on edge Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 Having to loan her money in between pay day. Her three cats (I'm allergic). Those pink pajama bottoms. Her tardiness. Her friends. Link to post Share on other sites
jerseygirl80 Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 I won't miss not knowing what to expect when I get home from work. Will he be wasted or passed out? Will he be working or just TELLING me he's working? Will he come home at all? Will I lie awake crying all night wondering who he is with and if he's dead or alive or in jail? Nope, won't miss that, and neither will my poor cat! Link to post Share on other sites
Cora Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 -All of the lies and the outrageous stories he would make up just so I would believe him.....they were pretty sick! -The cheating.....wow the cheating! -The way he would always turn things around on me when I caught him in his lies -The way I always came last on his list of priorities.....oh wait I wasn't a priority! -Saying he would call when he knew he never would -BRB gotta go smoke......oh I hated this when we were in the middle of a conversation on instant messenger. -His empty promises -His endless hours of playing WoW -Calling me while he was drunk -Him telling people lies about me -Him ignoring me -And the list could go on and on.....but basically I wont miss HIM period!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author t0ri Posted June 17, 2009 Author Share Posted June 17, 2009 Glad this thread is helpful -I won't miss the way you looked at yourself in the mirror, like you're some big macho stud muffin. You're not. -I won't miss you obsessing about your facial hair. It does NOT make you a man, okay? -I won't miss your stupid car that you had to get under to start and who's windshield wipers went off incessantly. I loved you for everything NON superficial. Remember that. -I seriously will not miss your farting. Ever! But I do miss a lot of you today. Unfortunately I hate seeing your type of car, which is EVERYWHERE. I'll probably never stop looking at them to see if you're in it. Link to post Share on other sites
intrinsic Posted June 17, 2009 Share Posted June 17, 2009 I hate hearing certain songs. Ca me rend triste I miss you immensely today. But... I won't miss the fact that you PMS'd harder than I did. I won't miss that. You're kinda loud, too. That was insufferable. Link to post Share on other sites
on edge Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Her driving. Her theory that she could heal herself through mind power. Having to listen to Sublime. The dumb things that she would say. Her family. The hit on my wallet. Link to post Share on other sites
bluewolf17 Posted June 18, 2009 Share Posted June 18, 2009 Never knowing if you would show up or not. You always being late, and making me late. You ate like a baby Your super loud laugh with the throaty hack You messy stink room Your insecurities with your wardrobe. I always had to pick out you clothes Your lack of ambition Your poor money management skills Your crazy religous family How you wouldn't make me feel special Link to post Share on other sites
Author t0ri Posted July 24, 2009 Author Share Posted July 24, 2009 I won't miss how you had absolutely no manners. I won't miss how you didn't care about my day or my family, or nearly anything to do with me. I won't miss you trying to be funny with "that's what she said" jokes, and others. I won't miss your lack of good hygiene. I won't miss being completely disrespected by you. I won't miss the pain and confusion you brought me. **** you. Link to post Share on other sites
joseffrost Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I won't miss how you would let things build up,and go silent and clam up if something upset you (how ironic that you blamed my lack of communication in the end!) I won't miss your insecurities. I won't miss the way that you never believed me when we were talking about important things. I won't miss the way you would sooner condescend me rather than support me. I won't miss hearing about 'our future' and how wonderful it will be, now that I know you were lying all the time. I won't miss never being quite good enough for you. Link to post Share on other sites
brock9911 Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 how bout the lying, cheating, sneaking, nagging, fighting. i will miss the sex though Link to post Share on other sites
td0g03 Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I won't miss the lies I won't miss how it took hours to get ready with your gallons of makeup and hairspray. I won't miss all the fakes think about you. I won't miss being a father for another person's child. That you told me you didn't give a **** about me when it came to him. Fine, but did you need to say it so harsh? LOL I won't miss not being able to go out because you were only 19 and had a child, while I was only 21 and wanted to party. I won't miss you bring me down all the time. I won't miss you because you weren't "all that" as you told yourself you were because you were insecure cocky, CRAZY huh? lol I won't miss how logically messed up you are. I won't miss you. And I won't miss going home everyday crying because you just didn't care anymore. Goodbye! I will be much happier without you. Link to post Share on other sites
