Citizen Erased Posted May 11, 2010 Share Posted May 11, 2010 Hmm... The inability to hold a decent conversation Embarrassing me when he was drunk (eg at my sister's wedding). Having to listen to him tell the same story a million times Having to listen to his family tell the same story a million times Him going on about his boring job That he could never make a decision. That he wasn't even bright enough to call someone on the phone and order a fricking pizza. That when I broke up with him he begged me to take him back and things would be different...then proceeded to act in the EXACT same way That we'd have an argument and he'd talk about it with his mother. Ugh. That he'd announce so proudly to family/friends that he would NEVER marry me He was dull in bed and would hold it against me every single time I wouldn't have sex with him, when he wanted it. Hearing him go on about cars Hearing him go on about his xbox He'd not buy me a birthday or christmas gift because he had no money but would have plenty to spend on xbox games, his car etc etc I bought you the damn xbox buddy The guilt trip he gave me for not helping him pay off his car The fact he wouldn't let me have LS to myself but just HAD to read what was on here. As nice as that feels, as he pisses me off buddying up to my family , he'd have his own list of complaints about me I am sure. Probably longer than my one for him. I guess it's just easy to think of ourselves as the perfect ones... Link to post Share on other sites
FarmGirl Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 I'm still with him & working on the process of moving out...here goes... 1. I will not miss your passive aggressive BS 2. I will not miss the way you threw fits & acted like a total jerk when my older boys had friends over. Which in turn meant my boys stayed elsewhere & I missed out on a lot of great times with them & their friends. 3. I will not miss the way you like to criticize me for *always* doing something wrong. Like the day a sponge accidentally was stuck to your sock in the wash. I'm sorry, we both work(ed) full time, do your own frickin laundry then. 4. I will not miss your poor bathroom etiquette. 5. I will not miss how you don't take a shower or brush your teeth for ages. Yuck. 6. I will not miss how you hid from your XW for 7 years so you didn't have to pay C/S. 7. I will not miss how you have ZERO relationship with your 1st 2 kids because of #6. You put lining your pocket ahead of a relationship with your sons. You suck. 8. I will not miss how you criticize my parenting skills. At least I was there for mine. Every day. 9. I will not miss the fact that you left me on the side of the road, in winter, when I was horribly sick with a chest cold...because I argued with you over you secretly seeing another girl. Really? Who does this stuff? 10. I will not miss how if you help me with a project (say fixing the chicken coop roof), you then whimper and make little noises like a girl everytime you bump your hand or get a scratch. THEN later you sit down and catalog all your *owies* and show me each one. I'm more of a man than you. 11. I will not miss your porn addiction. 12. I will not miss your little man that can't stand at attention. Probably from #11 & yanking on it too much... 13. I will not miss that we have NEVER talked about our future. Not once in 8 years. 14. I will not miss how you hide how much you make from me so I carry more than my fair share of the bills. Dude you make 6 figures. 15. I will not miss how you equate buying something for someone as love. 16. I will not miss how blinded I was for years to your bad treatment of me & my older boys. I wasted EIGHT years on you. 17. I will not miss how you constantly undermine my authority with the 2 year old. 18. I will not miss the fact that you can't be bothered to sign the paper that gets you listed on the 2yos birth certificate. 19. I will not miss how you make it impossible for me succeed in things I want to do (farm for one) by putting every roadblock you can in my way to be able to do things for me too. 20. Lastly (for now) I will not miss how you violate my personal space by always trying to hold me down & stick something in my belly button (finger, tongue etc). It's gross, I hate it, I've told you for 8 years to stop. Just yesterday we went thru the same thing again. Yuck, yuck!!! Link to post Share on other sites
VideoKid Posted May 15, 2010 Share Posted May 15, 2010 Jeez, i swear some of us must have the same exes here! I won't miss the way you always criticized me and made everything my fault. I won't miss the way you refused to get on with my friends despite knowing how much it meant to me. I won't miss how lazy you are and always slaving around after you. I won't miss your inability to ever call/text me back or answer the phone to me and your excuses that you "forgot". I won't miss how hypocritical you are. I won't miss your constant name calling and putting me down. I won't miss your insane jealousy issues. I won't miss the fact you never wanted to go anywhere with me. I won't miss the fact you don't seem to be over your ex. I won't miss you never giving foreplay and expecting me to enjoy sex. I won't miss you calling me perfect and wanting to marry me one week then being bored of me a week later. I won't miss you "omitting" details out of stories or telling me a different story to the one you told your friends. I won't miss your general lack or respect and immaturity!! Link to post Share on other sites
