Stb032 Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 I have a gf that had her ex of about 5 or 6 years help her move some stuff. He had a truck I was ok about that. In the year we have been together she told me before she did it that she was going over to his moms to have dinner with her him and his daughter cause his mom invited her. His mom that would still like them 2 back together. She wanted to go mostly cause she said she was close to her ex's daughter. So even though it wasnt what I wanted I still let her go. I knew she would just fight with me over it and go anyway. But she had told me about it before she just went so that atleast made me feel more at ease with it. So this weekend she was asked by a friend to stay the night with them a gf. She told me she made plans to have her ex meet her at her old place to help moves some stuff left there. I was ok with that but then later When I called her she didnt answer her phone at first. Only after he walked to the restroom and wasnt around. Then she called me and still didnt tell me he was there! She said that was where her friend and her was going to meet. Now she lied to me about that and hid it from me till the next day. She said she knew I wouldnt be happy about it and I wouldnt sleep all night. She should'nt have done that knowing I wouldnt like it! And she should'nt have hid that she was there with him! What she did made me feel she was hiding it from me after I had trusted her before. Why would she do that? Yes I wouldnt have liked it that she was at a bar with him buying him drinks! But it made it all the more worse she would not tell me till the next day. Exspecially when she was out of town all night and dont call me again till later that night at the gf house I hope she really was at. Anyway who feels that this is wrong and that she shouldnt be going and doing those things with a ex going to bars and to parents house for dinner. Hell she hasnt even Came to my moms house in the year we have been together or told her parents about me! But she been to his parents! And her parents knew about him! And she is 47 and is worried about what they'll say about me cause I'm 38. And have had some problems over the years that her parents wont be happy about. We've been together a year now dont you guys think at her age and the time we been together that her parents should know about me by now. That makes me feel like crap about myself and like I'm not good enough for her to tell her parents about me. It's had me stressed out to a point I cant even explain! But yet I'm suppose to trust her out with her ex. Well I could go on more about things I'm unhappy with but I wont. And no she isnt mean to me atleast not all the time. Sometimes she seems like the greatest person I've ever been with. And sex isnt to bad either so atleast I dont think she done anything yet! So now what is everyones thoughts on this? Let me know how you would deal with all of these things. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 You judge a person by their actions and not by their words and her actions speak volumes. Apparently she also has no problem lying to your face. If the roles were reversed do you honestly think she would put up with such diserespect and crap from you? It seems pretty obvious that she is not over her ex. Do you really need to have a piano fall on your head to figure out what is going on. Her actions indicate that she has very little respect for you and has no problem lying to you. If you do not respect yourself then who will? I think you can do better than this. I wish you luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Now she lied to me about that and hid it from me till the next day. She said she knew I wouldnt be happy about it and I wouldnt sleep all night. She should'nt have done that knowing I wouldnt like it! exactly, and if she knew you wouldn't like it, then she knew it wasn't appropriate. And she should'nt have hid that she was there with him! Helping her move because he has a truck is one thing, but that is where it should have ended. Hell, now that she totally disrespected you and took advantage of your understanding nature, I'd say she isn't deserving of your understanding any longer. sounds like a good, nice guy being taken advantage of. What she did made me feel she was hiding it from me after I had trusted her before. Why would she do that? Yes I wouldnt have liked it that she was at a bar with him buying him drinks! oh HELL no. Ok, you need to lose her. You can do better. Find someone that respects you. But it made it all the more worse she would not tell me till the next day. Exspecially when she was out of town all night and dont call me again till later that night at the gf house I hope she really was at. Anyway who feels that this is wrong and that she shouldnt be going and doing those things with a ex going to bars and to parents house for dinner. *Dexter raises hand* So now what is everyones thoughts on this? Let me know how you would deal with all of these things. Get rid of her. She is 47 for petes sake, she should have known better. honestly, my thoughts are more happened. why all the secrecy? she didn't want to answer the phone for a reason....and it wasn't so you'd sleep well that night.......puuuulease. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stb032 Posted May 20, 2009 Author Share Posted May 20, 2009 After I called her the first time and she told me she did hear her phone she did call me back but it wasnt right away. And she never said she was there with him! O and I did mention that when she first got with me. He went to work and ran a criminal back ground check on me so he could run back and tell her about it. Whats that say for him? She said O he is only watching out for me as a friend cause he cares. I can tell you I have never dipped in anyones life like that. Good thing was I had already told her everything there was to tell her about myself. So he didnt get me on that one! Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 After I called her the first time and she told me she did hear her phone she did call me back but it wasnt right away. And she never said she was there with him! O and I did mention that when she first got with me. He went to work and ran a criminal back ground check on me so he could run back and tell her about it. Whats that say for him? She said O he is only watching out for me as a friend cause he cares. I can tell you I have never dipped in anyones life like that. Good thing was I had already told her everything there was to tell her about myself. So he didnt get me on that one! Listen, this woman is way to old to be playing games like this, but the fact remains that she IS playing games. Here is the question that matters. What do you plan to do about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Stb032 Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 I do feel your rite bryanp! These 2 are not over each other. She has said she is over him and she thinks he is over her but the actions do speak louder then words here. Hell The day before me and her went out on our first date she was on a date with him the day before. And not to mention some of the things she was doing with him after they was suppose to be broke up. But neither had someone else yet. Plus keep in mind he did pull up my police record. Man that was dirty of him to do! And she dont see anything wrong with him doing that! To me it seems he didnt like she was seeing me. And was trying to get her to break up then. And I was told he had said somethings to her awhile back when he was drinking he didnt like her with me. I just remembered that one. Sound like he isnt over her at all!! And the fact that she keeps on do what she is doing sure seems like she isnt over him yet either. There is even more here about things with him that have upset me bad. But wow! Like I said I seem to be able to keep going on here. I do love her but just dont know if I can put up with this. I thought she would be different from the younger girls I have been with but she isnt! She is in alot of ways worse then they was. All but one other I was with and married to. I have to give that one the worst gf award! So anyway I just know if she dont stop with him it will cause much bigger problems down the road. Look at what it's aready caused! And yet she thinks I should be ok with this. She told me after this last time out with him and not telling me cause we fought so much over it. That she wouldnt do it again! Cause I told her it was very disrespectful towards me. But now she has told me afew fibs or I should say just didnt tell me till after things was over. O thats one more she did tell me she was there with him but not till the next day! So to her it wasnt lieing. But to me it was being deceitful. How can I believe she just wont go out to do things with him again and just not tell me at all. Which knowing her that is most likely what she will do. And just to end this before it gets to long. Anyone have anything about what I said about her not telling her parent the truth about me and her? They really know nothing at all. Pretty rediculous a 47 year old women feels she cant tell her parents about her bf. Cause they wont aprove of her being with me. At 47 I think that should be her decision to make. Sorry about all the complaining and how long my post are. Link to post Share on other sites
Dexter Morgan Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Dude, cut your losses and get rid of her. There is a reason she lied to you.....she isn't trustworthy. Her ass if gonna be too wrinkly for you in the next 10 years anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
lora22 Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 She is way to old to be acting like that. Get rid of the drama (that would be her). Link to post Share on other sites
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