lostsoulmate Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I won't miss the put downs I won't miss being scared I won't miss not having an orgasm I won't miss having dinner on the table and a specific time (or a specific meal) I won't miss being disrespected I won't miss the bad smells from him I won't miss the silent treatment for days when I didn't feel in the mood I won't miss not having a friend in my lover I won't miss him anymore Link to post Share on other sites
lizzylizliz Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I've just read this thread, and I LOVE it. It's so easy to start thinking of them as a 'nice girl/guy REALLY....' and then you stop yourself, and realise actually what a waste of space they were.... OK! *Did drugs all the time. But whenever I did any, it was BAD. What a hypocrite. Now I'm off all of them, now hes not here! * The lack of gratitude for taking care of his two young children from another relationship, treating them as my own...and not a word of thanks while I was treated as a glorified babysitter! * His silly, emo, whiny songs in his band. Bleeding hearts and all that. Really? Well, maybe if you'd treated your ex better, she wouldn't have left you. * Trying to trust someone that had previously cheated on his then-pregnant ex....and hearing him reeling off excuses for it. As if the lack of sex made it ok. She was PREGNANT, for Chrissakes! * His ridiculous ways of making excuses for EVERYTHING that he did that was wrong. * Doing whatever the hell he wanted, and TELLING me that it didn't matter if I didn't like it. * Lack of compliments...spending hours trying to look nice, just to be told that to compliment me would be him 'repeating himself.' * Jealousy around other men, even my friends...and the subsequent threatening of 'doing them in' if they looked vaguely interested. * Entertaining other girls chatting him up...and wondeirng why I didn't like it? * Telling me one months in that he was falling for me and wanted us to get a place....and then, a month before we split, changing his mind completely. * Not putting the damn effort in when things got tough. If he didn't want to try in a relationship, he shoulda left me the hell alone in the first place. I was happy before he walked into my life! * His pathetic, stroppy anger issues. Oh please. Life doesn't go your way. Get used to it! * Throwing tantrums about how hard and unfair life is. Please. If you didn't want two children, you shoulda used CONTRACEPTION. If you hate your job, find a new one. Stop whining. You're a 25 year old man. Not a 12 year old girl. * Trying to intentionally make me jealous and wind me up. Why? It's not the behaviour of someone you purport to love. * Walking into my life in the first place, for a £5 bet that your mate made because you were to scared to talk to me. Seriously, I'd pay you that £5, and a million pounds more if it meant I had never met you. * Your band. Yes, the music's ok. But if you make it, your obsessive personality means you'll be dead of a drugs overdose before you hit 30. And I was taken in because I thought that because your songs are emotional, you were a warm person. Wrong. You are a cold commitment phone who does not know himself, and spends half his life trying to work himself out...and the other half self-pitying because everything's gone wrong. Treat people better than crap, and maybe you'll finally be happy. *The fact that you never realised exactly what I gave up for you, or appreciated a single thing I gave you. I gave you my world. When the going got tough, you walked away...and complained about how hard it was on you, how painful. Man up. You coulda changed it at any time. You have no pity from me. *Your questioning of my current love life...'who are these guys you're seeing?'....'i heard you were going on a date'...yes, it happens. I'm not with you, and I can see whoever the hell I want. If you don't like it, it's tough. Don't bother asking me. Mind your own goddamn business. * The way I just KNOW you're going to slate my new love interest. Yes, he knows you. Yes, he's not Mr Popularity in the whole town like you seem to think you are. But in three days, he's made me feel better than you did for months. So there. * Your ability to switch from a warm, loving man to someone I barely even recognise. I stuck around because I thought I knew you. I didn't. That was a means to trap me into staying, to fool me into falling in love with you. By the time I found out the real you, I was trapped. And it's THAT you that I miss. Not the cold, selfish, confused idiot that threw my heart on the floor for no reason other than that you could. I loved you and gave you everything. You treated me like scum. The one thing I WILL miss is the person I used to be. The person you brought to life when you decided to treat me nice, ont hose rare occasions. But she's on the way back. Soon I'll be bigger, brighter and better than you ever knew. And you'll be the one left alone. I spoke to your ex and she told me that for 9 years, you made her life hell, and said I've had a lucky escape. And she agreed with me on one thing...that you're going to end up veyr lonely. And you'll have no one to blame but yourself. Rant over Link to post Share on other sites