dan_the_man Posted May 16, 2010 Share Posted May 16, 2010 I'm still with him & working on the process of moving out...here goes... 1. I will not miss your passive aggressive BS 2. I will not miss the way you threw fits & acted like a total jerk when my older boys had friends over. Which in turn meant my boys stayed elsewhere & I missed out on a lot of great times with them & their friends. 3. I will not miss the way you like to criticize me for *always* doing something wrong. Like the day a sponge accidentally was stuck to your sock in the wash. I'm sorry, we both work(ed) full time, do your own frickin laundry then. 4. I will not miss your poor bathroom etiquette. 5. I will not miss how you don't take a shower or brush your teeth for ages. Yuck. 6. I will not miss how you hid from your XW for 7 years so you didn't have to pay C/S. 7. I will not miss how you have ZERO relationship with your 1st 2 kids because of #6. You put lining your pocket ahead of a relationship with your sons. You suck. 8. I will not miss how you criticize my parenting skills. At least I was there for mine. Every day. 9. I will not miss the fact that you left me on the side of the road, in winter, when I was horribly sick with a chest cold...because I argued with you over you secretly seeing another girl. Really? Who does this stuff? 10. I will not miss how if you help me with a project (say fixing the chicken coop roof), you then whimper and make little noises like a girl everytime you bump your hand or get a scratch. THEN later you sit down and catalog all your *owies* and show me each one. I'm more of a man than you. 11. I will not miss your porn addiction. 12. I will not miss your little man that can't stand at attention. Probably from #11 & yanking on it too much... 13. I will not miss that we have NEVER talked about our future. Not once in 8 years. 14. I will not miss how you hide how much you make from me so I carry more than my fair share of the bills. Dude you make 6 figures. 15. I will not miss how you equate buying something for someone as love. 16. I will not miss how blinded I was for years to your bad treatment of me & my older boys. I wasted EIGHT years on you. 17. I will not miss how you constantly undermine my authority with the 2 year old. 18. I will not miss the fact that you can't be bothered to sign the paper that gets you listed on the 2yos birth certificate. 19. I will not miss how you make it impossible for me succeed in things I want to do (farm for one) by putting every roadblock you can in my way to be able to do things for me too. 20. Lastly (for now) I will not miss how you violate my personal space by always trying to hold me down & stick something in my belly button (finger, tongue etc). It's gross, I hate it, I've told you for 8 years to stop. Just yesterday we went thru the same thing again. Yuck, yuck!!! My advice is GET OUT FAST! Link to post Share on other sites
sandiego Posted May 16, 2010 Share Posted May 16, 2010 I won't miss the annoyance I felt towards her in social situations I won't miss her lack of affection I won't miss her lack of desire to initiate certain things most guys really enjoy I won't miss her parents I won't miss the dreadfully boring days I won't miss how shallow our conversations were Link to post Share on other sites
EyeAlone Posted May 17, 2010 Share Posted May 17, 2010 JR-- Oh where, oh where do I begin.... -The fact that you never washed your greasy face before going to bed -Always listening to music when I tried to talk to you on the phone -Drinking -Selfishness -Lies -Your arguments over pointless things in life that cannot be changed -It was always my fault -You always ran too fast and never went at my pace -Bad taste in clothes -Impulsive shopping -Your DYSFUNCTIONAL family.... -Your sister talks way too much and spends too much time in the bathroom doing her hair and makeup when no one really cares how she looks -Your brother is on an ego-trip -I can't stand your sister-in-law's accent...reminds me of a really annoying girl in my class -Your parents have a weird relationship...now I know where you get your relationship skills! -Your parents are so closed-minded -Your mom....need I say more? -Your crappy teenager years that should have been a red flag to me -The fact that you lived with your parents until you were 26 years old...you are so socially stunted -You have no humility when it comes to your "intelligence" -You can't converse with people you have just met -Your complaints about my driving ability although you seem to forget that you have gotten in how many accidents??? How many tickets?? -Cutting me off in conversations -Always changing the subject when I was trying to have a serious conversation -No, we all haven't seen all the movies that you have so stop thinking everyone is inferior to you -The same goes