Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I don't know if you guys remember me or my story. I just needed a place to vent. The guy who I was so foolishly madly in love with, who lived 600 miles away...the one I gave eight months of my heart to who lied, cheated, made me feel like crap has just contacted me after disappearing on me three months ago. Wow it's been three months ago exactly today. Today would of marked three months of no contact. I had just gotten over him...was doing pretty good, began dating again etc.. However today I was feeling really low and pretty darn depressed with the whole dating thing. I always said if he ever came back I would be happy and completely moved on. Ughh that's not the case today. Why of all days did he have to contact me today? He contacted me on the dating site we first met on. I havn't been on that site in months and all of a sudden I get an email saying someone was interested in me. I forgot my profile was even still posted. Anyway, on that site they have smiles you can send out to people....it's kind of like flirts that other sites use...basically the same thing. Well I check to see who sent me the smile sure as hell not expecting to find him! He sent me the same damn smile to me when we first met because I remember it clearly. Is he doing this on purpose? What the hell does he want? Doesn't he know he has hurt me? He made me feel worthless when he disappeared on me without any closure. Made me feel like a damn fool calling his work, his mom....tracking down his friends etc... I really need some help guys because I'm at a depressed point right now and I don't trust myself. It's all I can do to hold myself back from responding to him. I know I don't need him in my life. But a part of me want's to face him and ask him why? I want him to know how I felt, how I still feel!! He took my heart and ripped it to shreds! I don't even pay for the site anymore so all I can do is send smiles back. I have deleted all of his contact info as well. I honestly never thought in a million years I would hear from him again. I was doing so well guys...so well until I checked my stupid email! Damn! why didn't I just skip checking it tonight? I know I would of found it sooner or later. Ughh this sucks. Please just excuse me and forgive me for rambling like this. I'm literally shaking...and I don't know what to feel? A part of me wants to know what he has to say and why he contacted me. A part of me also wants to tell him a piece of my mind. I know it will do no good and nothing good will come from it. I don't know....what would you guys do? Just ignore him? See what he wants? I'm so sorry for such a long post and please forgive the errors...I wrote this in such a frenzy. I'm still so in shock! I didn't know where to post this. I figured since you guys have helped me so much in the past and after it was a LDR. Thanks guys! Link to post Share on other sites
JeezLouise Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE He's a f*ck-up, Cora. He could not possibly have any sort of legitimate excuse for the way he treated you. NONE. He could drag his d*ck through 100 miles of broken glass just to smell the tracks of the garbage truck that hauled away your dirty panties, and he STILL wouldn't deserve any of your time and consideration. Close your profile. There are dozens of dating sites out there, and you don't need this, as you don't even use it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
bunnybunny Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I agree with JeezLouise, ignore him. Any contact you make with him will only make you feel worse. He's sh*t, complete and utter sh*t. You don't need this piece of turd back in your life. Close the account and keep moving on. I know you'll meet someone truly wonderful and so deserving of you one day. *hugs* Link to post Share on other sites
Lyssa Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I'm with them. IGNORE. Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 CORA HONEY! Delete that account on the dating site. Do NOT email him, that little pr*ck. DO NOT RESPOND. He will only tell you lies... "oh my GF and I broke up! It was never what I wanted anyway! I always wanted you!" You know what will happen if you respond. He will know he's piqued your interest again. That you don't think enough of yourself to tell him to go f*ck himself, because you're back for more lies and abuse. And you KNOW you are better than that! You deserve better than this slimy little worm! I know it hurts, and you feel foolish. DON'T. You were brave enough to put your heart out there, and this little slug got you nice and wrapped up in his crap. You need time to untangle yourself so you are free to give your heart again. In the meantime, if there is ANY contact back, make sure it simply says "Go die in a fire, loser." Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 If it were me I'd forward the e-mail to his fiance and say, "he's up to it AGAIN. Kindly take care of your problem!" And then I'd delete my profile. She'll put him in a living hell -- and he deserves all of it. Honestly Cora, what could he possibly say that you would be interested in? "I made a mistake and I know that now" Uh yeah, douchebag, you used that one already! "I just wanted to say I am so sorry" 1st one owed me -- 7 months late. 2nd one owed me -- 3 months late -- OH! Ooops actually you really owed me that one from the very beginning since you had a girlfriend the entire time YOU JACKASS. Really, what could he possibly have to say that you'd want to hear? And you already know he is a liar so anything you hear can't be believed in any way, shape, or form. Seriously he is pond scum. He doesn't deserve a response from you. He does deserve to have his life in turmoil (even if it just a little while -- but I HOPE it is much longer!) and forwarding his "smile" to his fiance should do it. Seriously! Who the hell does he think he is that he can treat you so badly and then get in contact in ANY way and expect ANYTHING from you!!!!!!!!! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! Link to post Share on other sites
