Art_Critic Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 SoulBear.. you seem to not be willing to move on.. You have to let someone go in order to get them back and you haven't let her go.. Stop the madness and go out and find another girl to date.. and fer gawds sake stop thinking you are getting back together.. you're not.. Even if she finds that the other guy isn't for her she has already found that you are not for her.. Why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you ??.. so you think she just has some kind of relationship amnesia and it will all wear off ? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 so you think she just has some kind of relationship amnesia and it will all wear off ?I must admit this was pretty funny! Im not thinking we will get back together, but we have been through enough for me to accept the fact that she is probably not coming back/ she might do. I just dont want to completely disregards the idea. Nothing is ever set is stone, and the future has not yet been written. She is messed up right now, seriously, she is on one big ego airy fairy head trip and is not herself. shes is lost lost lost. Once her party faze wears off and she is rejected by her crush, things will start to show more in perspective for her. At this point i dont even know if I would take her back righ away if that is what she chose, she has her own free will, and that dictates either way. One thing is for sure, and thats that I will know for sure whats happening in a few weeks. I have excepted the fact that i need to let her go and move on, but I feel it would be a shame not to try and work things out if we had the oportunity... Link to post Share on other sites
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Hahahahahahaha...you made my day Soulbear. Laughed so hard after a long time. But as much as I appreciate your humour, must tell you that you being naive. Art critic and so many others are right...let her go. A person who leaves you for another guy...then gets kicked out there...and then comes crying back..is not the kind you would want to spend your life with. And all this is just hypothetical anyway...she isn't probably going to come back at all...if not for the lack of love then surely for pride's sake, Aries or not. Hit the Rose Street pubs and date around...no dearth of girls in Britain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 I would love to hit the rose st pubs, but unfortunatly my ex is there with all our mates right now....probably having a ball I might add. I think im going to move away from Scotland.... I get what you guys are saying, and notalone, your right, I have told myself this many times already today and yeasterday- A person who leaves you for another guy...then gets kicked out there...and then comes crying back..is not the kind you would want to spend your life with. she isn't probably going to come back at all...if not for the lack of love then surely for pride's sake, Aries or not. Acceptance is Bliss, resistance is Futile......lather, rinse, repeat. notalone- hit me up on this sophia.lp @ googlemail.com Yes, its a fake name email so i can make new buddies on here without my ex finding me!.There is also a funny story behind it too Link to post Share on other sites
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Move away from Scotland...wow..."Lochaber no more"...drastic! You are gonna miss the weather. Why does she get to have fun with your mates and you sit at home typing up a storm on LS??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 LOL Lochaber no more indeed! Not really drastic, ive moved continent 5 times already in the last 8 years! Thinking about Wales or London...hmmm I will never miss the weather. I will miss the tatties and the milk tho Why does she get to have fun? Thats a good question, but as we both know, while she has been having fun and not growing, I have been soul searching and growing She is about to get a big shock!! I think I come out on top of this one! Link to post Share on other sites
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Aaahh...the old London town. Why not south of france or australia while you are at it?? Would be a nice change from the unending greyness of this country. What I meant was that if you have common friends...as you said, "my ex is there with all our mates right now"...then why don't you go out with them too...or were they her friends primarily? Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 soul, soul, soul, soul, soul!!!! It seems you have taken 1 step forward and 2 back.... You started to justify your ex's actions by how messed up she is and her star sign, i told myself it was my ex's depression, it was her changed of diet, her past, her childhood!! it wasn't it was just lack of love! You HAVE to rule out re-concilliation to be able to move on, she DOES NOT WANT YOU, repeat it, its very true and she's shown this! It's not about coming out on top, or who is happier, she is irrelevant in your life as she CHOSE to leave it and forget about you! I doubt she's fretting about who's going to come out on top, to be honest she just doesn't give a crap anymore! it's just the honest truth, she left you for her crush, she would only have maybe came back if SHE realised it wasnt greener, but she didnt, she's the one who got rejected ( not that it is any of your business anymore) finding out things like this is only going to hold you back i realise this now! