SophieA Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I'm wondering if you've been in a HAPPY, committed relationship with an attractive girl, do you notice other girls? Do you still think "oh man, she's hot." Or do you have eyes only for your girl? I'm not asking if you'd actually act on it...just, do you notice them? Honest answers please! Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Yes they do.. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Most normal men will. I do not if I'm emotionally bonded with the woman I'm with. I have eyes for no one else. If I sense waffling and/or disinterest by that woman, I'll talk about it with her first. If no resolution, other women begin to take on a third dimension. I tolerate but generally do not respect men who ogle other women in front of their SO's or wives. That's disrespectful IMO. A quick glance without turning the head is tolerable, IMO. A woman's tolerance will vary Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I'm wondering if you've been in a HAPPY, committed relationship with an attractive girl, do you notice other girls? Do you still think "oh man, she's hot." Or do you have eyes only for your girl? I'm not asking if you'd actually act on it...just, do you notice them? Honest answers please! Thanks! It would be interesting to see a show of hands by the guys who would admit being in a happy, committed relationship with an unattractive girl... Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 yeah, that's true. You know what I mean though. You have a sexy girlfriend, do you still look at other women? Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I notice, but not ogle or stare. I can get all that and more right at home... Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 It would be interesting to see a show of hands by the guys who would admit being in a happy, committed relationship with an unattractive girl... Attraction is in the eyes of the beholder. One man's meat is another man's poison yadda yadda. Link to post Share on other sites
tinklebell Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 They do but they're merely doing what their biology tells them, not that they would do more than that usually. I know from experience that they only stare/look/notice but when they've found that someone, they keep it to just staring/looking/noticing. Link to post Share on other sites
Saxis Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Attraction is in the eyes of the beholder. One man's meat is another man's poison yadda yadda. Think you read that in the wrong context... Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I don't know a single guy who doesn't notice attractive women. Noticing and doing something about it, are two different things. My fiance notices sometimes but not all the time. Sometimes he's oblivious. As a woman, I notice attractive men. It's the fleeting thought of "he's cute" and then they're forgotten. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Nature compels us to notice attractive members of the opposite sex (or same sex if that's your thing). I'm in agreement with others: it's okay to notice, but making it obvious in front of your woman is tacky and it's asking for trouble. And I never forget that two can play that game. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I wonder how many men objectively notice as has been stated here and how many men linger on thoughts of a particular women even after they go home with the woman that loves him. I hate being out and public and having a guy look at me that is obviously out with another woman. If more men focused on their partners instead of other women, more women would probably be happier. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I wonder how many men objectively notice as has been stated here and how many men linger on thoughts of a particular women even after they go home with the woman that loves him. I hate being out and public and having a guy look at me that is obviously out with another woman. If more men focused on their partners instead of other women, more women would probably be happier. It's a matter of degree. Chances are, if you notice someone who's obviously checking you out, it's obvious not only to you but to his girl and just about anyone who's around the guy. In that case, it's quite tacky. But looking for a moment at a girl/guy and noticing that someone is attractive isn't a big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SophieA Posted May 19, 2009 Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 I wonder how many men objectively notice as has been stated here and how many men linger on thoughts of a particular women even after they go home with the woman that loves him. This is sort of what I meant, I guess! I do believe we all notice if someone is attractive or "hot" but do you think of him/her and what it would be like to have sex with them? Just curious. Thanks for all your responses! Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I hate being out and public and having a guy look at me that is obviously out with another woman. Would you otherwise find such attention undesirable? Also, I'm curious, as I'm generally gentlemanly with any of my female friends in public; how do you know the status of the man and woman and if such status prohibits his wandering eye? My radar must be broken because I generally have no clue unless there are obvious PDA's going on. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I wonder how many men objectively notice as has been stated here and how many men linger on thoughts of a particular women even after they go home with the woman that loves him. I hate being out and public and having a guy look at me that is obviously out with another woman. If more men focused on their partners instead of other women, more women would probably be happier. Jersey, you're worse than the male misogynists, when it comes to misandry. If more women would be a little more trusting and secure within themselves, perhaps they would also be happier in their relationships. There's only so much insecurity that any relationship can handle, regardless of which gender is causing the issues. Hell, I was cheated on in my marriage and I don't even come close to you, for distrust of men. In all honesty, if I had your issues, I would curl up into a fetal ball and never see the light of day. What a horrible existence to believe that an entire other gender is so wretched. Link to post Share on other sites
fral945 Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Yes, all the time. Link to post Share on other sites
You'reasian Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Hell, I was cheated on in my marriage and I don't even come close to you, for distrust of men. In all honesty, if I had your issues, I would curl up into a fetal ball and never see the light of day. What a horrible existence to believe that an entire other gender is so wretched. I think JS has good intentions and thirsts for genuine love, but has just been through some really, really bad guys in her life, perhaps it runs deep. While I generally disagree with her political framework and mindset, she writes well. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 19, 2009 Share Posted May 19, 2009 Debate the message; love the messenger Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Of course men look at other women and find them desirable. I dont' get bent out of shape about that at all. I notice attractive men when I am with my significant other all the time. I am just good at using my peripheral vision to ogle them. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 It's awkward and annoying when a guy that is clearly with his GF or wife, ogles me for an entire minute. I'm not debating that JS is biased against men, but I think she may have meant that, vs. guy briefly glancing at her and then returning to hs GF. Link to post Share on other sites
MissHollywood Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 It's awkward and annoying when a guy that is clearly with his GF or wife, ogles me for an entire minute. I'm not debating that JS is biased against men, but I think she may have meant that, vs. guy briefly glancing at her and then returning to hs GF. I feel "cheated" when a guy with his SO ogles because he's the only one who gets to have a girl and still gets to ogle at another girl. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 In this kind of situation, it's usually pretty obvious when it's an innocent glance and nothing more. In other words, go with your gut. Don't make it into an immature power play, where you and your SO vie to notice hotties and be noticed. People don't possess each other to that extent, and shouldn't. When two people are really into each other, there's no reason to make extended eye contact with various other members of the opposite sex. I think that is what some people get upset about. Not the glancing. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I think JS has good intentions and thirsts for genuine love' date=' but has just been through some really, really bad guys in her life, perhaps it runs deep. While I generally disagree with her political framework and mindset, she writes well.[/quote'] It's moot how well someone writes. If her attitudes aren't making her happy, why does she continue with this mentality? If anything, it's going to scare the crap out of any sane man so he runs like the wind. Jersey's a smart woman. I don't know why she wastes her time believing this nonsense to the core of her. Sure, there are losers and cheaters out there, but...there are some really decent men, as well. The definition of insanity is to repeat the same thing over and over again, and hope for different results. Maybe it's time for Jersey to ask herself why she's attracted to losers, if she's had a bad run. Link to post Share on other sites
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