carhill Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 IMO, she knows there are good men out there. For her, the noise from the rest is deafening and her tone is the response to that din. For better or worse. For me, I tend to notice women's auras; more of an experience of their presence. Perhaps that's why a certain "type" has never caught my attention. It's always cool experiencing that extra dimension. Oh, also, I tend to wander more when the lady I'm with isn't sending signals of reciprocation of my attentions to her. It's hard to explain but my wife was very proficient in that regard Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Sooner or later, something's gotta' give, if Jersey wants a real connection. When you believe that every man is guilty until proven innocent, they're going to be guilty, regardless of what they say and do. This kind of attitude kills relationships before they ever have a chance to get off the ground. No one is so fragile inside, they can't take a few hits in their lives. If they are so fragile, it's going to need years and years of professional help, before they can strengthen up. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Of course I notice them but that is all their is to it. Both my wife and I have a look but don't touch policy to other members of the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Would you otherwise find such attention undesirable? It can find it flattering. But when he is with another woman it's like he is opennly disregarding her and I end up feeling sorry for her and disdain for him. Too many people are more invested in looking for what they don't have then what they do. And ALOT of women out there get off on a man with another woman giving her attention. Your partner is giving girls like that the exact type of attention they want. It's like a guy rather make some random stranger feel good instead of his partner. Also, I'm curious, as I'm generally gentlemanly with any of my female friends in public; how do you know the status of the man and woman and if such status prohibits his wandering eye? My radar must be broken because I generally have no clue unless there are obvious PDA's going on. Thanks I think it's safe to say in *most* cases, when a woman or man is out and about, they are most likely a couple depending on the social situation and interaction. Not all of course, but most. Especially if you see them shopping together, with kids or giving certain social clues and similar ages. I have seen men out with their families, kids and wife, looking at me and it makes me shake my head in disappointment. I always to say to them, "try being invovled with your kids and wife/gf instead of looking at all the women around you." It makes me embarressed. It's flagerantly disrespectful. And I don't think that's a man who is leading and protecting his family. TrialByFire, you do nothing but heap on personal attacks that you try to pass off as truth. When I ask you to back up your response on real topics here, you turn to " I would respond but blah blah blah, this is why I didn't". Yet you go on and on for several posts at my precieved issues? If you want to debate the issue, PLEASE do. But save your breath on your Fox Mulder conspiracy theories about my personal dating history and feelings. The truth is YOU don't know my issues or not. You don't know my dating history. You don't know what I am like in real life. You don't know what hits I can or can't take. All you do know is your self imposed proclamations about who I am which have NO merit to speak of. But please go on in your theories. It's not me your making look bad. At least I don't sit on this board pretending I know anything about you and who you are. You clearly can not claim the same. On top of us being the Number 2 worst drivers in the country, us Jersey girls don't take crap when it's just that, crap. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I'm wondering if you've been in a HAPPY, committed relationship with an attractive girl, do you notice other girls? Do you still think "oh man, she's hot." Or do you have eyes only for your girl? I'm not asking if you'd actually act on it...just, do you notice them? Honest answers please! Thanks! I only have eyes for the person to whom I'm committed, but still notice the attractiveness of other women. I might think she is hot or good looking, but I don't want them. Anyone that says they don't look at other people and think they are good looking, happy relationship or not, men or women, are flat out lying. Link to post Share on other sites
Not the love ace Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Of course I look at other girls but I never act on it. I also let the girl I am with know which girl I think is hot and vice versa for her. For me it kind of makes me jealous but horny and gives me more drive when we have sex. I like the whole getting teased feeling. However of course we always notice whose hot to us. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 SophieA, instead of wondering about what men are thinking about, look at your man and decide if he's committed or not. Trust in your gut instincts by matching words to actions. If they're in line, believe them. If they don't mesh, you've got a problem. Do yourself a favour and don't get into the thought police or victim mentality of men all being unsavory characters. Judge by who your man really is and for the love of all you hold dear, be realistic in your expectations and don't put blinders on him. If he drools while looking, you've got a problem. If he consistently pursues female attention, you've got a problem. If he's a high demand guy and doesn't rebuff a lot of female attention, instead, encouraging it, you've got a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
grogster Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Yes, I "notice" other women when out with my SO. Do I oogle, pant, lust and stare? Nope. Do I "notice" attractive women? You bet. For most guys, we look because we must. That's simply how we're wired. No apologies. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 For most guys, we look because we must. No one is forcing you to look. It's your own choice. I really hate that 'boys will be boys" mentality. It's a lame excuse for crappy behavior. Do guys realize that alot of women do get off on other men looking at them when they are with another woman? Alot of women will turn the other cheek for their guy, I have done it alot even if it is discouraging. He rather make some other woman feel godo then his own woman. How many guys take the images of other women home with them? Do you think about having sex with her? Link to post Share on other sites