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 Hey Mig It seems you have taken 1 step forward and 2 back.... 2 steps fwd, 1 step back! she would only have maybe came back if SHE realised it wasnt greener, but she didnt, she's the one who got rejected ( not that it is any of your business anymore) She doesnt know yet....lol Thats how I know that she doenst know its greener...as my sig says...there is a big smelly turd, and she is about to step in it! I know this is not the way I should see it, I know I should just move on and forget about her, but to be honest, I dont quite think I have had my heart broken enough yet. Maybe if she were to tell me to never speak to her again, then I would lose ALL hope for the future, but as it stands, she has been on a 'high' for a while. Im not expecting anything to happen, but if 2 months down the line she asked for another shot, yes, i might consider it. If I have not met someone else and dont see her like that anymore...who knows..i could wake up tomorow and say 'I have had enough'... At the end of the day, guys, I still love this girl. Even after what she has done, but I know her well enough to know that her head is in a pickle right now. She doesnt know what she wants or where she is going. As it stand she DOES NOT want me, and she does NOT WANT to go anywhere with me. I accept that. Notalone- The reason I want to stay in the uk, and please dont laugh at me...I cant drink the milk from other countries!! There is just something about these cows that makes their milk so....so exquisit...so cow like....cant explain...i just love the milk. The friends were our firends. I just feel like i have been muscled out for the time being. It doesnt bother me to much, admitadly, its a little annoying. But hey.... Link to post Share on other sites
nolanola Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Soul Bear, I get you. My ex has done some really rotten things and I still care about him. Even though I am trying like crazy to move on (16 days NC), I still think of him and deep down wonder if we could reconnect in the future. Don't get down on yourself for this. Your heart wants what it wants. I am a firm believer that you should never say never about anything and keep looking forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 i still love my ex, course i do, otherwise i wouldn't be here moaning, i 'thought' i knew her well enough too and she is going through changes, but she decided to change without you. you defo will get to breaking point and see things how i do! p.s our milks is the best i always found this! and i'm moving to london, heading down for more interviews tomorrow mate! get involved Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 Im sure I will get to breaking point...maybe after another GLASS OF MILK!!.... When the time has come to totally let go of all hope, I will know when it is.. For now, all I can do is continue to be the best me I can be. Mig's right tho, maybe she has already changed? We have not really had a decent conversation since 5 days after the incident... Im getting this mad urge to break NC right now..... Link to post Share on other sites
Miguelrg Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 i did so much with my ex, lived with her here, in oz, went to paris, went to london, rome, talked about marriage, kids, she was amazin beautiful caring. Then KABOOM she turns into a heartless bitch who doesnt give a crap.... crazy how you think you know someobody and then...... they rip your heart out, stamp on it, then continue to until you cant take anymore! get to london and change your life around! Link to post Share on other sites
notalone Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 Ehh...who are we kidding? Most of us here are still in love with our exes, otherwise we wouldn't be here in the first place. I personally, would love an apology from my ex right now. But if he comes down on his knees and bangs my door down asking for another chance (which he won't)...maybe I'll be stupid enough to consider that. But something tells me that it won't be the same. So Soul, it's not wrong that you are keeping your options open. Never know what the future holds. Maybe when she comes back you wouldn't give a damn. That would be fitting. And that's how it mostly happens. Yes..must agree with you..no milk like British cows. lol. London would be nice for a move, if nothing else, you will have a bigger city to roam around broken-hearted. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 this could be a calling!!....maybe I should just get my arse down there and start a fresh.. Maybe when she comes back you wouldn't give a damn. That would be fitting. LOL that would be peeerfect. If I could find a woman more beautiful inside and out and have that same soulful connection with them...then I might just be able to say no to my ex. I dont know, my ex was an amazing singer and a model, spiritual, a hint of hippy, and at other times 'one of the lads' kind of things... Im an entrepreneur and a musician, used to model...blah blah blah. She has set the bar pretty high.... This has given me an idea for a new thread!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Jdw_Icequeen Posted May 27, 2009 Share Posted May 27, 2009 As the world turns... A few days ago I still wanted my ex back.. He WAS my drug of choice. Then I saw the future with him. Always looking over his shoulder waiting for the next girl to come along. NEVER trusting him. Constantly doubting myself and wondering if there was a better life out there for me. Sucking CR*P and feelin like an @SS for taking him back. Ultimatly being hurt again. I know that would be the future. So I completley understand the addictions. The possible hope of someday reconciling. MAYBE someday they will change? Dunno my esp is on the fritz.. We all just want to wake up and the pain of them to be gone. Soul Bear I know your torn. You say to yourself. If were not ment to be together please just remove her from my thoughts and let me move on. Then, that hope you can't seem to kill that you might get back together. You don't seem to want to kill it. You are very intelligent. You know what your risking. If you "REALLY" want somthing you go for it, life is a risk. You know you stand a very high chance of being hurt again. But your right nothing is set in stone. "ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN"!! You have no reason to feel bad for what you want. One day at a time do what you have to do! I hope that even if you don't get your ex back. That you stay positive!! Because I think your awesome!