9Lives Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Alright LS family Alot of us have experience some of the most tragic times in our lives dealing with mm. It is time for the 30-day Treat Challenge Here how it goes For the next 30 days you have to do something to make yourself happy and feel good. the rules are *You have to have a calender and put what you did for yourself on the calender. *You have to see the calender everyday visible as a reminder of what you have done, if you have to use codes..do so. *It doesnt have to be expensive. *It has be all about you *It has to make you happy *It has to make you feel good *the x cant have anything to do with it It has to be ALL ABOUT YOU. Warning Now if you are dealing with your mm still ....please dont play. This is for the women who have made the hard, brave, challenging DECISION to let it go. We need to get the feelings of good happening in our lives daily cause Lord knows the bad thoughts will come in their own. This is for the women who have made a choice to continue on and need to start loving themselves again.... start caring more about themselves again...start feeling good about themselves again....start figuring out what makes them happy again It is about just you. Like today for me *Im going to have some of my favorite ice cream with hot fudge and nuts on top. I cant wait!!! Who's wants to play? and what are you going to do. It might be good to share ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
me003 Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Thats a great idea. We all need a little happy time in our lives. I will try it and see where it takes me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 25, 2009 Author Share Posted May 25, 2009 Thats a great idea. We all need a little happy time in our lives. I will try it and see where it takes me. Okay, what are you going to do today? Link to post Share on other sites
me003 Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Okay, what are you going to do today? Go a a bookstore, sit there for hours, read a few chapters and take it home. Or go out for sushi... haven't decided Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 25, 2009 Author Share Posted May 25, 2009 Go a a bookstore, sit there for hours, read a few chapters and take it home. Or go out for sushi... haven't decided Okay that will do...Im going to meet with my fun mexican friend who is totally bananas and we are going to go get ice cream. he is so much fun but is a big girl chaser. Not a woman chaser cause a real woman wouldnt have him Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 25, 2009 Author Share Posted May 25, 2009 also im going to get me some tall sexy red high heels!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Soaked Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 i think this is a great idea!!! I went out of the town walking around with friends, took whole bunch pictures act silly with friends, bought myself 2 new pretty dresses, and had the great dinner with friends. (still can taste the yummy food in my mouth!) Today I slept in late, going to take easy and read a book! Link to post Share on other sites
Stepone Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Am with you girls! Have had such an absolutely miserable day. Am on day 17 NC now and suddenly seem to have taken a huge leap backwards today! I'm going to have a big mug of hot chocolate before I go to bed and escape into some girly trashy novel! And give some thought to about how I am going to treat myself tomorrow......... Link to post Share on other sites
dobler33 Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 oooh oooh oooh i love it! ok, this doesn't sound even remotely self-caring, but bear with me: i'm going to do the laundry and clean the house. no, seriously. i'm going to reclaim my space and go to bed in clean sheets and a clean nightie tonight. also i'm about to start a loaf of homemade bread rising. and tomorrow night i'm going to go out for drinks with a fantastic guy friend who has stood by me throughout this whole painful ordeal. last time i saw him about 3 weeks ago he said he'd eat my hat if MM didn't come crawling back. well, i'm still alive, even though MM didn't come crawling back, and i'm feeling so much stronger and more sane that i'm going to bring that hat and a bottle of ketchup for him to help it down. can't think of anything yet for wednesday.... any ideas? that DON'T cost money? Link to post Share on other sites
babydreamer Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 I'm going to the park and paint all that is on my mind. I'm not an artist... but what the hay Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 Am with you girls! Have had such an absolutely miserable day. Am on day 17 NC now and suddenly seem to have taken a huge leap backwards today! I'm going to have a big mug of hot chocolate before I go to bed and escape into some girly trashy novel! And give some thought to about how I am going to treat myself tomorrow......... There you go girl!!! Make a extra effort on YOU. You need it!!! You need it!!! You need it!!! dont forget your calendar. Hot chocolate today ???? tomorrow... spend time thinking about it..that is what I am doing right now. I am waiting to hear what you did. Tomorrow I am going to go buy some chalk from walmart and draw something on the ground in my backyard or find a puzzle I want to put together or buy a plant I like and name it babygirl. I will let you know what I do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 i think this is a great idea!!! I went out of the town walking around with friends, took whole bunch pictures act silly with friends, bought myself 2 new pretty dresses, and had the great dinner with friends. (still can taste the yummy food in my mouth!) Today I slept in late, going to take easy and read a book! Super. You had a great time. What are you going to do tomorrow? Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 Go a a bookstore, sit there for hours, read a few chapters and take it home. Or go out for sushi... haven't decided Me? did you treat you right today? I need to know Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 oooh oooh oooh i love it! ok, this doesn't sound even remotely self-caring, but bear with me: i'm going to do the laundry and clean the house. no, seriously. i'm going to reclaim my space and go to bed in clean sheets and a clean nightie tonight. also i'm about to start a loaf of homemade bread rising. and tomorrow night i'm going to go out for drinks with a fantastic guy friend who has stood by me throughout this whole painful ordeal. last time i saw him about 3 weeks ago he said he'd eat my hat if MM didn't come crawling back. well, i'm still alive, even though MM didn't come crawling back, and i'm feeling so much stronger and more sane that i'm going to bring that hat and a bottle of ketchup for him to help it down. can't think of anything yet for wednesday.... any ideas? that DON'T cost money? Dobler,this is great. Remember ....IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU. Its the Dobler show now. So if cleaning the house made you feel good today..that is what you need to do. Im proud of you for playing along. You will feel better for doing yourself right Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 26, 2009 Author Share Posted May 26, 2009 I'm going to the park and paint all that is on my mind. I'm not an artist... but what the hay how did it go? Link to post Share on other sites
Soaked Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Work! I don't know yet! Maybe award myself with another delicious chocolate I got! Or if I can get out of work early, I'll take a walk by the lake. Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 I am still dealing with the MM but I have my list started just in case. I'm going to really try hard to leave food out of it (except for red wine and chocolate of course). Going to the gym, going for walks, fix my bike, and ride it, or just go buy a new one, go camping! HeII I am going to do all that WHILE dealing with the MM while he deals with what to do with his life. Link to post Share on other sites
Soaked Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 Just wonder how's everyone doing? Well, I didn't do anything directly to give myself a treat, but I got a new project at work, which is completely new to me and involve with a lot of researching/learning. But it makes me feel good and excited! Since it'll benefit to my career so I guess it's a indirect treat myself right?! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 30, 2009 Author Share Posted May 30, 2009 Just wonder how's everyone doing? Well, I didn't do anything directly to give myself a treat, but I got a new project at work, which is completely new to me and involve with a lot of researching/learning. But it makes me feel good and excited! Since it'll benefit to my career so I guess it's a indirect treat myself right?! :laugh: things have been going really well. I have stayed true to myself every day and it is really working. Monday - drop top corvette ride Tuesday - Watch the exciting game with strangers and friend at restuar Wedndesay - Watch exciting game and had a great salad Thursday - Went out to eat with my daughter and her friend/brought a new shirt Friday - At the bar haning out with friends Saturday- (today) -Go give my grandmother a gift for now. It has really been good reconnecting with myself. I see that I can enjoy myself when I TRY to make myself happy. It is not selfish, it is necessary. I have saved myself alot of misery by doing it. I still have my box to share my thoughts with him where I write what I need to say and put it in the box. This allows me to free my mind. I also do my remind myself that we are not gettin back together. I really want to give up hope. It could happen but I really want to give up hope for my own self. I want to let life happen as it will Link to post Share on other sites
dobler33 Posted May 30, 2009 Share Posted May 30, 2009 hmmmm, let's see. yesterday i had an interview for a fantastic job that i REALLY want and did quite well, i thought. not necessarily on the same plane as a mani/pedi but made me feel good. day before i went to the salon that a girlfriend of mine runs and got a free bikini wax. also not particularly pleasant in the moment but definitely not something i usually give myself the time to do. wednesday i made some bread. can't remember farther than that.... today i'm going to go look for a new pair of pants because after the emotional trauma of the affair all my clothes are huge on me. and tomorrow i'm going to go to church with a friend, even though i'm an atheist - i like to go for the raucus gospel music and the crazily diverse crowd and the crying and the clapping and the hugging. the pastor likes to welcome the atheists in the fold, which makes me feel included and cared about. they pass out fans and kleenex before the sermon starts in the sure knowledge that people are going to weep and sweat all over each other in their rapture. i'm sure it would be even better if i believed in god, but i believe in human love and connection, and there's certainly a whole lotta that going on on a sunday morning at this church. