an isue of trust

[Goose Hammond]

How do folks

I seem to have a problem, one I can not talk to my friends about nor can I ask advice, and I need some input seeing how I can not figure this out my self. I will try to keep this short so not to bore any one.

I am 35 and my girlfriend who I have lived with for almost a year is 29. We have had a rough year, finances and emotionaly. Yet we have never had an isue of trust come up.She has proved her loyalty time and time agian. When I lost my biz she took care of me, when I got deathly Ill and refused to go to the hospital , she took care of me. In recent times I have become aware of what a trully good woman she is and her commitment to me.

I have opened up to her , we have learned to communicate and our relationship has become a wounderfull thing. I have found a love that I some how did not see before and am greatfull i saw it before it was to late.

Hedre is the problem, a few weeks ago she went to her fathers for a get to gether, I opted to spend the weekend alone with my kids. She had a bit to much to drink there and went of to her fathers room to sleep it off. Well when she awoke wade was next to her(a real SOB snake in the grass) They were fully dressed and nothing happened. Yet I found this out from an outside source. when confronted her she told me about it, she apologized and swore nothing had happened, she even swore on her sons very life, this is something I have never heard her say before. I do think she is telling the truth, our relationship survived alot and has never been better yet I can not get this image out of my mind. I have become insecure wich is something new to me.

I do not know what to do about this. My mind runs wild yet she swears to me not a kiss, not a hug not nothing. He simply snuck next to her while sleeping and laid down next to her. I do not now how to handel this, I do not know what to do. Am I a fool or is it simply nothing she could do and the truth has been told. I have been in bad spots that where hard to explain.Thanks for any advice you have to offer as I seem to be going nuts.

[heather&theboyz]

It sounds like this woman is pretty sincere. I know for a lot of people it's impossible to believe that any two people could sleep in the same bed without something happening but it really can, I speak from experience. I've woken up to people I don't even know in the morning after house parties (back in the day when I was young enough to go to those) but nothing ever happened, it was more an issue of someone was looking for a comfortable place to sleep...

 

Now, this guy being a snake in the grass is a bonus aggravation but the question isn't do you trust him, it's do you trust her?

 

But being pessimistic I typically have to look at facts and I just can't imagine her choosing her father's bedroom to go have some rendevous with a loser. I'm sure that the only reason she didn't come home and tell you about it immediately was because she knew you would freak out and she didn't want to upset you considering that it really was a non-event.

 

You have to trust your instincts on this one, really. No one can tell you what you believe. I just wanted you to hear from a woman who has been in a similar situation that these things can happen and it doesn't automatically follow that because he slept next to her he slept with her.