bentnotbroken Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 The early morning farts that go off before the alarm does. Link to post Share on other sites
lizzylizliz Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 They ARE funny though, I hate to admit it.... Link to post Share on other sites
grogster Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I've been on the Shack for about 6 years. And for me, this is the most relentlessly entertaining , funny and bittersweet Thread I've ever seen. The "poison" posts should be collected and published. Great stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 In the book I am reading, one of the excercies was putting what you will miss and won't miss about him. Of course what I won't miss was much longer. So here was the list I wrote for what I won't miss about him. -his CONSTANT interuptions when I am trying to say something to him after he hogs the conversation in the first place. -his insensitivity -stupid excuses for his insensitive behavior -his rudeness -his SELFISHNESS -his obnoxious behavior -his lies -his lack of effort in the relationship -him going into his own world when we are having sex -him putting EVERYTHING ahead of me -him throwing other women in my face -feeling rejected by him Link to post Share on other sites
waitingpatiently Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I don't even know where to begin. This is literally the list I wrote in my journal.lol Here it goes: Did not call me often enough-called every 3-6 days like that was normal. Confronted you about it, and you quickly went right back to the same ol'.Did not keep your word-said you would do something, but did the EXACT opposite.(ex. hang out w/ me on my b-day)You lied to me constantly. Always claimed your phone was off and couldn't find one to use. What a loser.Barely showed that you cared.You put everyone and everything above me. I was always last.Didn't see each other often enough.You acted like you didn't have time for me--work was always an excuse.Never went on dates...wtf?You always stood me up...even in the beginning. I shoulda took that as a red flag and ran.Never answered my phone calls, but always expected me to be at your every beck and call.You used me...only wanted sex, and that's the only time you wanted to see me.(how stupid I was for staying for soo long)Absolutely sucked at special occasions.I did ALL the work in the relationship.Never bought me anything. You always felt like I needed to give you permission to do so. Pitiful.I always had to go see YOU. Never even bothered trying to come over here.You had way too many problems in your life...too much baggageAll you cared about were money, sex, drugs, and cars. Get a life.Your smoking was so unattractive.If a 'problem' occured in the relationship you would just up and disappear instead of staying and talking it out like an adult.The above issue is the reason we ended, because you decided to pull that sh%^ again-THERE'S NO GOIN BACKAlways had some LAME excuse as to why you didn't do something.We only went on ONE date and I had to provide the transportation.I felt lonely and single throughout the whole 9 months we were together.You had way too much pride.You were so immature. GROW UP!You were always inconsiderate of my feelings.You always wanted me to give you things, but never did anything for me...how selfish.You "forgot" my birthday.You were never there for me when I needed you most.Everything was always on your time(when it was most convient for you)Everytime I look back at this list I get mad at myself for allowing such BS for so long, but through this experience I've learned A LOT, and at least i'll know what I DON'T want in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