JeezLouise Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Island Girl, apparently Cora found out from some sort of source that this a-hole's fiancee dumped him. He's probably hitting up a list of his old GFs to work on finding some stupid new replacement. Cora, you are worthy of respect and care - at a minimum - from any man that you deign to look at in a romantic manner. This guy has given you NONE of that. EVER. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Yeah, I found out through his Myspace that they are apparently no longer engaged. I don't know what the hell happened but I have no doubt it was because of HIM! I just realized I have no way of contacting him anyway....thanks to me deleting all of his contact info! The only real thing I could do is send him a smile back which I'm sure as hell not doing. There is only one way I could contact him and it's through his Myspace which I'm not going to lower myself to do. I know you guys are right. There is nothing he could possibly tell me that I don't already know. I know he is full of lies. I just had a weak moment for a bit. It's been almost three hours since he contacted me and I haven't responded yet. I can do this I know I can. I don't love him anymore....he just caught me off guard and at a moment when I was down. I hate him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 I see exactly what he is doing!! I am just his back up girl just in case....well now that things have gone bad with his fiancee he tries to lure me right back in. Well I may have been a fool before but I'm not the same weak person he once knew. The one who would always forgive him and take him back one too many times. He is toxic and I no longer want him a part of my life ever again!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I see exactly what he is doing!! I am just his back up girl just in case....well now that things have gone bad with his fiancee he tries to lure me right back in. Well I may have been a fool before but I'm not the same weak person he once knew. The one who would always forgive him and take him back one too many times. He is toxic and I no longer want him a part of my life ever again!!! RIGHT ON CORA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is all deserving of tremendous LS Bunnies!!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Spirit of the Ocean Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 OMG Cora!! I've read your previous thread and this guy has SOME nerve to contact you after all he did to you!!! It's almost unbelievable. I'm soo glad you've decided to just ignore him, you deserve far far better than this!! Link to post Share on other sites
LonelyTiger Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I see exactly what he is doing!! I am just his back up girl just in case....well now that things have gone bad with his fiancee he tries to lure me right back in. Well I may have been a fool before but I'm not the same weak person he once knew. The one who would always forgive him and take him back one too many times. He is toxic and I no longer want him a part of my life ever again!!! Cora you are a STAR!!! :bunny::bunny: You should be really proud of yourself :bunny: *Big HUG* Link to post Share on other sites
KikiW Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Good job Cora! God, I want to go find this guy just to give him a smack upside the head. Link to post Share on other sites
Rollercoasterr Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I'm so proud of you sweetie. You're doing so well!! Just remember that this jackass doesn't deserve even a 1/10th of that enormous heart that you've got because he doesn't have one himself! Did I mention how proud we all are of you? :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: ^ Look ma, more bunnies! Link to post Share on other sites
Bearandsue Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Great Job Cora!!!!!!!! After all he put you through do not give him the time of day. You stay strong girl. Link to post Share on other sites
JeezLouise Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Good job! But - there are a few things that come with being a strong and confident woman, and one of those is action. Rather than wait and see what he does next, YOU do something. 1) Delete the profile and your membership in that dating site. You weren't using it anyway. Keeping it just invites more contact and keeps YOU involved in something that you know is unhealthy and wrong. 2) Quit going to his FB. Someone was just posting on Rants about FB, about how a guy she knows posts things about his XGF, because he knows that the XGF is going to his FB because of a counter. You went to his FB the day before yesterday, and he could have seen it, decided that you still were hung up on his lying a$$, and sent you the smile. One more way of inviting contact. You can do this! Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 He could drag his d*ck through 100 miles of broken glass just to smell the tracks of the garbage truck that hauled away your dirty panties, and he STILL wouldn't deserve any of your time and consideration. Sheer poetry; the prose is almost musical. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Thank you all!! You guys are wonderful and I really appreciate all your support! I was wondering something and it may sound a bit childish. I thought about before deleting my profile on that site that maybe I could send him a smile back. Let me explain....all the smiles say different things. For example the one he sent me said "just thought I would send you a smile." You can't write your own message they are all generic. Anyway, they have ones that say "thank you for the smile....you're so sweet" blah blah blah. I was thinking about maybe sending him the one that says "thank you for the smile but I don't think we are a good match." I just wish there was some way for me to tell him to go to hell! Too bad they don't have a smile that says that. Either way I'm deleting my profile. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 No response to the smile. It is better that he gets NOTHING from you. Glad you have stayed strong. Who needs to waste time communicating with a complete loser? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 You're right Island Girl! I'm deleting my profile right now. I have been doing good with the no contact and I'm not going to break it now. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
JeezLouise Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Good girl. Deleting your profile is a MUCH stronger smile than a "no thank you". It's a "I'd rather be boiled than hear from you again" smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cora Posted May 21, 2009 Author Share Posted May 21, 2009 Profile deleted! I never want to talk to that bastard again! How can he just disappear on me, make me look like a fool trying to track him down, make me feel worthless and then all of a sudden pop back up like NOTHING has happened? He just broke up with his fiancee....doesn't he need time to grieve? Oh that's right he has no heart. I want him to feel all the pain he put me through and the pain I'm sure his ex fiancee is now going through. Sigh....but I'm sure he never will feel that kind of pain. He is such a heartless jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Good girl. Deleting your profile is a MUCH stronger smile than a "no thank you". It's a "I'd rather be boiled than hear from you again" smile. I just love your word choices! You are hilarious. Link to post Share on other sites
GorillaTheater Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I just love your word choices! You are hilarious. She kills me, I hope she didn't think I was being sarcastic regarding the "prose" thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Island Girl Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 She kills me, I hope she didn't think I was being sarcastic regarding the "prose" thing. I know she kills me too!!! I didn't read your post as sarcastic. Maybe JeezLouise will let you know... Link to post Share on other sites
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