And she also just had major surgery within the last year or so (and before you ask, yes, she showed me the surgical scar lol) It wasn't until shortly after the surgery that it turned out to be benign. So yes, she's had it VERY rough lately. Again, doesn't change anything, but it was enough to give her a fresh perspective. -TP chicks dig scars But THIS is my point ! WHY do you KNOW all these things ? 3 Years later ? Heck , you shouldn't even know ANYTHING about how she's doing. That is unless she is your buddy buddy friend now and she knows what color shorts you will wear tomorrow... Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I must say that this seems to be moving way too fast. You went from not speaking for three years to spending ALOT of time together. Why the lightning speed? Me thinks she doesn't like being alone, and you keep her from being lonely. Let her sit for awhile TP.... You waited three years for this.....why not make her wait for a bit? I would bet my bottom dollar that she is the one calling you and inviting you over. You are soothing her bruised ego and her loneliness. And, if she isn't calling you and making these plans, why are YOU at breakneck speed? What happened to the cool as a cucumber guy from a few days ago? Slow down, man. Let the leopard reveal her spots. WA Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I say you just need to ask her to marry you.. NOW... Do it TP.. Ask her to be your wife.. Do it before the weekend is up, you don't want to waste one more second before getting on with the rest of your lives together... Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 My last post on this thread, for the sole reason that the OP does not seem to care what we say one way or the other. I was in a similar situation as TP. In 2005, my now-ex and I started being in contact, coincidentally right around the time her relationship with the boyfriend was failing. We had dated in the past, as TP and this girl did. Well, we started hanging out - had SEX within the first week or two of dating again. Sharing intimate details, etc. despite the fact that we'd been apart since, oh, the year 2000. Looking back I can see with perfect 20/20 hindsight that I was being used. Played. Completely manipulated so that this freaking girl did not have to be alone. She knew she had me waiting in the wings, and she reached out and grabbed me, and I let it happen because I was lonely and had been single for a long time. So many parallels between my situation and the one I'm reading about here. If I've gotten impassioned, it's because the whole thing hits very close to home. TP's ex, the new girl he's considering dumping his current GF for, is doing VERY SIMILAR things that my ex did. Coming onto him under the guise of "change." There's only one ending to this though, and it happened to me. You realize she's the same old mean person. It took three years for this revival relationship to end, but it f*cking ended. She had never really changed. Neither had I. I was the same pathetic kid I was back in 2000. Whenever things go so smooth, and it's so exciting and all your answers are right in front of you - it's too good to be true. It's a house that you've built in your mind for years that will come tumbling down soon after you move in. There is no change in people. Those who have hurt us once will hurt us again. But we're so stupid, we just let it happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I really know how you feel. Look, if you think you'll regret not giving this a try, do it. But know that it's not likely to last. It's going to crash like a rocket! But hey, at least we'll have a lot to read, and at least he'll have a good ride at first, plus, she's making roast beef, the effort! Link to post Share on other sites
kizik Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 Even if it does crash, I believe he has too much pride to come back here and admit it. Link to post Share on other sites
Walking away Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 It is so hard, though. I sympathize with TP, actually. We all have that certain someone who just gets into our skin and we never quite remove them from our soul completely.... And, obviously, Teacher is Teacher's Pet's poison... And to get those feelings back.... It is exhilarating... But, it is as dangerous as it is exciting. TP, I fear the worst for you. But, I understand that she is your catnip. I get it. But at least try to resist. Guard your heart, at least. If you make yourself completely vulnerable to her again, you will be crushed. Be smart. For once in my life, I am asking you to let your head lead your heart. (And I am a hopeless romantic). I am still a romantic, but I have learned to be pragmatic. What is too good to be true, IS. Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I say you just need to ask her to marry you.. NOW... Do it TP.. Ask her to be your wife.. Do it before the weekend is up, you don't want to waste one more second before getting on with the rest of your lives together... No joke...my mother told me that the ONLY way he and I were ever going to get each other out of our systems once and for all was to marry each other. Boy, was she right. No joke. Reader's Digest Background with the Ex: Engaged after about 5 years. Broken engagement (he broke it), I moved to another state, NC for one year, LC after that until we became engaged AGAIN! Married after one year of an LD relationship that lasted for a few months...marriage lasted 3 years, I left...total wasted time together: NINE EFFIN' YEARS. Live and effin' learn! Nope, they don't change. Yep, I thought he was a totally different person...what a fool. Link to post Share on other sites
underpants Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I say you just need to ask her to marry you.. NOW... Do it TP.. Ask her to be your wife.. Do it before the weekend is up, you don't want to waste one more second before getting on with the rest of your lives together... ....... Oh dear. Link to post Share on other sites