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 27, 2009 Author Share Posted May 27, 2009 Thankyou Iceqweem! That was a really thoughtfiull and sweet message You understand me As far as your situation goes, I am still a firm believer that cheating is out of the question. Big no no. Once that happens they are toast. You seem to be on the same thought and for that I take my litteral hat off to you. You know you stand a very high chance of being hurt again. Not only do I know this but I half hope I do. Tearing myself in 2 and meshing them together as one of the same with different outcomes I know will serve me well in my future and IS making me stronger. Pain is good, without pain we dont GROW or Learn. PAIN=GROWTH PAIN+GROWTH= The Best You. I can only get stronger from it if it doesnt happen, or if it does. I will be prepared for every outcome with a cool head on my shoulders and ready to move fwd and up whether it be on my own, someone new, or with my ex. Its hard to explain, but you quite clearly hit the nail on the head. I have always been a positive person, aint no person gonna keep me down!! Because I think your awesome!! -Well that really put a smile on my face I think your awsome too! Stay positive, everythings happening as it should be. Be excited about where the next road is going.... SB If you or anyone else (Mig! send me some mail and i might come down to L) I get along with wants to email me, please feel free to do so. My 'fake' email is sophia.lpp @ googlemail. com Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 What a strange day........ Feels like something is brewing.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 So I am going to write my ex a letter. Not an email, or a phone call or a txt.... This will be my next attempt at letting her know how much she means to me and how I have changed for the better through this breakup, what I have learned about myself and our beautiful relationship. If anyone has any ideas of what and what not to say, I would be most appreciative. Dont tell me not to it, Im doing this for me Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 So please, someone out there must have a rough idea of what is good and bad. What it was you wish you had heard from your ex. Or even what it was in a letter that made you NOT want them back. I know you are out there, I have seen a few threads with such details on them, but alas, I cant find them anymore.... Will you guys please help me? Even if it falls through, and falls of blind eyes, I will know that I have tried. Im a fighter, and until my blood of life I see before me, spilt on the ground from the final blow of her sword, with no strength left in me, I will continue to fight for the Love I believe in. Dont worry about my healing, dont worry about anything. I will survive no matter what. I am asking sincerely for some guidance here on how I go about this. Even the most synical of you, I know have some ideas, and if you would share with me, I would be forever greatful. Link to post Share on other sites
notalone Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 How about writing this... I am living a pathetic life without you..I miss you...I love you...I'll do anything you ask...just come back to me...you are my God. Do I seem sarcastic? :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 Yes you do But you crack me up!! I am living a strong life without her, I am far from pathetic, I will not do anything she asks, and she is not my god! But she is my Love, and for that I am greatfull. Do I seem sincere? I am not expecting a positive nor a negative outcome. I am not expecting a reply. I am simply being. I have grown another branch on my tree!! Link to post Share on other sites
drummerprince81 Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 SB - um...it really all depends on what you say...coz I thought you said quite a lot in the last text message you sent her...whatever you do, do NOT put anything negative in there just in case she comes flying back. And perhaps you could mention the text message you sent, just to show that you have so much to say than what you can fit in a text message. If you really want to do it and feel like you have nothing to lose, then I don't see the harm, especially if you are expecting a negative response initially. Anything positive is a bonus yeah? I'm not one to preach though. I'm thinking of sending a text tonight to my ex, just to tell her that I can't believe its been almost 3 months and that I wish things were different. I'm really hurting today. Mainly coz I know there will never be anyone like her again, and that we really were perfect for each other but life, and people intervene and thats what ***** me off the most. Everyone is saying she wasn't the one for me, but she is, and that everything will be alright, but it won't be. Not without her. And so I still keep on blaming myself. I want to send flowers, or give her something nostalgic, or do something crazy. But I think I have left it too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Soul Bear Posted May 28, 2009 Author Share Posted May 28, 2009 DP She never got the sms. it came back undelivered! phew.....!! my letter is very positive....nothing negative in there at all. pretty poetic, and saying i know the mistakes, how i feel about her/us etc. all++++ the sms was angry and negative, thank god she didnt get it!! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 So I am going to write my ex a letter. Not an email, or a phone call or a txt.... This will be my next attempt at letting her know how much she means to me and how I have changed for the better through this breakup, what I have learned about myself and our beautiful relationship. If anyone has any ideas of what and what not to say, I would be most appreciative. Dont tell me not to it, Im doing this for me OMFG... WTF ? Dude... WTF ?... Talk about putting the gun to your head and pulling the trigger... she will have ZERO respect for you after this letter.. Have you not read the posters on this thread ? Link to post Share on other sites
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