clv0116 Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 No one is forcing you to look. No one forces me to urinate either. Link to post Share on other sites
grogster Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 No one forces me to urinate either. Or breathe. Noticing other women is as natural as breathing. Guys who insist otherwise are lying or extraordinarily whipped. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 No one answered the other questions I asked. Or that the OP had asked first. Why do you guys even pretend you care about being loyal. Link to post Share on other sites
Isolde Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 You just can't police other people's thoughts. Does it matter if it's your SO? Your mom? Yourself? If a guy is constantly thinking about women other than you, trust me, you'll be getting plenty of red flags other than glances at other women. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I don't want to police anyone's thoughts. You get worn out with all the entitlements men seem to have. It's like they have a free pass for anything under the sun as long as they don't *physically* sleep with another woman .Everything else is fair game and commitment, loyatly, being present, happy and aware of what you have and focusing on that is all thrown out the window. I am left with the opinion that men just aren't ever happy with what they have. And the woman in their lives will forever be with a man that is more and happy to oggle anything he can. He is a man. His needs have validation and mine as a woman apparently don't. I don't expect a man to never notice but I don't think men are eactly controlling themselves either. How many men take these thoughts and images of other women they see into fantasy mode? Masturbate to them? Lust and admire? How many women are okay with that? Compared to just a mild "oh she is attractive" look. What if it isn't "oh she isn't attractive " but a "Oh man she is bleeping hot i wonder what it woudl be like to do her from behind." I bet more men think that way then not. But I guess that's oka yas long as its behind yoru partners back. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Holy Bejeezus! My SO looked at an entire shelf of donuts, maybe 400 donuts in all. Maybe he's fantasizing about eating 400 donuts. Man I'm sure he does this all the time. He's going to be HUUUUUGGGGEEEE! Imagine eating 400 donuts a day for like a month. How can I stop him from thinking like that? All men are fat. OH...MY...GOD, OH...MY...GOD!! Link to post Share on other sites
a4a Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Or breathe. Noticing other women is as natural as breathing. Guys who insist otherwise are lying or extraordinarily whipped. Or gay.... but the gay guys even notice hair, make up, clothing and accessories of other woman. Link to post Share on other sites
Jaytb Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I don't want to police anyone's thoughts. You get worn out with all the entitlements men seem to have. It's like they have a free pass for anything under the sun as long as they don't *physically* sleep with another woman .Everything else is fair game and commitment, loyatly, being present, happy and aware of what you have and focusing on that is all thrown out the window. I am left with the opinion that men just aren't ever happy with what they have. And the woman in their lives will forever be with a man that is more and happy to oggle anything he can. He is a man. His needs have validation and mine as a woman apparently don't. I don't expect a man to never notice but I don't think men are eactly controlling themselves either. How many men take these thoughts and images of other women they see into fantasy mode? Masturbate to them? Lust and admire? How many women are okay with that? Compared to just a mild "oh she is attractive" look. What if it isn't "oh she isn't attractive " but a "Oh man she is bleeping hot i wonder what it woudl be like to do her from behind." I bet more men think that way then not. But I guess that's oka yas long as its behind yoru partners back. Can we harness your clairvoyance for more nefarious purposes? With this power we can control the world!! MUHAHAHA Link to post Share on other sites
Enema Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 The funniest thing is, she thinks she's making valid points and that people agree. Classic JS. Link to post Share on other sites
Stark Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Every girl I've been with I've been 100% committed and loyal too and can honestly say I've never cheated and never will cheat or heck even flirt if I'm in a relationship it's not in my nature if I would ever consider it I would break up with a person first. It is a guy thing to notice attractive looking girls, but nothing more than a glance. Heck I'd argue the same for girls, having a glance of something you find attractive is not wrong. When you try make eye contact or keep persisting to look is a bit different however, and it's even worse if you start to flirt. I can honestly say then it's a totally different matter. If you say that when your in a relationship you've never ever had a glance at someone who was attractive, nothing more than a glance I'll call you a liar. The difference being is if you act upon those impulses or try to get their attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 The funniest thing is, she thinks she's making valid points and that people agree. Classic JS. I do make valid arguments. That's why people resort to cheap shots..Classic Enema. How many men linger on thoughts over women they see in public and later have fantasies about her? This question has been asked more then several times and I don't undestan why no one wants to answer. Do you tink about random women while you are banging your partner? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 How many men linger on thoughts over women they see in public and later have fantasies about her? No. Do you think about random women while you are banging your partner? No. Hope that helps Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Maybe you could try dating a blind guy if it bothers you that much? Link to post Share on other sites
Jersey Shortie Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Maybe you can try discussing the topic if you want to put in your imput? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I think blind people kinda see with their hands Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Check. Done it. On a few other threads too. Have you considered dating a blind guy if this issue bothers you so much? Link to post Share on other sites
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