Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 Yes I was. And you and others here on this board. Our actions were a sad statement of our character. for sure. that is exactly why I don't take it personal when I'm told I'm awful or have no shame. it makes me giggle 'cause I wonder what they've done... Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 So you believe guilt and regret are different, how so? Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 for sure. that is exactly why I don't take it personal when I'm told I'm awful or have no shame. it makes me giggle 'cause I wonder what they've done... Do people think you are awful or some of your actions are awful? Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 So you believe guilt and regret are different, how so? I feel guilt like when I'm conciously doing something I'm not suppose to be doing; as oppose to regrets, which I don't feel because when ask myself if I would take it back I find myself answering: hell, no ... but again, that's only because only MM and I know. Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 I feel guilt like when I'm conciously doing something I'm not suppose to be doing; as oppose to regrets, which I don't feel because when ask myself if I would take it back I find myself answering: hell, no ... but again, that's only because only MM and I know. So it's the secrecy that keeps you from regretting. So is this definition applicable to all aspects of your life? I feel guilty if I do things that will only hurt me(and my waistline:rolleyes:)and I feel regret that I couldn't stick to the program that I had set for myself. Your thought process is interesting Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 Do people think you are awful or some of your actions are awful? ask them, some of the post seemed like a pronal attack rather than the actions...regardless, I know who I am. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Your words are immature and silly. IMHO you seem to want us to all rally behind you and cheer you on when you are doing an immoral act - even kissing a married man. Everyone passes judgment on people very single day. Many times it isn't out of malice or meanness --- it is just people guessing about another person. You have put it out there what you want to do, you don't care who you hurt, you don't care about your job, you just don't care. You are only concerned about having fun and the secrecy and sneaking around of it all. You are loving the risks and the excitement of it. Not sure what you wanted from this forum -- applause? Encouragement? Many have tried to tell you what a bad idea this is, yet you don't like those responses so you are striking out and becoming defensive. Normally, if you have to ask, you already know in your heart the answer. Doesn't matter where you have volunteered or what future education you are planning. What matters is common decency and one you make a name for yourself as someone who doesn't care who they hurt, you the start down a path it is hard to get off of. But then again, you may just decide that this is the path you want --- to be someone who IMHO has no cares for who they hurt in their life. Wouldn't it be funny if the MM's wife found out and somewhere down the road, you needed her help, her guidance or a job from her and she will let you know what she thinks of your actions with HER husband. So if you want to play this game of sneaking around and stealing kisses, go right ahead but be prepared for repercussions from those actions. GOOD LUCK! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 So it's the secrecy that keeps you from regretting. So is this definition applicable to all aspects of your life? I feel guilty if I do things that will only hurt me(and my waistline:rolleyes:)and I feel regret that I couldn't stick to the program that I had set for myself. Your thought process is interesting not exactly the secrecy but what comes from it, trying not to get others hurt. I regret some actions in my life of course, just not this particular one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 Your words are immature and silly. IMHO you seem to want us to all rally behind you and cheer you on when you are doing an immoral act - even kissing a married man. Everyone passes judgment on people very single day. Many times it isn't out of malice or meanness --- it is just people guessing about another person. You have put it out there what you want to do, you don't care who you hurt, you don't care about your job, you just don't care. You are only concerned about having fun and the secrecy and sneaking around of it all. You are loving the risks and the excitement of it. Not sure what you wanted from this forum -- applause? Encouragement? Many have tried to tell you what a bad idea this is, yet you don't like those responses so you are striking out and becoming defensive. Normally, if you have to ask, you already know in your heart the answer. Doesn't matter where you have volunteered or what future education you are planning. What matters is common decency and one you make a name for yourself as someone who doesn't care who they hurt, you the start down a path it is hard to get off of. But then again, you may just decide that this is the path you want --- to be someone who IMHO has no cares for who they hurt in their life. Wouldn't it be funny if the MM's wife found out and somewhere down the road, you needed her help, her guidance or a job from her and she will let you know what she thinks of your actions with HER husband. So if you want to play this game of sneaking around and stealing kisses, go right ahead but be prepared for repercussions from those actions. GOOD LUCK! I'm no defensive, I have told you I don't care what people think of me. I didn't come to this forum to seek for approval or disapproval for that matter. the question in my op was plain and simple "is there a way to keep things light?" I got good responses from people on the same boat warning me of what they've been through and I appreciate that. relax, my 2 weeks of fun are over, I decided that. you say my words are immature, that may be the case...I'm young. I'm not going to be the other woman nor lose my job, that's not how my story's going to end, and that's why I'm not worried. Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 by the way, what does IMHO mean? new here. Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 In My Humble Opinion Glad you decided to NOT continue this. You will be glad you did! Link to post Share on other sites
Author anabel1980 Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 In My Humble Opinion Glad you decided to NOT continue this. You will be glad you did! thanks. by the way, I didn't mention my volunteer experience to portrait myself as a good person. I mentioned it to support the fact that aspect of my life has nothing to do whith my brief affair Link to post Share on other sites
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