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its been about 1 1/2 week since an 8 year relationship was ended. after a note of how she still loves me and doesnt want this to happen, and how she still has all of the memorabilia from all the things we've done and i told her to sell the jewelry, burn the photos and get rid of our memories cuz im done with her lies, shadyness, and sneakyness. well i havent heard anything in the last 5 days and its scary to come to realization that the end is here, we're no more. its been a long time since i was single. the thought of starting over, learning to trust someone again, opening up, and basically going through finding another person sux. well at least it was sunny by me 4 the weekend, thats all i had going 4 me.

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That's a long time to be with someone. My only advice is the old adage "Time Heals All Wounds". And when you meet someone you'll have to remember everyone is different and try not to be jaded (challenging, I know). Go out have fun and take breaks from relationships until your head clears. Feel better soon....

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thanx it just sux being the one that the fingers being pointed at when i didnt do anything wrong. but f it, how are the broken ones ever right.

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Endings give way to new beginnings...

 

While there isn't much history mentioned in your post (not sure if you've posted more in a different thread) it would seem that you are not so lost really. You are done with the lies, shadiness, and sneakiness. It's great to recognize that you are ready to move beyond that kind of behaviour. It's something you will not miss - right? Living with deception is painful so you will not have that kind of torchure anymore. I'm sure you can come up with a few more things that you will not be sad to see go with this relationship.

 

As to moving on... yea, it will be a little challenging at first. Right now, you need to focus on yourself. Have some reflection time to evaluate your role in the relationship that is ending - see where you might have done some thing differently - see what you have learned from the time you shared with her.

 

I wouldn't try to find someone right away, but do enjoy time with friends, maybe start something new that you've always wanted to try, count on your family if you can. LS is a great place for support, so write here when you need some extra support. Once you've done some healing, a new and wonderful woman will come into your life and you will rejoyce at leaving the heartache in your past.

 

You are on the right path... not lost at all.

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I feel the same way as you man. For some reason us guys don't like the idea of finding and getting to know someone knew while girls seem to love the excitement of it. It also alot tougher for us because we have to make the first move while they sit around and get hit on constantly. I hate the idea of going out tonight and trying to find someone who I actually want to date and wants to date me.

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I feel the same way as you man. For some reason us guys don't like the idea of finding and getting to know someone knew while girls seem to love the excitement of it. It also alot tougher for us because we have to make the first move while they sit around and get hit on constantly. I hate the idea of going out tonight and trying to find someone who I actually want to date and wants to date me.

 

That's BS..... I lost a 3 year relationship with someone I know despite difficult times had something to offer me. Since him I go on internet dates wondering if he'll slip something in my drink, have all his teeth when he smiles or if he's gained 100 pounds. I gave up blind dates after that concern. And the guys that do hit on me outside of that may be 20 plus years, unemployed fresh out of jail time thinking somehow I might want that, married or who knows what. While men have the brunt of making the first move much of the time, we still have to worry about your genuiness and intentions. Whether you care about us at all or just need something to do with your willy for the moment enough to cheat on your wife, slip us a roofie or god knows what. Women are crazy and so are men.

 

Sorry, I had to sound off there it is not easy for either male or female to be looking for someone new. It's hard for anyone. Just keep your chin up!

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thanx all. its been a rough weekend n couple of weeks. she is now contacting me adn sending me messages saying how i never made an attempt to contact her or to fix things. she kicked me out, she dumped me, and she said she would file harrasment charges if i continued to talk to her. um yeah so how am i supposed to contact her. n now that a few of my friends are back from college, iv been hanging out with this girl. havent done anything at all, but now my ex is accusing me of having a new gf. that i never loved her. she says that she hopes when she smiles itll remind me of her. # 1 we're not dating. but if i was what is it any of her business.to tell the truth i do kinda like the girl, but i think its just that void of my ex thats being filled. so we're gonna keep it a friendship. i dont need to hurt her because of my past and she doesnt need to hurt me cuz she'll be away at college and we know how that all works.

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I feel the same way as you man. For some reason us guys don't like the idea of finding and getting to know someone knew while girls seem to love the excitement of it. It also alot tougher for us because we have to make the first move while they sit around and get hit on constantly. I hate the idea of going out tonight and trying to find someone who I actually want to date and wants to date me.

 

its just as daunting for us girls

its hardly exciting when your hearts broken and a future youd planned is gone...

takes some adjusting to

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wow. i understand where your coming from, but girls and men alike are whores. not all of them, but guys r just a much sluts. i have plenty of friends that cant fathom being in a relationship. they have no emotional attachments and they prefer to hook up and start all over with another girl/guy the next day. than theres the girl/guy who would rather the relationship than a hook up. im that person. but i guess im also a sap cuz i get into situations where my heart gets broken all the time. maybe i just havent found the one yet.

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It sucks I know one day I'll have to open and trust again if I want another relationhip but foe right now I'm happy just being with myself don't have to worry about new heartbreak.

 

I find the task of meeting someone and learning about them yawn. I guess that's why I miss my ex I knew everything about her

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