brock9911 Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 i never imagined not being with my ex. we were together for almost 8 years b4 we broke up. she had cheated on me in the past, and all from what i understand was when she was heavily drunk. irrelevant but i wanted it to forgive her in my eyes. i had a guard up but i was trying to forgive. i guess her own guilt was eating away at her and she kept accusing me of cheating meanwhile i never did anything. she than saw pictures of me with this girl and 3 other guys. apparently that ment i was cheating. well now she hasnt contacted me in about 5 days and the realization that the break up is serious sucks. its been a while since iv been single, and its scary. no one by your side or to come home to. to eat with. to laugh with. to watch a movie with. and all through my mind i keep thinking, will i find someone as smart, or pretty or that has the same likes as i do. not only will i be able to find a person, but will anyone find me interesting and attractive the way she did. ugh life sux Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 and all through my mind i keep thinking, will i find someone as smart, or pretty or that has the same likes as i do. not only will i be able to find a person, but will anyone find me interesting and attractive the way she did. I have some great news for you!!!! YES, YOU WILL!! Not only that but she'll be smarter, prettier and most importantly...not cheat on you. Link to post Share on other sites
darksky Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Wow sounds pretty similar to how im feeling right now.. but yep you sure will find all that again as I know I will. I felt this way when my first gf finished with me but guess what? Six months later I found another who was equally as good. Although that has now ended too . Thing to bear in mind is that your not alone and you need to keep your confidence up and rest easy knowing that one day, sooner or later, you'll be happy with a special someone. In my opinion your better off without that cheating ex. My ex cheated on me too but now im starting to heal I wondered what the hell I even saw in her, and I think in time you will feel like that too. All the best Link to post Share on other sites
Sibyl Vane Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Without a doubt, you are better off. The most important part of her character is that you cannot trust her. Interesting and attractive are all well and good but settling for a cheater? Come on, you can and will do better than that. Link to post Share on other sites
trueblue72ny Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 its going to be a hard road to recovery for sure, but once you are past things you will wonder why you ever subjected yourself to someone who cheated on you. she left before, she left now, and she will leave again if you get back together. cut your losses now and ditch her. because past behavior is more or less what you can expect in the future. people rarely change. thats just my two cents. Link to post Share on other sites
Author brock9911 Posted May 22, 2009 Author Share Posted May 22, 2009 thanx for all the insite. its just still new in my mind. she actually sent me a message on how she loves me, always did and always will she just cant sit around and let me self destruct. she said she kept all of our photos, still wears the jewelry i bought her still has salt n pepper shakers we stole from a resturaunt (inside thing). i told her to burn the photos, sell the rings, and dump the salt n pepper cuz im sick of the lies, shadyness and sneaking. depp in my mind i dont want to say these things but its all anger and frustration Link to post Share on other sites
iBelieve In Symmetry Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 depp in my mind i dont want to say these things but its all anger and frustration No, I don't believe it's all anger and frustration. I believe deep down you really do feel these things. Deep down you may not want to actually say them because you're afraid it'll actually happen. I think this because I went through this. I would tell her I would want to break up and I can't do this, and then I would get scared and tell myself I didn't mean those things, but really... I did. It's the fear that holds us back. And the most painful part is realizing that you really can't be peacefully happy with that person, ever. Because of everything they've done, everything they've said. It's impossible to go back to how things were before all the sh*t happened, and that's the hardest part to accept. You may not even feel this stuff to this extent yet, but when you do PLEASE don't forget you're not alone. Link to post Share on other sites
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