Road To Joy Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 - the excuses - how you were never there for me - being chosen last - waiting for a call or email - wondering where you are - having to picture the worst case scenarios so if they came, I'd be prepared - your carelessness - your sh*tty family - when you wore make up (no offense to anyone that wears make up. When I fall in love, I fall in love with THEM naturally, and love to see them 'naked', so to speak. On top of that, I think she's just trying to impress others by looking 'pretty'.) - when you wore so much eye make up you looked like a raccoon - when you dyed your hair - your piercings - your constant want to wear clothes that was 'in' - your stupid fat ass cat - your love for cats - never being there for me - never being there for me - never being there for me - the dishonesty - never being there for me - your horrible grades - your "I don't give a ****" attitude - your commitment-phobia - YOUR CONTRADICTIONS - how you always talked about how much psychiatric help you needed but never did anything about it - how you don't appreciate anything - your discouragement - your pothead of a dad - your slut of a mom - your high school dropout older brother - your physically abusive ex-stepdad - your dramatic explanations of your thoughts - the drugs you did behind my back - your immaturity Link to post Share on other sites
lizzylizliz Posted July 24, 2009 Share Posted July 24, 2009 I think one thing we WILL miss is the people we used to be, before we got burned. Strive to be not just how you were....but better! Link to post Share on other sites
georgia girl Posted July 25, 2009 Share Posted July 25, 2009 I won't miss his inability to make a decision, which is why we broke up. The man can't decide what he wants for lunch, how did I really think he would be able to decide what he wants for his future? Link to post Share on other sites
Author t0ri Posted August 20, 2009 Author Share Posted August 20, 2009 Needed to bump and revisit this post today. I won't miss your body I won't miss your unrealistic goals or lack of motivation I won't miss your new-found arrogance I won't miss your crazy mom I won't miss being the only one who truly believed in and cared for you. You don't deserve that. I won't miss you talking crap about my friends I won't miss your stupid friends I won't miss your fashion sense I won't miss texting you all day, every day I won't miss falling asleep on the phone every night with you I won't miss your voice Actually...now that I'm typing it out, those "won't-s" should read: "DON'T-s!" Link to post Share on other sites
moo Posted August 20, 2009 Share Posted August 20, 2009 I don't even know where to begin. This is literally the list I wrote in my journal.lol Here it goes: Did not call me often enough-called every 3-6 days like that was normal. Confronted you about it, and you quickly went right back to the same ol'.Did not keep your word-said you would do something, but did the EXACT opposite.(ex. hang out w/ me on my b-day)You lied to me constantly. Always claimed your phone was off and couldn't find one to use. What a loser.Barely showed that you cared.You put everyone and everything above me. I was always last.Didn't see each other often enough.You acted like you didn't have time for me--work was always an excuse.Never went on dates...wtf?You always stood me up...even in the beginning. I shoulda took that as a red flag and ran.Never answered my phone calls, but always expected me to be at your every beck and call.You used me...only wanted sex, and that's the only time you wanted to see me.(how stupid I was for staying for soo long)Absolutely sucked at special occasions.I did ALL the work in the relationship.Never bought me anything. You always felt like I needed to give you permission to do so. Pitiful.I always had to go see YOU. Never even bothered trying to come over here.You had way too many problems in your life...too much baggageAll you cared about were money, sex, drugs, and cars. Get a life.Your smoking was so unattractive.If a 'problem' occured in the relationship you would just up and disappear instead of staying and talking it out like an adult.The above issue is the reason we ended, because you decided to pull that sh%^ again-THERE'S NO GOIN BACKAlways had some LAME excuse as to why you didn't do something.We only went on ONE date and I had to provide the transportation.I felt lonely and single throughout the whole 9 months we were together.You had way too much pride.You were so immature. GROW UP!You were always inconsiderate of my feelings.You always wanted me to give you things, but never did anything for me...how selfish.You "forgot" my birthday.You were never there for me when I needed you most.Everything was always on your time(when it was most convient for you)Everytime I look back at this list I get mad at myself for allowing such BS for so long, but through this experience I've learned A LOT, and at least i'll know what I DON'T want in the future. I think your ex and my ex are related. Link to post Share on other sites
redhighheels Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 The fact that he never shut the fu*k up! Hours and hours of the most boring and trivial sh*t you can possibly imagine, while I was sitting there trying to pretend I'm interested. On and on and on..I just wanted to smash my head in every wall I came across. Link to post Share on other sites
redy2 Posted August 21, 2009 Share Posted August 21, 2009 all the lies. and the stupid excuses you would come up with Link to post Share on other sites
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