with music. Just because you know about a band that I don't know of doesn't make you special -I don't care if your hair is curly, you needed to wash it more -Your indecisiveness in everything from careers to relationships -You have horrible grammar -Your essays suck -Your apartment is so messy and it looks like a 14 year old boy lives there...but I guess that fits your personality -You would always yell at me for not cleaning the apartment when we lived together but now that you moved and lived alone you can't clean up after yourself -The fact that you're in your 30s and yet you still haven't "figured things out" -Always waking up in the middle of the night to eat -Way too attached to your twin-sized bed -Have no clue what NC means -Hated cats -Took horrible pictures -Never took my side But most of all... -Broke up with me THE END JR, THE END. I'm just gonna add some more things... -You would always call/text your friends and family back right away but when it came to me...that was a different story -Never buying me anything for Valentines Day, Christmas, or my birthday. You always said that you didn't have enough money for gifts yet you still managed to scrap up enough money to go eat out with your friends and buy liquor -I was never good enough for you. Everything had to be criticized Link to post Share on other sites
messymichelle Posted June 30, 2010 Share Posted June 30, 2010 this thread is a great idea!! i wont miss =you disapearing "cos you have yo......." as soon as you get your belly fullt/wake up -saying how great so and so is until a week or two later they are nothing but a ******* -you being moody, everything is always someone elses fault - sleeping, i have never known anyone to sleep as much -snoring, you would drown out a marching band - being aggressive towards anyone that didnt agree with you -the lies, how could i forget you couldnt lie straight in bed!!!! - never spending time with the kids -cheating, i should have left you the first time -never asking me what i wanted to do being as selfish cunt -being aa coward -being easily led -being a crook -being shallow -the lies -the lies -the hurt and pain you caused throughout our rs -the way you think that your irressitablr to women yet your with the town bike -not being able to trust you -the lies -the lies - always thinking that you could do better did i mention the town bike??? -never wanting to go out/ go anywhere yet now you cant sit in like hello wtf??? i must admit that was very theraput, reading back over that im thinking why didnt this happen sooner??? Link to post Share on other sites
Username37 Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 I won't miss: -Her indecisiveness -Her bitchiness when it comes to money -Her not listening to my problems -Her constant flirting with others -Her complaining about her image (she looks GREAT but she always says she's too fat etc.) -Her constant demand of getting physical -HER MOTHER -Her cutting my conversations off -Her laughing at me when I was trying to be serious. -Making fun of me in order to be accepted -Her dumb bitch friends. -Her being too clingy. -She was a total hypocrite -Her nagging -Hearing about her ****ed up family -Your ****ing demands. -Ignoring me -Lying to me -you constantly hanging out with other guys while you tell me NOT to hang out with other girls And most importantly -How you are easily manipulated by your friends. You can't think for yourself. You have ****ing problems bitch. Link to post Share on other sites
johnny_w Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Having read most of the replies I'm quite surprised at all the negatives there are. Well, my negatives are a bit more.. "O dear" kinda thing haha so here goes: - I won't be missing her 'I'm gonna be a B*** and be mad over something silly' attitude. - I deffinitley won't be missing her having FART on me during sex one time! OMG lmao. - I won't be missing her when she used to come to mine after walking and smelling like sweat oh gross for a girl! - I won't be missing the time when I didn't know what that 'fish' smell was HAHA I had no Idea I swear! I was like "You smell like fish have you been fishing?" and she put on an act like she didn't know ohhh shhhiiit. - I won't be missing walking past the toilet only to smell the smell of her doing something that I really don't wanna know about! - I won't be missing the time when she used to run off at parties and leave me to try and find people! So you see there were a few gross things In there, I said those things because gross things can really put people off, which helps! Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTruthChaos Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Ooooh...I like this one! I wrote a pros and cons list already, but I think I need to get it all out again - Made lots of romantic promises that he NEVER kept. Said he'd send me letters, make videos for me, he did all that for about a month or two and then suddenly I wasn't worth it anymore. - Never gave me flowers or gifts 'just because'. I'm not a material person by any means, but I like gestures like that. Didn't even think to pick me a flower and hand it to me! - Didn't believe in Valentines Day. BIG red flag!!!!! I DO celebrate it, and I was miserable that he wouldn't compromise, even just once! - Not enough sex! 16 years older than me, I give my virginity to him, and he couldn't keep it up more than once a day - flake out! - Talked to himself in an annoying way, repeated himself, nail biter...would rather bite his nails than hold my hand! - Stuck in the past, firmly 'nostalgic'. Nothing wrong with that, but our ideas on the past were vastly different. He was stuck in a rut and believes he's permantly 25yo because of it (he's 41!) - Insensitive with humour! We have different types of humour (mine=random, his=visual). Just because you find animals getting shot FUNNY, doesn't mean you should tell me - an animal lover - about it!!!! - Disorganised and messy and scattered and lazy. NOT my cup of tea! - Liar. Lied about his age! Lied when he left me for someone else! God knows what else he lied about... - Hung up on his previous ex, because she moved on so quick after he dumped her (so why should it matter?). That annoyed the S**T out of me, and I hope he's annoying the person he left me for with talk of me - Terrible at communicating. A real coward. I hate cowards (and I never use the word hate) - Snores like a farking tractor. I could hear it, and I'm a DEEP sleeper! - Never introduced me in public as his girlfriend, and didn't like a lot of public affection. RED FLAG! - Immature! - Cheated on me. - We were together more than a year and a half, and he Never said those 3 little words. UGH!!!!! His new little b*tch can have him! I won't miss any of that flakiness!!!! :bunny::bunny::bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 Her betrayal of trust and the inability to treat me as me on my own merits instead of me taking an unexpected blast of insecurity and distrust just after some intimate exchange of closeness as if I'm the guy, guys or maybe even her daddy who created this inability to trust men regardless of who we are as individuals. Link to post Share on other sites
steveshopeful Posted July 1, 2010 Share Posted July 1, 2010 I won't miss the aloofness. I won't miss her being late all the time. I won't miss the terrible bluetooth earpieces she uses and I can't hear half of what she is saying and I constantly have to repeat myself....."excuse me, pardon me". I won't miss having to pay for everything. I won't miss getting her little gifts and me never getting a single one. I won't miss her telling me that I smell after working up a sweat after sex after working all day. I won't miss her critiquing the sex either. Link to post Share on other sites
Egychick Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 (edited) Regardless of all the bad things my Ex has done to me, I still love him immensely, and have a hard time letting go, still hoping I'll hear from him again, and feeling like I'll never love another like I loved him. The majority of the time we were happy and he treated me sooo well. I try to focus on all the positive qualities that he has (there are many) and if he only lets the good wonderful qualities show...the next girl will be very lucky! But the bad things(last 4 months): 1. I won't miss him cheating on me with a prostitute, and saying she was damn hot, once he confessed to me 2. I won't miss him trying to convince me to have threesomes(of course we never did) every other day...until the point I had to ignore him every time he brought it up. 3. I won't miss him talking about my girl friends, as if they would be interested in hooking up with him. 4. I won't miss him keeping secrets from me, about who he is talking to (not saying hi to me when he signs in) or not even telling me who he was staying with when he traveled. 5. I won't miss him not appreciating me and my unconditional love...and forgiving him, no matter what he did wrong. 6. I won't miss him saying that, he wanted an open relationship...from his side only. 7. I won't miss him using the excuse of being a man from his country...to say that he is allowed to be cold-hearted and cruel...cause that's just how men are. 8. And I won't miss him continuing to watch the football match after dinner while I had to clean around him all the mess and wash all the dishes...without help...cause men from his country don't lift a finger to help their women.(I accepted it anyway...) Edited August 8, 2010 by Egychick Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTruthChaos Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 8. And I won't miss him continuing to watch the football match after dinner while I had to clean around him all the mess and wash all the dishes...without help...cause men from his country don't lift a finger to help their women.(I accepted it anyway...) could I ask what country he was from? Link to post Share on other sites
Egychick Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 Saudi Arabia Link to post Share on other sites