OpenBook Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I'm not convinced that people don't change. What hope is there for our evolution if we are incapable of changing for the better? TP, I believe the greatest chance for your success with The Teacher (or whoever your next SO happens to be) lie in the changes that have taken place within YOU over the last 3 years. Maybe this time around, you'll teach HER a thing or two. -OB TPT (Teacher's Pet's the Teacher now) (or... Wag The Dog) Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 Even if it does crash, I believe he has too much pride to come back here and admit it. No way. TP isn't like that.. If it doesn't work out, he'll post about it and we'll ALL support him, reguardless. Again, doesn't change anything, but it was enough to give her a fresh perspective For how long? Do you know how many people go through health crisis's and say the same thing, yet as time goes on they slip back into their regular ways. Your ex has to WANT to change and do all the necessary leg work to keep the changes going. Time will tell. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I say you just need to ask her to marry you.. NOW... Do it TP.. Ask her to be your wife.. Do it before the weekend is up, you don't want to waste one more second before getting on with the rest of your lives together... Haha ~!!!!............ .....Okay I will shut up now........ Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 My last post on this thread, for the sole reason that the OP does not seem to care what we say one way or the other. I was in a similar situation as TP. In 2005, my now-ex and I started being in contact, coincidentally right around the time her relationship with the boyfriend was failing. We had dated in the past, as TP and this girl did. Well, we started hanging out - had SEX within the first week or two of dating again. Sharing intimate details, etc. despite the fact that we'd been apart since, oh, the year 2000. Looking back I can see with perfect 20/20 hindsight that I was being used. Played. Completely manipulated so that this freaking girl did not have to be alone. She knew she had me waiting in the wings, and she reached out and grabbed me, and I let it happen because I was lonely and had been single for a long time. So many parallels between my situation and the one I'm reading about here. If I've gotten impassioned, it's because the whole thing hits very close to home. TP's ex, the new girl he's considering dumping his current GF for, is doing VERY SIMILAR things that my ex did. Coming onto him under the guise of "change." There's only one ending to this though, and it happened to me. You realize she's the same old mean person. It took three years for this revival relationship to end, but it f*cking ended. She had never really changed. Neither had I. I was the same pathetic kid I was back in 2000. Whenever things go so smooth, and it's so exciting and all your answers are right in front of you - it's too good to be true. It's a house that you've built in your mind for years that will come tumbling down soon after you move in. There is no change in people. Those who have hurt us once will hurt us again. But we're so stupid, we just let it happen. Read THIS Read THIS Read THIS ~~~ OP ~~!! After you read it , read it again AND again.... Maybe you SHOULD marry her so this farce can end !!! Yea do it.. She is definately lonely....u are soup ........ Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 She is definately lonely....u are soup ........ Don't drop the soap! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I am a VERY flirtatious person' date=' whether it's someone I'm involved with, someone I like, or just someone I'm attracted to.[/quote'] dude, you're obese, homely and nerdy. by definition you CAN"T be flirtatious WWIU said i should add this: ":p", just so i don't get in trouble Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 dude, you're obese, homely and nerdy. by definition you CAN"T be flirtatious You know Alpha, wow...I often think you're the male version of me but come on. Even I'm not this mean. Believe it or not, women do fall for personalities more than they do a hot body. And come one, let's be honest...because I always am. Although you are quite smart and very witty and funny, you're no Lothario, honey. You eat unhealthy, you're overweight, and you're not an Adonis, wouldn't you agree? You poop in your sleep, have hemmorohoids (sp?) and pretty much hate women. You're a rude date too. So you think YOU can be flirtatious...by your definition? I think not, dear. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 He's in a bad mood due to the Pens tying up the series. Yeah but he does look like Eric Estrada of CHIPS! WWIU said i should add this: "", just so i don't get in trouble And he listened to me...so, that says something eh? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 have hemmorohoids (sp?) i agree with the rest but this is just a low blow Link to post Share on other sites
Touche Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 He's in a bad mood due to the Pens tying up the series. Yeah but he does look like Eric Estrada of CHIPS! And he listened to me...so, that says something eh? i agree with the rest but this is just a low blow Ok, you guys got me! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 dude, you're obese, homely and nerdy. by definition you CAN"T be flirtatious WWIU said i should add this: ":p", just so i don't get in trouble I like Large guys....husky...chunky,.....go figure....I just don't like skinny or average,....I need a large chest Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 I need a large chest What a great set up for a TP'ism comment. Hopefully he'll be on later after his evening with his ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 What a great set up for a TP'ism comment. Hopefully he'll be on later after his evening with his ex. Do you mean his ex he's going to have soon or the ex ex that he pines over ?? Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 The ex ex. Not the soon to be ex... Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2009 Share Posted June 6, 2009 dude, you're obese, homely and nerdy. by definition you CAN"T be flirtatious He doesn't have any problems pulling chicks Alpha... I've seen lesser numbers coming from others here on LS... Link to post Share on other sites
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