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 hmmmm, let's see. yesterday i had an interview for a fantastic job that i REALLY want and did quite well, i thought. not necessarily on the same plane as a mani/pedi but made me feel good. day before i went to the salon that a girlfriend of mine runs and got a free bikini wax. also not particularly pleasant in the moment but definitely not something i usually give myself the time to do. wednesday i made some bread. can't remember farther than that.... today i'm going to go look for a new pair of pants because after the emotional trauma of the affair all my clothes are huge on me. and tomorrow i'm going to go to church with a friend, even though i'm an atheist - i like to go for the raucus gospel music and the crazily diverse crowd and the crying and the clapping and the hugging. the pastor likes to welcome the atheists in the fold, which makes me feel included and cared about. they pass out fans and kleenex before the sermon starts in the sure knowledge that people are going to weep and sweat all over each other in their rapture. i'm sure it would be even better if i believed in god, but i believe in human love and connection, and there's certainly a whole lotta that going on on a sunday morning at this church. well it sounds like you are really getting out there. I am glad you are really giving it a chance. It really has been working for me. Today - I went to my friends son birthday party. His family is mexican and they had a pinoda and 3 of those blow up jumping things for the kids. I had a great time. He is crazy so we have a really good time. then I went grocery shopping. Tomorrow - I start back working out and will be in church. God is good. You should give Him a chance. He is the best!!! Came up with a really good plan for the week. Thursday - shopping for the weekend clothes Friday/Saturday - fun with friends, family, or whatever Saturday- Grocery shop for the week. The rest of the week depends. Link to post Share on other sites
Land Shark Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 Neun Lieben. Link to post Share on other sites
dobler33 Posted May 31, 2009 Share Posted May 31, 2009 totally failed in finding new pants: i appear to be exactly between a 6 and a 4 and cannot fit into either. i am some kind of mutant. luckily, though, by the time i get around to looking again i will probably have gained all the weight back, so whatevs. eating is better than emotional anorexia, so if not wanting to die increases my bahookie then so be it. as for god, i have to put myself front and center with this and say that i rather envy your ability to believe. it has just never worked for me. but i am wildly faithful about the amazing things we humans are capable of, especially when we are encouraged to love and accept one another. this is one thing that atheism just cannot compete with. there just aren't any atheist love fests like the church i'm going to tomorrow. i'm grateful that the basic precept of the sect is unwavering acceptance of anyone and anything, regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic standing or religious belief/disbelief. this particular church is at this point in its history more of a social service institution in my city than a church - they run clinics and mental health facilities and food banks and freakin free yoga and meditation classes, fer sh*t's sake. and i put this down to yet another example of how beatifically and unmitigatedly loving we can be to one another if we are given the chance, if we are allowed to interact with each other without labels and stereotypes and the rock-solid defenses of religio-political definitions. to me it's the psyche, to the gay man with full-blown AIDS to my right or the homeless recovering crack-addict to my left it might be jesus. it's all cool in my book, as long as we can all love each other. ai dios. sorry about that. i'll keep my rants to a dull roar from now on. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 9Lives Posted May 31, 2009 Author Share Posted May 31, 2009 totally failed in finding new pants: i appear to be exactly between a 6 and a 4 and cannot fit into either. i am some kind of mutant. luckily, though, by the time i get around to looking again i will probably have gained all the weight back, so whatevs. eating is better than emotional anorexia, so if not wanting to die increases my bahookie then so be it. as for god, i have to put myself front and center with this and say that i rather envy your ability to believe. it has just never worked for me. but i am wildly faithful about the amazing things we humans are capable of, especially when we are encouraged to love and accept one another. this is one thing that atheism just cannot compete with. there just aren't any atheist love fests like the church i'm going to tomorrow. i'm grateful that the basic precept of the sect is unwavering acceptance of anyone and anything, regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, socio-economic standing or religious belief/disbelief. this particular church is at this point in its history more of a social service institution in my city than a church - they run clinics and mental health facilities and food banks and freakin free yoga and meditation classes, fer sh*t's sake. and i put this down to yet another example of how beatifically and unmitigatedly loving we can be to one another if we are given the chance, if we are allowed to interact with each other without labels and stereotypes and the rock-solid defenses of religio-political definitions. to me it's the psyche, to the gay man with full-blown AIDS to my right or the homeless recovering crack-addict to my left it might be jesus. it's all cool in my book, as long as we can all love each other. ai dios. sorry about that. i'll keep my rants to a dull roar from now on. dobber33...i did not understand anything you said. What does this have to do with the topic dear? Link to post Share on other sites
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