Getting engaged in college?

[bruno]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 years. We started going out when I was a junior in highschool and she a sophomore in highschool. I'm 20 (21 in December) and she's 20. Now I am a junior in college and she a sophomore in college. While, like every relationship, we've had our share of ups and downs. We've both gone through many personal growths and our relationship has matured as a result of that. Now, our relationship is at a point where I don't see it changing much in the future. We are still deeply in love. She is my best friend, my girlfriend, she means everything to me and I'd love nothing more than to take the relationship to the next level by promising to marry her.

 

I was just wondering, is it totally inappropriate to ask her while we're both in college? I'd like to ask her next year when I'm a senior and she's a junior, just to offer that committment to her before I go off into the real world. I know that careers may take us in various directions, but I also know that we'll work our future out when it gets there. She is more important to me than anything that may come alone and I'm going to do whatever it takes. I really appreciate your input, as I know that this wouldn't be a typical age for engagement. We're not typical people, by any means. We're both very homegrown, family oriented, people that are serious about college.

 

So, thanks for your time and I appreciate what you have to say.

[innocent]

I don't know have you talked to her about this? Not like do you want to be engaged, but asking like what she would imagine her life to be like in a few years?

 

My boyfriend and I have also been dating since high school and have changed and grown together, I think that we will get married but I would want to wait until we have both graduated and been independant for a little while. But that is just me, your girl may be completely different.

 

I am a freshman in college and I know several girls who are engaged, a bunch of seniors, a junior, two sophmores and three freshman...so it's not that uncommon.

[bruno]

Thanks for your response, especially the part about knowing several people that are engaged. I never heard of anybody that was at my school, mostly because I don't know that many girls. Just one kid I remember was engaged.

 

Anyway, yes we've talked about it and we're both sure that we want to get married shortly after graduation. We're both serious about academics and potential careers, but we put our relationship above that. Niether of us wants to be out on our own after graduation.

[dalmatianbaby]

Most of my friends and I, were engaged by the time we left college. There is nothing wrong with holding off on the wedding until she is done with school. I was engaged for 2 years before the big day. If you both see the rest of your lives being shared together, I say go for it!

 

 

Dalmatianbaby

 

BTW...Congratulations in advance!!!

[innocent]

Just make sure that you are doing what you think is what you both want.

 

And if you do.... then remember to ask her father permission to marry her first! If my boyfriend did that I would just melt!

 

And it is okay if you wait too, because if you love her that much now, I think that it won't change for a while. (BTW I live in Kentucky, tons of small towns where ppl get engaged early....but I know lots of ppl get engaged elsewhere that early too....MTV had a homecoming show about....darn I don't remember, but this girl was like a sophmoe/junior in collge and had been dating this guy for a long time, and she found out that he cheated on her...blah blah, and he asked her to marry him, to show he really did love her....but I don't remember the name of the show...well if I remember it I will Personal Message you it, It wasn't on but this past week...I'm rambling now but anyway...yeah)