davisc123 Posted August 8, 2010 Share Posted August 8, 2010 - Her lack of appreciation when I gave her xmas/bday gifts I had put a lot of thought and effort into. - Her constant negative attitude towards herself and having to spend hours telling her how amazing she is to no avail - Her disparaging remarks towards me - That she would drink heavily on an empty stomach, leading to several vomiting incidents where I had to pick up the pieces In the last few months of our relationship I had to deal with her cheating and lies. God I wont miss that. Link to post Share on other sites
LoveTruthChaos Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 Saudi Arabia I see... I'm staunchly adamant that people respect me, so that's a no-no More things I won't miss about my ex: - His stupid jokes! Oh, how I won't miss having to pretend that his crap was funny! Gosh, my best friend makes me laugh to the point of an asthma attack within seconds of seeing her, and yet in a year and a half long relationship, I never laughed with him. - The fact that he HUMILIATED me by never replying to my messages because he was cheating on me. Made me feel like a possessive idiot (and I'm as far from possessive or jealous that you can get). - The fact that he's a d.i.c.k.head - Insensitive and selfish, when he thinks that he's not. Not to mention careless. Yeah, that'll do for now! Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 The fact that he never brushed his teeth at night or showered on the weekends His boring personality His laziness His inability to recognize any of his faults His piss poor parenting skills His financial irresponsibility His low self esteem His dog Link to post Share on other sites
Thierro Posted August 9, 2010 Share Posted August 9, 2010 I’d love to know what my ex would write. Also funny that, after reading your posts, I could make a nice summary of things I am guilty of doing. I actually enjoyed the things most of you will consider bad behavior. I loved how stubborn she was, how curious, her laziness, how she never brushed her teeth at night, being annoying in such a sweet way. Link to post Share on other sites
cookie2 Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 Her laziness. Her indecisiveness. Her shopping habits and general financial cluelessness. I won't have to watch any more Twilight films! Woohoo!! I don't have 12 odd socks left over when the washing is done. Not brushing teeth at night - dude that's just rank! Who'd want to cuddle up to someone with stinky breath?! Link to post Share on other sites
boosh Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 I won't miss your absolutely, stupid freakin roomate who walked all over you I won't miss your lack of affection in group settings I won't miss your inability to tell me how you truly felt Link to post Share on other sites
howlong Posted August 10, 2010 Share Posted August 10, 2010 I won't miss him bitching about work ALL the time, saying "hmm?" after every sentence he's waiting for me to agree to, being self-centered, not really seeming to care about what I have to say, and never asking about my day or what's going on with me. Link to post Share on other sites
Sonolumino Posted August 11, 2010 Share Posted August 11, 2010 I WON'T miss: Her stupidity Her inability to have an intellectual conversation, or one about anything that mattered in life Having no passion for anything in her life Her inability to understand, or even put forth an effort to appreciate my passion for piano Her inability to see past anything that wasn't affecting her right at that moment Her "cock-teasing" behavior Her inability to get physical unless everyone was out of the house for 4 hours Her irrational fear of getting caught doing anything wrong Never took any risks Wanted to stay in the same dead area the rest of her life Her inability to have an original thought, let her "friends" virtually run her life Her inability to use logic in any situation. To quote "I run my life by feeling, because feeling is normally what's right". Her inability to set any goals and stick to them Her behavior whenever anything was wrong, would completely clam up, I'd have to play the guessing game for 2 hours, sometimes days. Really can't believe I dated her. Really can't believe I love her. Link to post Share on other sites
bonpaw2008 Posted August 11, 2010 Share Posted August 11, 2010 His moodiness His poor me attitude His whining His lack of amibition His getting mad at me when I am mad His being scared of making any kind of move His meaness when fighting His insecurity and for me I DON'T MISS FACEBOOK! My addiction is cured, wooohooo! Link to post Share on other sites
shiftedblue Posted August 11, 2010 Share Posted August 11, 2010 I won't miss your lack of affection in group settings That always bothered me about my ex, too. I also won't miss they way he was so nasty to his mother in front of me Or the way he criticized me for not going running or riding my bicycle often enough Or the way he was always finding something to yell at me about Or how he would get mad at me for feeling depressed at times I really won't miss fixing/rewriting his awful papers for school His inability to hold a conversation... So many things, really... Wow I feel a little better just from writing these out Link to post Share on other sites
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